Exercise and libido???
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chefkate
Cathlete
Chiming in a little late on this....
I've been reading all of this w/ great interest. I have a VERY low libido. I workout 6 days a week, have a very stressful job that I do from home (DH and I are self-employed), and am a SAHM of 2 young girls. I have lots of energy in the daytime, but by the time I get the girls to bed, workout for an hour, do paperwork for a couple hours, it's midnight. I start my day at 5. When you go to bed and know you only have 5 hours to sleep, an orgasm is really not that important.
I really agree on what Nancy said about GET TO BED EARLY! Unfortunatley, where we are it's much easier said than done. It's been nice to read that others are going thru this too.
I've been reading all of this w/ great interest. I have a VERY low libido. I workout 6 days a week, have a very stressful job that I do from home (DH and I are self-employed), and am a SAHM of 2 young girls. I have lots of energy in the daytime, but by the time I get the girls to bed, workout for an hour, do paperwork for a couple hours, it's midnight. I start my day at 5. When you go to bed and know you only have 5 hours to sleep, an orgasm is really not that important.
I really agree on what Nancy said about GET TO BED EARLY! Unfortunatley, where we are it's much easier said than done. It's been nice to read that others are going thru this too.
run_to_step
Cathlete
I just wanted to add that I am a newlywed at 23, and found that my libido dropped when i started on the pill. It is so frustrating!
Annette Bethel
Honey chile you are not alone about sex. I am just too tired plus I think sex in marriage is just too overated. People are just too tired to have sex. And once you get settle in a routine as stats show, that couples are not having as much sex. No you are not alone in this.
Honey chile you are not alone about sex. I am just too tired plus I think sex in marriage is just too overated. People are just too tired to have sex. And once you get settle in a routine as stats show, that couples are not having as much sex. No you are not alone in this.
Govtgirl
Cathlete
Chiming in also, maybe a little late, and possibly with an unpopular opinion....even if you're "too tired" or don't feel like it, do it anyway. Nine times out of 10, you'll get into it and have fun, but even if you don't, your husband will appreciate it 
Nothing crushes a man's ego more than to turned down for sex. Of course, if you're sick or something that's different, and a man would be a jerk if he put the moves on you when you didn't feel good. But "tired" is different. Do it anyway!
Nothing crushes a man's ego more than to turned down for sex. Of course, if you're sick or something that's different, and a man would be a jerk if he put the moves on you when you didn't feel good. But "tired" is different. Do it anyway! 
tneah
Cathlete
Stress just kills your sex life, it really does. Plus my hubby is a nightowl, and I hate staying up past 10 or 11 at night, so unless I stay up with him, and there is no stress during the day, and so on and so forth, sex just doesn't happen. Guess, thats why the adult toy industry is doing so well. And morning nooky is great for me, but he isn't in to it, usually asleep anyway-I get up before he does, guess the experts are right, you really have to plan for sex these days, yet another thing to put on our "lists" right?:7
Guess, thats why the adult toy industry is doing so well. And morning nooky is great for me, but he isn't in to it, usually asleep anyway-I get up before he does, guess the experts are right, you really have to plan for sex these days, yet another thing to put on our "lists" right?:7I hear ya on the pill totally squashing your sex drive! DH and I used to be maniacs (to the point where we considered once a day to be a "slow" day!), but after 5 years on the pill, my libido took a nose dive. I also think our different work schedules played a role - that and the fact that I preferred it at night and DH (who's one of those evil, "bright-eyed and bushy-tailed" morning people) wanted it in the morning when I was like, "shut up and stay away from me - I have 15 more minutes till the alarm goes off!"
I do, however, second Govtgirl's comment that you should just go ahead and do it and then you'll be "in the mood" for more. I can't tell you how many times DH has had to "convince" me and then I'm in a totally better mood afterwards! ;-)
My sex drive is making a slow comeback, though, since I quit the pill in Aug. YAY!!!!!
I do, however, second Govtgirl's comment that you should just go ahead and do it and then you'll be "in the mood" for more. I can't tell you how many times DH has had to "convince" me and then I'm in a totally better mood afterwards! ;-)
My sex drive is making a slow comeback, though, since I quit the pill in Aug. YAY!!!!!
runninggal
Cathlete
Nancy, my libido disappeared in my 40's too. I've been taking fish oil for 3 years, with no change in the "love-machine department," but my cholesterol levels are fabulous;-)
Sarah
Sarah