Excuse me?

spyrosmom

spyrosmom

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So there is another new guy at work, he started this Mon, I started last Mon, and for some reason he just rubs me the wrong way with his personality. He claims to have been collecting for 25 yrs yet he didn't know to ask for a death cert when he was told someone died????

Anyhoo, I forgot to bring a 3pm snack with me to work today, so I figured I'd run down to Starbucks to get a fruit cup. They were out, but had yogurt parfaits, similar to McD's. Not good for me prob, but a better choice than a mocha caramel fatta-chino with double whip and a brownie. So I got my yogurt and a plain iced coffee. I was sitting at my desk eating and he said something to me which I didn't quite catch the 1st time, so I said "What?" So he says "You shouldn't be eating that, it will make you fat." EXCUSE me????:eek: :eek: :eek: I just said "I think it will be ok."

WTF???? Where does he get off saying that? If I wasn't new there too, I'd have given him a (large) piece of my mind. This was coming from a guy who ate BBQ ribs for lunch. He doesn't know me, and frankly, the size of my behind (which is fine, btw) is none of his concern!!! Some people!!!

Hmph,
Nan
 
Socially inept and trying his darndest to be "friendly" no doubt. Some people simply don't know how to connect.

I work with a guy that just yammers on and on, obviously wanting to be liked and completely unaware of how annoying he is...I feel for ya'!
 
No, I totally understand! My housekeepers last week casually "mentioned" they noticed I had gained weight..mind you I was on an intensive workout program that took my bodyfat down to 13-14 percent. Since then I have gone back to a more "happy" 17 percent and gained 4 pounds!
They are both probably 50 pounds overweight or more to boot. I was floored, shocked and then really pissed off.

The nerve of some people...
 
You should have smiled, thanked him, and told him his shirt makes him look like he has man boobs.


(I've learned over time it's not fair to let people get off the hook so easily with their ignorant little jibes)
 
I remember a guy "around" here saying something like that one time but I was pregnant at the time. I don't work with him, he just works in the area.
He was here the other day for a visit and I was kinda sitting back and looking at him while he was getting on with his jibberish and he isn't fat but wide...its very strange! And I thought about whatever it was he said to me and now who is laughing!~

Also, my MIL owns a gas bar and when I was pregnant (again) maybe 5 monthes or so, I went into her store and bought a bar and a bag of chips (craving) and the guy who works there said "just b/c your pregnant you don't have to eat for two" I felt like turning him around and shoving my bar up his @ss!
I think people like that are proper A-holes! No matter if you are large or small, if your eating something, its clearly b/c you want to and not b/c you are concerned about gaining or losing weight. People should just mind their own business and worry about themselves instead of what everyone else is doing!


Beavs** Thats FUNNY!

And Tneah** Some people just sit and wait for others to gain weight when they know they have lost some. They have the mind set that they are gonna gain it back so your housekeepers were probably keeping an eye on you! Jealousy will get you no where! I highly doubt you can notice 4 lbs!
Lori:)
 
>You should have smiled, thanked him, and told him his shirt
>makes him look like he has man boobs.
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>(I've learned over time it's not fair to let people get off
>the hook so easily with their ignorant little jibes)

I AGREE!!! then again i would have cussed him out myself while adding in man boobs.

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I agree in that I'll bet anything the housekeepers' comments were rooted in jealousy. I'll blame the other casual but highly stupid comments on poor social skills.
 
>You should have smiled, thanked him, and told him his shirt
>makes him look like he has man boobs.
>
>

THAT was funny! I'll have to remember that line! I'm still laughing over here. :D
 
>No, I totally understand! My housekeepers last week casually
>"mentioned" they noticed I had gained weight..mind you I was
>on an intensive workout program that took my bodyfat down to
>13-14 percent. Since then I have gone back to a more "happy"
>17 percent and gained 4 pounds!
>They are both probably 50 pounds overweight or more to boot. I
>was floored, shocked and then really pissed off.
>
>The nerve of some people...


Tneah,

Don't let that bother you. Fat women tend to do that to thin women. It makes them feel better about themselves. My obese SIL examines me every single time I see her. You can see a 5lb gain on a thin woman, you can't on an obese.
I always say I have my summer body and my winter body. My winter body carries more weight, but I'm not overweight!!!
 
>You should have smiled, thanked him, and told him his shirt
>makes him look like he has man boobs.
>
>
>(I've learned over time it's not fair to let people get off
>the hook so easily with their ignorant little jibes)


LOL!! Good one}(

That would have worked....and you are so right!
 
Thanks guys, glad I am not the only one here. It was totally rude, and I forgot to mention they then asked me, "So you don't want to be skinny anymore?"x( WTH? To which I replied, hum, yeah, maybe not since I wear a size 6, and a size 6 is the new size 14 right? (Courtesy of the Devil Wears Prada!)

This coming from obese women, BTW, they are doing a crappy job so after this summer we are firing them anyway.

I need to let this one go, I have ranted about it long enough, but I am at my core pretty insecure quite frankly.:p
 
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>I need to let this one go, I have ranted about it long enough,
>but I am at my core pretty insecure quite frankly.:p

I am too. My SIL really gets to me. I feel like I'm under a microscope. s I am my own toughest critic, her comments go deep.
My husband doesn't get it. He always says, "Look at her!"

OMG, look at what the media does to Drew Barrymore! She is one of my all time favorite actress and they comment on her size 6 all the time.
 
Spyrosmom, have you considered that your co-worker might be... flirting with you? It's the kind of inept, semi-joking, do-anything-to-get-her-attention, thing a guy might say to a girl he thinks is attractive. He might just be crushing on you (I can see you shuddering ;~))
 
Nan & everyone,

I definitely understand being sensitive to comments about weight. But ya know, before you take it personally, let's remember that guys say stupid stuff all the time :), much of it without even thinking. Even if this guy *was* trying to press your buttons, I think the best thing do is crack a joke, laugh it off. I would have probably said dryly, "They warned me about you and your way of charming the ladies." Or something to that effect.

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Yeah, I will let a stupid comment by a guy roll off my back alot quicker than a girl!

Women say that sort of stuff to be mean and catty, period.Women understand how we all are sensitive about our weight and our looks right? Well most of us are, and if you aren't then wow, can I have a little of your self esteem please? That is my opinion.:)
 
>Spyrosmom, have you considered that your co-worker might
>be... flirting with you? It's the kind of inept, semi-joking,
>do-anything-to-get-her-attention, thing a guy might say to a
>girl he thinks is attractive. He might just be crushing on
>you (I can see you shuddering ;~))


EEEEEKKKK!!!!! Now the Starbuck's guy is cute, though. Alas, I am married. Lookie, but no touchie!

Nan
 
When I was younger and not into working out at all, my brother asked me - how can you be so skinny and have so much cellulite?? WHAT??! I didn't have that much, but certainly more than I would have liked, but he had spotlights in his bedroom and they were shining down on my legs - most unflattering. That was a little over 16 years ago (but who's counting!) and I still hear that voice in my head, and bring it up just to rub it in every now and again that he was so rude, but being a guy, as mentioned by the other poster, he wasn't trying to be mean - just inquisitive. He felt horrible when I got upset (and probably didn't understand it either...) I guess what I am saying is, guys can be dumb, housekeepers can be dumb, MIL's can be dumb (but not mine- she is a true angel, thankfully), brother's can be dumb...just don't let it bother you for 16 years :) Revenge is sweet though, whether that revenge is getting in better shape for some, or as I am sure is the case for you lovely and in super shape ladies, getting it right in your head and not letting them get to you anymore. (Or in my case, rubbing it in and making my brother say "not again!", and then having legs now that he wishes he had ;)
 
Oh, and - yes, I still have cellulite - probably always will but I've tamed that beast as best as I can - if anybody knows how to make it completely disappear... of course, dear brother does NOT have it - just skinny legs. Boys, boys, boys - not fair. I think I still have issues after all :7
 
I'm so shocked reading these replys. Nobody (but my late mother, of course) ever said anything to me about my weight -and I was really fat for a long time and work in a place loaded with people who have absolutely no home training. I wondered why until I realized they're probably too scared! Where I work, you only have to straighten out one person and word gets around so that's probably it. Beavs is right, people who make such remarks are projecting their own insecurities and hoping for a mood boost at your expense. It's a high for him so he WILL do it again. But you'll be ready for him when he does. He's looking to get a rise out of you so, whatever you do, do not register anger or shock. A few well-chosen words, delivered with a soft, pleasant expression (think clever, calm, and just a tad cruel) and he'll never mess with you again. Promise.
 
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