at what age did you get married or have kids

I think everyone waits a little longer these days to have kids and get married. Most people like to do other things first. I was only 23 when I got married but i was ready for it.
BUT...I had my first child when I was 17:eek: When I see 23 yr olds now, I can't believe I got married at that age but I was more mature b/c I had a daugther and had to grow up.
I just had my 2nd baby and I will be 29 in a couple of weeks time...actually...9 days!:eek:

Don't worry about it! If your ready for it then talk to your BF about it. You could probably plan a wedding if thats what you both want and have kids in a couple of yrs time. 50 isn't old anymore! Now i wouldn't want them around when I am 70:) but 50 isn't to bad~!

Good Luck!
Lori:)
 
Enoy this time! If I had to do it all over again, I would be single or at least not have children. Not that I don't enjoy Dave and the children, but there are times. With that being said, I had my first child at 30 and second at 32. Dave and I are 14 years apart. He was married before and they didn't have children. Fertile Myrtle enters the picture and I become pregant. It will come when it comes, hate to sound like a cliche. But it will. Annette
 
I got married just shy of my 30th birthday. I'm 36 and still too chicken sh*t to have kids! Enjoy your life!
 
I was 3 months shy of 21 when I got married. I was 24 1/2 when I had my first child, and close to 30 when I had my second.
 
I got married at age 21 and my 1st ds was born about 6 months later. I have a crazy little breakdown of pregnancies and breastfeeding....

21- ds born
22- still nursing
23- 2nd ds born
24- nursing
25- pregnant with 3rd dd (but did not know yet)
26- still nursing
27- free
28- free

You would think by now that I am a crazy person, but I am not :)

Dh and I have been together for 9 years and married for 7. Since I was young, I never started a career. Therefore, I was a stay-at-home mom. Everything we did (financially) was within our means (which gets better every year). What we are seeing now are people our age starting families who already have established careers that they totally depend on. I have heard so many new mothers who are my age say they wish they could stay home, but can't afford to leave their jobs. They have to put their babies in daycare, but not necessarily by choice; they can't afford to stay home.

This situation has worked for me. I have always known I wanted to be a SAHM. If I started a career first and bought a house, cars, etc based on a bigger income, I would not have been able to stay at home. You have to find what works for you and like Annette said (above)....it will come when it comes!

Good Luck!
Sara
 
Hi Darine! You are definetly not too old to get married. And you will still be a young mom if you have kids in your 30's. I don't think you have anything to be ashamed about!

I was 25 when I got married and 29 when I had my DD, who is 7 now. I still feel like a young mom even though I'm 36, which is still young, by the way!;-)
 
I just want to speak for the singles out there. I am 45 (I will be 46 next month) and have never been married. I have never been ashamed to tell people that I am not married, nor have I ever felt ashamed. I live my life according to my wishes and desires. I support marriage 100% and have been a witness to one of the most incredible marriages ever...my parents. For me, I just have not found the person that I want or wanted to spend the rest of the my life with. I am happy, healthy, have a great family and wonderful friends. You should never, ever been ashamed of how you live your life.

Do what is in your heart and don't ever worry about what people may think of you. What you held in your mind as a child will not always come into being. What is so wonderful about life is not what you dream it to be but what it unfolds and becomes. If you are lucky, you will find out that it becomes more than you could have ever dreamt it to be.

Best of luck to you!!
 
I was 21 when I got married and 21 and 23 when I had my two kids. I actually wanted two kids before I was 25 and I got them but it was hard financially. Like the others have said, you'll still be young in your thirties but hopefully you'll have more patience and be more financially secure.

Marcy
 
Darine, from reading your original post, I don't think you meant your statements to be offensive. I have to admit that it did kind of upset me though. I'm 33 (34 next month), married with no children. I do not consider myself to be old by any stretch of the imagination but according to your post, I am. I understand that you are concerned about your age and marriage and children etc etc, but you are young. Many of us on this forum are much older than you so you may want to take that into consideration next time you openly worry about being 'old'.

Carolyn
 
I met my husband at a wedding I attended with my parents at age 16(he was 23). We started dating right away, he baught his first house 4 years later, he proposed I moved in at age 20 and we were married a year later when I was 21. I had baby #1 at 23, baby #2 at 25 and lastly baby #3 at 28. I am happy to say we will be celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary next month!
 
Why are you ashamed? you get married when you're ready, not because of some preconceived notion about when you're supposed to, or what others tell you, or because everyone else does.

I got married at 30 and had my daughter at 33. If I could to it over, I'd have my daughter at 33 and get married in my 60's.
 
I won't blab on since I echo the sentiments of all the posters who say pish posh on the having to be married and have kids by a certain age. You do these things when you are ready (and if) and don't let a single person tell you thoughts about it otherwise. Happiness first.

That all being said, I did marry when I was 26 and had had my son a day shy of 28. Had it been later than I would have been fine with that as well...he just happened to come along then ;)


Debbie


It's not denial. I'm just selective about the reality I accept.
-Calvin & Hobbes
 
You are not to old to get married and have children. I had my only child when I was 29. I would not have been ready before than. I always thought I was a young Mom because my own Mother was 42 when she had me. My daughter is 20 now and we workout together. Somedays I struggle to keep up with her and somedays she struggles to keep up with me.

Oh yeah, my own mother just celebrated her 91st birthday and she is still going strong. She lives by herself in her own home, beats me at scrabble, corrects my grammar and lets me know that she is still in charge.

Jo
 
Don't worry.
I got married and had my first child when I was 28. Age is not based upon the calendar but it is based upon how you feel. I'm now 41 and I go cloths shopping with my daughter.. because I exercize I look a lot younger.

YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD TO GET MARRIED and have kids!!!!!!!

Statistics show that older parents have intelligent kids because you are more financial secure.

A good example of a good looking lady is Tina Turner...I would love to look like her when I'm a grandmother.
 
<I just feel ashamed to tell people that I am not married yet. I know it sounds stupid, but I grew up with the idea that you are a failure until you are married and I know it's not true, but it hard to let that go.>

There's no "right" time to get married. You alone get to determine that. I got married straight out of high school because my mom wouldn't let me go to college (I guess I showed her, huH?) ;-) When my older sister was 25 my mom called her an "old maid" all the time so she felt pressured to get married - and she ended up married to a wretched man who treats her like crap and never speaks to her. My point is, don't let anyone else's opinion dictate your life. You'll know when it's right. Let that notion of being a failure go! YOu're doing fine! :7
 
Growing up I thought I'd be married by 24/25 and kids by 26/27...I'm 33 not married, no kids.....I AM SO FAR BEHIND SCHEDULE. Oh well, things don't always go as planned I guess. Guess I'll just keep my youthful appearance for a while longer ;)
 
Darine,

Life is like a box of chocolates.....you never know what you're gonna get :)

I know how you feel though. I got married at 25 and before that people were constantly negging..."When are you going to get married?"
Now they are negging "When are you going to have a baby?"

My friend got married and has one baby and they are negging "When are you going to have another baby?" It never ends.
So just ignore them because they will never be satisfied.

Kathy
 
I was 28 when I got married and had my kids at 31 and 33.

I'm #11 in a family of 12 kids, my mom was 42 and my dad was 47 when I was born. (Mom was 45 and Dad 50 when my younger brother was born!) My DH also had older parents which is why we had chldren as soon as we could. We both knew the downfalls of having older parents and wanted to be young enough to do things with our kids (like playing catch, going to waterparks, hiking, bike riding, etc.) I'm not saying there aren't a lot of very fit 50-60 year olds - in fact, there are many on this board - but with many people that's the age when the knees, back, etc. give out and the aches and pains start.

Also, even though my dad lived a long life of 86 years, I was 39 when he died. :-( I would have liked to have had more time with him. And my kids would have liked to have had their grandpa longer.

Just food for thought. . .

Sue
 
Got married at 21, had first child at 26, divorced at 34!

Don't rush it. There is a saying: many people get married AFTER 30. And that means, 1st or 2nd time around! My 2nd marriage was at age 49, and is a whole different ballgame (much better!).

There's no hurry! It only feels that way :)

~ Ann ~
Aim for nothing, and you'll hit it every time!
 
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