at what age did you get married or have kids

I got married when I was 25, happily divorced by age, 31 :)

I had my 1st right out of high school, age 18, my daughter was born when I was 20.

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You dear, sweet woman! Please go put on your glasses! Thank you so much for the wonderful compliments...Some days I feel every day of my 40 years!

Good luck with your upcoming wedding...Relax and enjoy it! Hopefully, your wedding only comes around once and you should have fun. And I think being a slightly older mother helped me (personally) be a more mature and confident parent....certainly more so than I would have have been in my 20's.

Have fun with this life!

Debra

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we remember moments
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"So just curious to see if I am too old to get married. I mean I will have my kids in my 30's and when I am in my 50's, my kids will be on their 20's. I wanted to be a young mom. :-( "

What a nightmare. Having kids in your thirties when you're an old geezer! Having kids in their 20s when you're in your 50s! Who ever heard of that? Yup, you're too old. Your dreams have passed you by, honey. :p :p :p
 
really don't rush LOL. it seems you have found success in your life and things will fall into place when the time is right. no need to be "ashamed" of not being married, and by no means are you to "old" to get married.

but the reason i say don't rush it until it feels right is b/c we had viola 26 days before my 21st b-day. its been a struggle. we did marry over a year ago(offically/legally LOL) b/c it was right for us. sure i dealt with guilt of not being married beforehand and having a child "living in sin" but if dh and i didn't get ourselves to a good place,marriage would just be for the sake of being married and not being committed,and that would have just led to ugly divorce.

marry b/c it feels right not b/c its an expectation.

kassia

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>"So just curious to see if I am too old to get married. I
>mean I will have my kids in my 30's and when I am in my 50's,
>my kids will be on their 20's. I wanted to be a young mom. :-(
>"
>
>What a nightmare. Having kids in your thirties when you're an
>old geezer! Having kids in their 20s when you're in your 50s!
>Who ever heard of that? Yup, you're too old. Your dreams
>have passed you by, honey. :p :p :p


If you lived in my family and had all the people around me with their thinking, you would understand.
 
Sorry to hear it. Tell your family to wake up and smell the millennium. It's 2007 and people are living much longer these days, and having kids much later in life. You've got plenty of time.
 
I agree with Nancy. It is a different time now. Besides that, what if we all lived by society's "shoulds" instead of what is right for eaqch of us?

I was married at 26 and divorced at 30. Too young to get married, IMO. I am 36 and happily engaged with no plans to rush anything (children, a wedding). It will happen when the timing is right. I would hate to have a child before I felt truly ready just because others think I should.
 
When I was younger, I did not care. That's why I started a company. My whole family was against that. For a women, they wanted me to have a little job. It's like suddenly, I am caring. Why? I agree with all of you and thx a lot for your support. I know it is ok and not a big deal, but not what I had in mind but then why did I take a tough road by starting a business? I guess only me have to figure that out! Thank you all very much!
 
You definitely are not too old to get married, or too old in even five years to start having your babies (2).

I had my first baby at the age of 18, I got married at the age of 20. I went on to have 9 more children - I had my last 3 at the ages of 41, 43 and 45! When you think about it - by the time my youngest is 18, I will have invested 45 years into child rearing.

I do have 6 1/2 years between my second and third, because I only wanted to have 2 children, my husband always wanted a few more. I ended up changing my mind on children. Needless to say, I do not regret having the last 8 at all. I had my last 8 in a 16 year period.

Enjoy your husband and your alone time - you will be able to discern when the time will be right for you.

Cheryl
 
I was 23 when we got married; 25 and 28 when I had the boys. Now, as a DATING mom of these 2 boys (now 9 and 6), I'm hoping to get married and STILL have the chance to have one more baby. I'm 35 now.

It's never too late!!!

Gayle
 
>You definitely are not too old to get married, or too old in
>even five years to start having your babies (2).
>
>I had my first baby at the age of 18, I got married at the age
>of 20. I went on to have 9 more children - I had my last 3 at
>the ages of 41, 43 and 45! When you think about it - by the
>time my youngest is 18, I will have invested 45 years into
>child rearing.
>
>I do have 6 1/2 years between my second and third, because I
>only wanted to have 2 children, my husband always wanted a few
>more. I ended up changing my mind on children. Needless to
>say, I do not regret having the last 8 at all. I had my last
>8 in a 16 year period.
>
>Enjoy your husband and your alone time - you will be able to
>discern when the time will be right for you.
>
>Cheryl


I remember seing your post before about having 10 kids. Wow. Rare these days. Congratulations and good for you. That must be fun to be part of a big family!!!! My God your body does not seem to have gave birth to so many kids. You seem happy too :)
 
Honey, you are NOT too old to get married. You're not even OLD! You have plenty of time to have children. Lots of women have children well into their 30s (and even 40s). Don't feel like a failure - you're not. Even in your 30s, you will still be a young mom - 30 is the new 20! ;)

I got married at 25, and now I'm 29 (DH is too) - we don't have kids yet, and aren't in any great rush. We'd rather build up some savings and become more established in our careers first. We certainly don't feel like failures. :)
 
I was married at 19. Now that I'm 39, I look back and think that I was crazy! I'm very happily married, but I think that I just got lucky to have married the right guy - 19 seems way too young to make that kind of commitment.

We had our first child when I was 23 and our twins when I was 26. We used infertility treatments to conceive because I have hormone problems. We thought our family was complete and that we'd raise our kids while we were younger and then have time for ourselves when we were in our 40s, but we ended up with a "surprise" pregnancy when I was 34. So, our plans definitely changed.

29 is definitely not too old! Having kids in your 30s is fine. Maybe being a little older and wiser will give you more patience and perspective when you are raising your children. :) I'm certainly a different parent with my youngest than I was with my oldest, but I don't know if that's from experience or age.

You are definitely not a failure for not being married at any age! In your case, it sounds like you've had a successful, committed relationship for many years and you're also running a business! You should be proud of your accomplishment.

Erica
 
I got married when I was 18. I had my first child when I was 20 and my second when I was 24. I am now 44 and have been married for 25 years. My oldest daughter has been married for a year and lives 1500 miles away. The youngest will be a sophomore in college.

I often wish I waited to get married......and to have kids (it just seemed like the next logical step), but things have worked out well so I guess I am fortunate.

In some ways, it is nice to be 44 and not have all the responsibilities of parenthood anymore. In other ways, it is hard. I don't know anyone else my age who doesn't have still have children at home and I feel kind of out-of-the-loop.

You are not definitely not too old to be getting married or starting a family. You will be starting out with more maturity and wisdom than I had when I started. I applaud your efforts to get a business started, and now that it is established you will have more time to devote to the life you want.
 
I was 19 when I first married, and had my oldest DD about 6 months later. We only lasted 6 years, then we divorced. I remarried at age 27, then had my second DD at 29, DS at 32.

About the sacrifice thing - I dunno. There are tradeoffs in every life decision we make, whether it's to start up a business or start a family. Having a kid so early in life is something I would NOT advise any woman to do. In fact, I have and will vehemently urge my children not to get married until at least the age of 25.

For what it's worth, I know quite a few women who had their kids in their late 30s up to the mid 40s.
 
Well, I got married right before I turned 33. Had my first child at 35, and had twins at age 38. Definitely have no regrets, and I think I'm a better spouse and parent now than I would have been at a younger age. Plus, I got to enjoy my "single" years, and now I'm able to appreciate being married and having kids. No, you're definitely not too old!
Valerie
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I got married at 32. Never had kids (by choice). You can get married at any age. Now, too young to be married? Yeah, that I can believe--I have friends who wish they'd waited until they were older!

And as far as being a failure unless you're married...a failure at what? Like your whole life is useless unless you marry somebody? I had no idea people still thought that way.
 
I was 19 when I got married, had my 1st dd at age 21.5, 2nd dd at 24, and my last dd at age 26. Although I wouldn't recommend it for everyone, I have a wonderful dh and I'm happy to be 30 (and he's 33) and we've been married for 11 years next month.

But I have lots of friends that are just now getting married & having kids. My best friend got married at 30 and is having her first child at age 32, so it can happen!

I never had a *career* so I didn't have that worry, and my dh has a good job so that I can be a SAHM.

And it sounds like you are definitely not a failure!!
 
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