Carola,
Is there something wrong with me that I just don't get this? I understand calories (what are kcals?) and I understand ounces. I don't know from grams.... All I know is I am 5-5", wear a size 14 jeans, but I'm still registering 184.5 lbs. on my bathroom scale. I want to be much smaller (but solid) and get lots of weight training and cardio and I'm trying to eat as clean as I can most of the time. But I have no idea how many calories I should ingest every day if I want to get down to a size 8 or 10 and no clue how much protein I should take in - in ounces. Or how do I figure grams? I'm asking you Carola, because you seem to know.
I know what you are saying, I think it is kind of confusing in the beginning.
Kcal is the abbrevation for calories. Given your height and size, assuming you are exercising regularly

, for weightloss your calorie intake should be around 1700 calories per day. If you zigzag your calories over 7 days you might look at a range of 1500 to 2000 calories per day. It might look something like this
Day 1 1700 kcal
Day 2 1500 kcal
Day 3 2000 kcal
Day 4 1700 kcal
Day 5 1500 kcal
Day 6 1800 kcal
Day 7 1700 kcal
The idea behind the zigzaging is that you keep your body guessing. Since my workouts are fairly intense, I try to never eat less than what my BMR is(BMR = basal metabolic rate - which is the number of calories that you would burn if you stayed in bed all day).
Carbs, fat and protein are measured in grams which is a metric, more accurate means of measuring. If you look at the nutrition labels of any food, carbs, protein and fat are shown in grams.
Any nutritional program like fitday.com, sparkpeople, or Cathe's nutrition program will calculate it for you. I.e, let's say you put in that you ate a cup of oatmeal plus yogurt plus some fruit, it will calculate how many calories, how many grams of fat, carbs and protein.
There are many recommendations for what percentage of carbs/protein/fat is the right one. I don't think there really is one size fits it all recommendation, every person is different and it may take some adjusting. 40/30/30 is a common recommendation (it's 40 % carbs, 30 % protein and 30 % fat). Some people recommend extremely low fat intake like 10 to 20g, that is waaaaaay too low for me and it is what started my yo-yo dieting career. Even the American Heart Association recommendation states that you can have up to 30 % in fat (based on a calorie intake of 1700 that is 72 g of fat).
What seems to work for me personally is to stay around
45 to 55 % carbs
20 to 25 % protein
25 to 30 % fat
Whereas I am normally not a binge eater, if I go lower in fat than this, I will shuff everything in my mouth that is not locked


. Aside, some vitamins like A, D, E and K are fat soluble and cannot be absorbed by the body without fat.
I try to eat as healthy and clean as possible but I don't obsess about it anymore. If everyone has pizza, I will have a slice of pizza and I feel pretty good about. The idea is NOT to be on a "diet" but to eat how I know I can eat the rest of my life and the idea is also to be able to eat like a normal, social human being and not a hermit, eating saw dust every day to fit in a size 0.
Here are the links to some calculators that you can play around with.
http://www.dietitian.com/calcbody.php
http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm
http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/
HTH.