Babies after 35?
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tneah
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Whaaaa! Babies!:7 I am 41, and my honey is 18 years older than I am with a grownup daughter who is like my best friend. When we married it was a given there would be no children. But there are days that I still get those baby lust feelings, I don't have kids, but adore them.
I think you can have kids whenever you want, if you understand the possible complications and stuff that could occur. We just chose not to, but boy, there are days that I wonder if I missed out on a marvelous thing...oh well, I have Georgie, our "son". A Newfie that weighs a cool 156 pounds that keeps me busy.
I think you can have kids whenever you want, if you understand the possible complications and stuff that could occur. We just chose not to, but boy, there are days that I wonder if I missed out on a marvelous thing...oh well, I have Georgie, our "son". A Newfie that weighs a cool 156 pounds that keeps me busy.
jodijodi
Cathlete
Everyone is different. I have a friend who had a lot of trouble conceiving her first 3 kids in her late 20s and early 30s, all were conceived using fertility drugs and in all 3 cases they were on the verge of beginning in vitro. She had one miscarriage, and then her fourth child was conceived with no problems, no drugs, routine pregnancy, at the age of 38. Another friend, similar story, first four kids (including 1 set of twins) born in her late 20s/early 30s via in vitro. Last child conceived by accident. Does that mean that both women's fertility improved after age 35? Who knows?
Some people will have trouble conceiving at any age, some will have more trouble as they age, and some will have no trouble at all.
All of this stuff about "advanced maternal age" is based on studies and statistics. In the general population, or at least the population represented by these studies, women seem to have more problems conceiving and more problems with pregnancy at older ages, but of course that doesn't mean that everyone will. There are so many variables.
But no one wakes up on her 35th birthday to find that her ovaries have disappeared on their own (At least that's what I used to tell my grandma, who was worried that I was waiting too long to have baby #3.)
Some people will have trouble conceiving at any age, some will have more trouble as they age, and some will have no trouble at all.
All of this stuff about "advanced maternal age" is based on studies and statistics. In the general population, or at least the population represented by these studies, women seem to have more problems conceiving and more problems with pregnancy at older ages, but of course that doesn't mean that everyone will. There are so many variables.
But no one wakes up on her 35th birthday to find that her ovaries have disappeared on their own
(At least that's what I used to tell my grandma, who was worried that I was waiting too long to have baby #3.)Don't give up...my husband and i have 4 children(all cesarean); started our family when i was 29. I got pregnant(after a miscarriage) with our 3rd child when I was 35. Nicholas was born June 2006. 4 months later,we were expecting again, with our 4th child John Paul!(I was 36 yrs old) He was born in Aug 2007...
Don't let the medical profession scare you/tell you that magically, when every women turns 35, she will have difficulty getting pregnant, or that the 'odds' of having a special-needs child skyrocket...thats BULL@3IT. YES, fertility peaks, generally, at a younger age, and YES, there is an increased risk in problems, but not so much that it should dissuade people from trying for life!!!
We have some close friends that just had their 7th child, and she is 41...
If you are not sure when your most fertile time of the month is (it may not be in the exact 'middle' of your cycle; mine isn't), I would highly recommend studying Natural Family Planning...it helps identify, by physiological changes in a women's body, when her best chances of conceiving are...typically, people use NFP to avoid getting pregnant (NFP is 99% effective, just like birth control pills, but you aren't pumping your body full of chemicals!)
Good luck and God bless!
Don't let the medical profession scare you/tell you that magically, when every women turns 35, she will have difficulty getting pregnant, or that the 'odds' of having a special-needs child skyrocket...thats BULL@3IT. YES, fertility peaks, generally, at a younger age, and YES, there is an increased risk in problems, but not so much that it should dissuade people from trying for life!!!
We have some close friends that just had their 7th child, and she is 41...
If you are not sure when your most fertile time of the month is (it may not be in the exact 'middle' of your cycle; mine isn't), I would highly recommend studying Natural Family Planning...it helps identify, by physiological changes in a women's body, when her best chances of conceiving are...typically, people use NFP to avoid getting pregnant (NFP is 99% effective, just like birth control pills, but you aren't pumping your body full of chemicals!)
Good luck and God bless!
MSJ
Cathlete
I had my 5th child at 35, my 6th at 37 and I will deliver my 7th (God willing) this summer after I turn 40. We have taken no heroic measures.
I haven't read the whole thread yet, but I'd recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" (I can't remember the author right off hand). I've never needed the information to concieve, but a lot of couples have used it successfully to either concieve (or to avoid conception).
take care
Maggie
I haven't read the whole thread yet, but I'd recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" (I can't remember the author right off hand). I've never needed the information to concieve, but a lot of couples have used it successfully to either concieve (or to avoid conception).
take care
Maggie
dcat
Cathlete
I had both of my children after 35. My first was born when I was 38, my second was born 11 days after I turned 41 (last year). No heroic measures other than charting, patience, and keeping stress at bay. I conceived my first only after two months of trying (the second month was when I started to chart!) and my second after 5 months of trying (the last two months I charted). Diana