Are people slowing down or am I more fit?

janiejoey

Cathlete
I swear that when I'm shopping I have to go around people all the time because they are moving so slowly. In a cashier line people (even the cashiers) seem to be moving in slow motion while putting their items on the belt. Either there is something extraordinary happening to me or Cathe has made me more fit and I don't need to slow down LOL:D I'm a speed demon compared to them!

Anybody experience this, or am I alone?:confused::eek:

Janie
 
Janie, I have the same problem! It seems sometimes people are very slow & then they won't move out of the way when you come! This is part of my frustation with grocery shopping! However I do make exceptions for moms with small kids & babies & the seniors!
Take care,
Cathy
 
I don't think other people or slowing down or you're getting faster, I think it's a "patience" problem.;)

I say this because I find myself doing the same thing. I don't understand why people don't have their money/debit card/check ready when they are in the check out line, or the drive through, or anywhere you've had time to prepare. I think to myself.... what the heck are they doing while in line? Daydreaming?

Then I take a step back and try to imagine that one of these people is my elderly relative, or someone who is sick or impaired, and that helps me react with an extra dose of patience. If I'm behind a slow car that won't go the speed limit and seems unsure of where they're going, instead of getting angry and impatient, I try to imagine that they are elderly or maybe from out of town and unfamiliar with the roads.
 
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I agree that it has a lot to do with patience. I know. I don't have very much. However, I see people with oxygen tanks, in electric wheelchairs, and just plain obese and I tell myself I never want to be like that. I'm almost 45 and I just can't imagine slowing down.

Sometimes I wonder at what point do you slow down? What makes you slow down? If I'm constantly pushing to be better, faster, stronger, why would I slow down? Is it from injury? Life changing events? Heck, I'm going full steam ahead.
 
I believe it has everything to do with patience.
As for the oxygen tanks, my poor mother had one the last year of her life. I took her shopping many times, carting that tank along... and if she was in the way, I didn't care! She needed to get out house.
I'm like Jeanne, I imagine the person moving slower in front of me as a family member (my mother, father, sister) and have learned not to be annoyed by it.
You know what, that could be any one of us one day. You never know what life will throw your way.
 
I don't think other people or slowing down or you're getting faster, I think it's a "patience" problem.;)

I say this because I find myself doing the same thing. I don't understand why people don't have their money/debit card/check ready when they are in the check out line, or the drive through, or anywhere you've had time to prepare. I think to myself.... what the heck are they doing while in line? Daydreaming?

Then I take a step back and try to imagine that one of these people is my elderly relative, or someone who is sick or impaired, and that helps me react with an extra dose of patience. If I'm behind a slow car that won't go the speed limit and seems unsure of where they're going, instead of getting angry and impatient, I try to imagine that they are elderly or maybe from out of town and unfamiliar with the roads.

I agree with this. My problem is with the 20 & 30 year olds who, when in the grocery store are wallking together with arms crossed & seem to be unware there are 3 or 4 people behind them & don't respond to "excuse me"! These are the ones! As far as seniors & moms with babies I know there are days when they need to have the patience they deserve!
It's the same for driving, sometimes the slow people in front are the seniors & they also deserve our patience!
 
I believe it has everything to do with patience.
As for the oxygen tanks, my poor mother had one the last year of her life. I took her shopping many times, carting that tank along... and if she was in the way, I didn't care! She needed to get out house.
I'm like Jeanne, I imagine the person moving slower in front of me as a family member (my mother, father, sister) and have learned not to be annoyed by it.
You know what, that could be any one of us one day. You never know what life will throw your way.

Bless you for taking care of your mom. I cared for both of my ailing parents before they passed away. I think this experience has made me more patient around others, especially the elderly.

And I couldn't agree more that you never know what life will throw your way. We all look at the obese person riding a scooter and make judgements and declare we don't want to ever be that way. By the grace of God, hopefully none of us ever will be. But accidents, disease and illnesses happen. You do the best you can do, but you just can't control everything.

Breaking my wrist last year gave me a whole new perspective. I have always been one of those people who didn't understand why people weren't out there running and lifting weights and exercising and eating right and so forth. Life happens. Sometimes you are forced into a situation that you never imagined could be you. I always try to remember this when I encounter an older, slower, less capable person.
 
As far as seniors & moms with babies I know there are days when they need to have the patience they deserve!

I hate to admit it, but I used to be the person getting upset at all the "slow" people around me.

But now I am the mommy with her baby and am the one causing all the trouble! ;) I'm so grateful for the kind, understanding smiles I get from many of the people around me when I'm dealing with my squirmy baby in public. It has also taught me to be more patient with others because I can't always know what is going on in the life of another person who is "slowing me down."
 
I agree that it is all about patience. My beef is not with elderly, slower people in front of me. I have a problem with rudeness more than slowness. I don't understand people (men, especially, I have noticed) who drive rudely, cut in line, don't think about how their actions affect others, and are just downright nasty. Rudeness tests my patience.
 
I agree that it is all about patience. My beef is not with elderly, slower people in front of me. I have a problem with rudeness more than slowness. I don't understand people (men, especially, I have noticed) who drive rudely, cut in line, don't think about how their actions affect others, and are just downright nasty. Rudeness tests my patience.

Yes, rudeness is hard to deal with. I try my best to respond to rudeness with kindness. It usually works. If it doesn't, it isn't worth letting it rent space in my brain. I just move on and figure they're having a bad day and I'm thankful it's not me!
 
So glad to hear every One saying you are more patueith seniors because it can happen to any if us. Most likely will. I mean we all will get old. I can only imagine how they feel. I to took care of my mom and step dad. It was sad how people dismiss them. I mean being in a body that goes slower or something goes wrong or hurts all the time. Its like they are trapped in this prison that is a body. They feel trapped. They used to have jobs children and. Now they are told when to bath or when they should eat and they are lonely. No familly will come see them. It is very sad. I love love seniors. So happy you guys are kind. I mean there are great group of women here.
 
I think everyone needs to lay off JanieJoey, telling her she has a "patience problem". I believe she was simply making a statement that she has loads of energy compared to many in the population because of her level of fitness. This is probably true because the majority of the population are not as fit as many Cathletes, and therefore the vast majority of the population probably do not have the energy to expend. This is all.

And if I am correct, I think JanieJoey is a senior herself.. (if not, please forgive the error Janiejoey)

AND kudos to you Janie for having so much energy and being able to zip around! I know you have worked hard to be where you are from reading about you!
 
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I know how old Janie is. I'm not putting her down. So I hope you arnt revering to my comment. I'm not in any way saying anything negative in what Janie said. I was commenting on how I love how people r good to seniors on here..that is rare these days.

I do find it annoying for young people to stroll in your way and see you trying to get around them. That is rude for them.
I also think the other person who said that about patients may have been saying that she has a problem with patients .not actually Janie but . MAYBE Janie does. I don't know but I don't think anyone meant to attack anyone.. at least I hope not.
Janie you r right I to find others are slower the young ones is the worst. I hope I diddnt say anything to make you think I was attacking you.
I wouldn't do that on purpose. Have good night Janie.
 
No one is putting Janie down, we are offering our opinion and advice. The title of this thread is asking a question, and we are answering it.
My husband has no patience whatsoever in stores, and every time he complains how slow people are...it is a patience thing. If you try to relax and not let it bother you, it's far less stressful for you. If you're stressing over how slow people are, that's not healthy. That's all we're saying.
I did comment on the oxygen tank for a reason. While many may find the oxygen tanks, wheel chairs, strollers a hassle to get around....any one of us could find ourselves in this situation.
Lung cancer is not a disease exclusive to smokers. Women are more prone to lung cancer in general, and while the oxygen tanks may be a bother to you...pray you never develop lung cancer.
 
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I think everyone needs to lay off JanieJoey, telling her she has a "patience problem". I believe she was simply making a statement that she has loads of energy compared to many in the population because of her level of fitness. This is probably true because the majority of the population are not as fit as many Cathletes, and therefore the vast majority of the population probably do not have the energy to expend. This is all.

And if I am correct, I think JanieJoey is a senior herself.. (if not, please forgive the error Janiejoey)

AND kudos to you Janie for having so much energy and being able to zip around! I know you have worked hard to be where you are from reading about you!

Of course it's a good thing that Janie has lots of energy and is able to zip around! I think most of us here are in the same shape. It's a great thing and we work hard to be that way.

Not a single person here attacked Janie. I was offering up a perspective that might help her. I even stated that I also find myself losing patience. Since when has responding with a different idea or opinion become attacking someone? Personally, that's the reason I am on this message board... to get feedback and ideas from other people that I might not know about or might not have thought of.
 
I think everyone needs to lay off JanieJoey, telling her she has a "patience problem". I believe she was simply making a statement that she has loads of energy compared to many in the population because of her level of fitness. This is probably true because the majority of the population are not as fit as many Cathletes, and therefore the vast majority of the population probably do not have the energy to expend. This is all.

And if I am correct, I think JanieJoey is a senior herself.. (if not, please forgive the error Janiejoey)

AND kudos to you Janie for having so much energy and being able to zip around! I know you have worked hard to be where you are from reading about you!

I agree with this Tracey. :) I think Janie was just being light hearted in her post and noting how being fit lets her zip around at a time when so many of her contemporaries are slowing down. I don't think she meant impatience. For what it's worth it made me think of this article I read a few months ago...take a look! :D http://healthland.time.com/2011/01/04/want-to-live-longer-get-walking/
Keep zipping along Janie!! ;)
 
Hi Janie,

I think Cathe has extended her superpowers onto you...;)

I want share with you a story. My great-grandmother (bless her soul) lived until the wonderful age of 99. This woman was astounding. I vividly remember her telling us (grandchildren and great-grandchildren) to "hurry" , "hustle", "move", "get off our butts" (keep in mind this sounded a lot more, shall I say, "charming" in Italian). If we wanted to sit down and watch tv at her house, she told us we could "rest only when we're sick or dead" (I'm not kidding), especially if it was a nice day outside. Now this woman worked her garden, cooked, cleaned, walked, drank occasional wine, ate lots of fresh fruits and veggies, meat, fish (and of course pasta) and had plenty of energy and good health to spare. She broke her hip just shy of her 100th birthday. Until God took her last breath, she was a little firecracker. Her personality and zest for life will always be in my heart.

Good luck & take care,
Natasha
 
Janie
I read about a study done which evaluated the rate people walk. Those who tend to walk fast also tend to live longer ! So plan on a nice long life! :)

One thing I have noticed is people with hand held devices tend to slow things down everywhere I go. They think they are "multi-tasking". What they are really doing is switching back and forth from one thing to the other. So everything takes them twice as long! It's just an annoyance in a place like the grocery store, but these people who try to talk on cell phones while driving are taking other peoples lives in their hands. Eventually people will realize how dangerous that is and things will change. Until then I just keep practicing defensive driving. ( As we all learned at 16 - I don't want to be dead right.)
 
Thank you all for sharing. It was a lighthearted post and never once thought about people with health problems being in the way. I was feeling full of health and vigor and wanted to blame it onto Cathe and hard work to get that way. I was bragging I guess and didn't take offense from anyone's post.

Blessed with this health and vigor (because I'm able to) and listening to others speak out about less fortunate people makes my heart go out to them. All good vibes, or prayers or... to all who are sick in anyway. It's hard seeing these beautiful souls in stores struggling so. I try to say a little prayer every time in hopes it helps them in some small way and count my lucky stars how fortunate I truly am.

Love your story's, knowledge and links. Would like to here more please.

Janie
 
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I agree that it is all about patience. My beef is not with elderly, slower people in front of me. I have a problem with rudeness more than slowness. I don't understand people (men, especially, I have noticed) who drive rudely, cut in line, don't think about how their actions affect others, and are just downright nasty. Rudeness tests my patience.

I hate rudeness too. Over the years I have come to the conclusion that some people don't mature beyond a certain point. I learned about this from a psychiatrist that worked with a cousin of mine that told us not to expect my cousin to ever be more than 13 years old. Her brain had stopped. With that knowledge, I have adjusted my expectations. I think that less than half of the population is mature or has reached adulthood at all. I also know that our faculties and abilities vary when we are hungry, tired, or in pain. As for those teenagers, there have been studies done (involving brain scans) that helped me to understand that teens and convicted criminals have the same brain activity (or lack thereof.) When a teen progresses into adulthood, the brain matures and changes (in the healthy population.) So, as far as priorities, impulse control, and generally ego run amok, teens are no more than a criminal!!! Lols. . .ok. so, I guess I don't get too worked up like I used to because I know that when they misbehave either they have the maturity of a 14 year old or they are a 14 year old;) Then, I just treat them like one.

That said, I always treat those who are just moving slowly with care because I have often had to do my own shopping when I was physically compromised. I might look ok, but you can't tell when I have had a migraine for days or I'm recovering from dental surgery.

I know life can be frustrating. The trick is separating ourselves from it so that we don't need to be stressed about something that we are not responsible for. This is not really a real issue. It might slow you down a little bit, just do a sudoku puzzle in your head. Or count 5 things that you are grateful for. Why?? Well, because your well being matters and when we are annoyed our stress response kicks in and cortisol goes up and insulin resistance gets worse. Basically, its a bad scene for your health and waistline.

A few weeks ago I was nearly killed in a car accident. I was extremely lucky. There was something in the road, my tire didn't respond well, and I spun out on the freeway. I was lucky. I didn't hit anybody. Nobody hit me either, and no one yelled at me. I was so frightened and so grateful that no one yelled at me. Ever since that experience, my focus has shifted to one of "I am so lucky to be alive." from "Dang it, get out of my way!!!"

I hope that helps. I don't want you to think that I'm judging you, I'm not. All of us are human, all of us feel this way at least some of the time. I hope my suggestions help,

Alisha
 

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