Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily lif...
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kathryn
Cathlete
But remember, you are also only seeing part of 'us' here. We might not all get along so well in 'real life." I'm sure we have other interests/beliefs that don't mesh at all. On a forum, you can avoid topics you have no interest in or disagree with, and ignore people you find annoying at the time, but it's harder to do in real life!
I agree, though, it would be nice to have people in my 'real life' who are enthusiastic about health and fitness.
I agree, though, it would be nice to have people in my 'real life' who are enthusiastic about health and fitness.
jgarr44460
Cathlete
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
I'm with Sally. Shy and often misunderstood as being a snob or other things.
Bam - I am on the east coast also, Upstate NY and would LOVE to meet like minded people, but where are they? I lived in CA for a while and found the people there (in general)to be very superficial. I guess I'm not sure geographic location is the problem.
I'm with Sally. Shy and often misunderstood as being a snob or other things.
Bam - I am on the east coast also, Upstate NY and would LOVE to meet like minded people, but where are they? I lived in CA for a while and found the people there (in general)to be very superficial. I guess I'm not sure geographic location is the problem.
scm
Cathlete
>Who needs real friends when you have the internet? 
Well, I can say I have made freinds here through Cathe's forum, who, I can say are true friends. I could count on them for anything. However, although as difficult it can be making "in person" friends is important too. I mean, if your car had to be repaired, you need to call a friend to say "hey, can you give me a ride home.."
Susan C.M.
Well, I can say I have made freinds here through Cathe's forum, who, I can say are true friends. I could count on them for anything. However, although as difficult it can be making "in person" friends is important too. I mean, if your car had to be repaired, you need to call a friend to say "hey, can you give me a ride home.."
Susan C.M.
scm
Cathlete
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
>I'm with Sally. Shy and often misunderstood as being a snob
>or other things.
>Bam - I am on the east coast also, Upstate NY and would LOVE
>to meet like minded people, but where are they? I lived in CA
>for a while and found the people there (in general)to be very
>superficial. I guess I'm not sure geographic location is the
>problem.
I live in Upstate NY too. It's hit and miss. I have friends and hardly anyone is serious about working out. I exercise alone, but it's still nice to have a common interest ~ with each other, other than kids or something. Too many people I've met are because of our kids knowing each other. Yup, they are fat and dont workout. So, if I want to do something with them... I just dont have the connection with the women here.
Susan C.M.
>I'm with Sally. Shy and often misunderstood as being a snob
>or other things.
>Bam - I am on the east coast also, Upstate NY and would LOVE
>to meet like minded people, but where are they? I lived in CA
>for a while and found the people there (in general)to be very
>superficial. I guess I'm not sure geographic location is the
>problem.
I live in Upstate NY too. It's hit and miss. I have friends and hardly anyone is serious about working out. I exercise alone, but it's still nice to have a common interest ~ with each other, other than kids or something. Too many people I've met are because of our kids knowing each other. Yup, they are fat and dont workout. So, if I want to do something with them... I just dont have the connection with the women here.
Susan C.M.
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
Hi Arancini. So you didn't like the saccharine you received in NC? Hmmmm, I wouldn't mind a bit of that right now to contrast what I'm getting, lol. I visited NC a few years back for a couple of weeks and really enjoyed the friendliness. One thing that stood out was that the cashiers greeted you with a smile on their face and actually told you how much you owed instead of just standing there and expecting you to look at the total and just pay them. That really irks me. I'm glad you are developing a circle of quality people. I know it takes time. Enjoy your new friends.
Sally, I guess I'm considered an ambivert. I'm sometimes quite outgoing and other times more reserved. I think it depends on the crowd. Often, if I'm at a party or group event, there are people that tend to dominate conversations and when that happens, I keep more to myself. I don't want to have to compete with someone for conversation.
Dorothyrd, I truly am happy that you have many good people in your life. It is a gift.
Jen, I go to lectures and continuing ed. classes and at least I'm meeting people with common interests and they are nice but anything beyond that hasn't really happened. Exposure is the key, which I know, but it just can be frustrating, however, I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing because I know they're not going to come knocking at my door. Hmmmm, wait a minute. I haven't done the billboard thing yet!
Susan, I'm also happy for you that you have found true friends. I believe that we have various friends for different aspects of our personalities. I have only one friend interested in fitness but that friendship is waning.
Thanks again everyone. You are all very special to me! ((((( )))))
Bam
Hi Arancini. So you didn't like the saccharine you received in NC? Hmmmm, I wouldn't mind a bit of that right now to contrast what I'm getting, lol. I visited NC a few years back for a couple of weeks and really enjoyed the friendliness. One thing that stood out was that the cashiers greeted you with a smile on their face and actually told you how much you owed instead of just standing there and expecting you to look at the total and just pay them. That really irks me. I'm glad you are developing a circle of quality people. I know it takes time. Enjoy your new friends.
Sally, I guess I'm considered an ambivert. I'm sometimes quite outgoing and other times more reserved. I think it depends on the crowd. Often, if I'm at a party or group event, there are people that tend to dominate conversations and when that happens, I keep more to myself. I don't want to have to compete with someone for conversation.
Dorothyrd, I truly am happy that you have many good people in your life. It is a gift.
Jen, I go to lectures and continuing ed. classes and at least I'm meeting people with common interests and they are nice but anything beyond that hasn't really happened. Exposure is the key, which I know, but it just can be frustrating, however, I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing because I know they're not going to come knocking at my door. Hmmmm, wait a minute. I haven't done the billboard thing yet!
Susan, I'm also happy for you that you have found true friends. I believe that we have various friends for different aspects of our personalities. I have only one friend interested in fitness but that friendship is waning.
Thanks again everyone. You are all very special to me! ((((( )))))
Bam
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
I used to think the same thing about cashiers But then I noticed that it is usually store policy for them to do this. Often times the manager bags your groceries/whatever and if your cashier doesn't live up to their friendliness code they get into trouble ... it's still nice, but certainly added to my cynicism of most southern hospitality! lol.
Take care,
arancini
I used to think the same thing about cashiers
But then I noticed that it is usually store policy for them to do this. Often times the manager bags your groceries/whatever and if your cashier doesn't live up to their friendliness code they get into trouble ... it's still nice, but certainly added to my cynicism of most southern hospitality! lol.Take care,
arancini
Luv2WorkHard
Cathlete
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
Why? Because in general, "normal" people SUCK, that's why!
OK - maybe that was harsh. I guess I was kidding. Wellll...maybe 50% kidding. LOL. :+
Dianna
http://www.picturetrail.com/Luv2WorkHard
Why? Because in general, "normal" people SUCK, that's why!
OK - maybe that was harsh. I guess I was kidding. Wellll...maybe 50% kidding. LOL. :+
Dianna
http://www.picturetrail.com/Luv2WorkHard
Fitnessfreak366
Cathlete
Great post, Bam! And I feel the same way. Every day I sit at my computer and think, "I wonder what my friends are doing?" And then I log on and check out these forums.
You guys ROCK!!
You guys ROCK!!
endorphin_junkie
Cathlete
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
BAM It's so true. I live a family and work centred life and don't socialize a lot, the people that I have come to know here and communicate with are a part of my extended social circle. I think about you all, wonder how you are all doing. I see and hear things that remind me of you all and it brings so much positive energy into my day. It's quite awesome really that Cathe brought us together and gave us this place to nurture our connections. Thanks for posting ((((Hugs))))) and :* :* right back at ya Honey!
Take Care
Laurie
BAM
It's so true. I live a family and work centred life and don't socialize a lot, the people that I have come to know here and communicate with are a part of my extended social circle. I think about you all, wonder how you are all doing. I see and hear things that remind me of you all and it brings so much positive energy into my day. It's quite awesome really that Cathe brought us together and gave us this place to nurture our connections. Thanks for posting ((((Hugs))))) and :* :* right back at ya Honey!Take Care
Laurie
carrie123
Cathlete
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
We were in the military for about 8 years. We've been coast to coast, south and north, (rooted from Northern NY however). Now located in northeastern Ohio. It doesn't get any better anywhere...
Although we haven't checked out the northwest part of the USA yet
I think it's society in general now a days. It's sad, because I too, would like to find like-minded people, where being nice isn't a bad thing
Carrie
We were in the military for about 8 years. We've been coast to coast, south and north, (rooted from Northern NY however). Now located in northeastern Ohio. It doesn't get any better anywhere...
Although we haven't checked out the northwest part of the USA yet
I think it's society in general now a days. It's sad, because I too, would like to find like-minded people, where being nice isn't a bad thing
Carrie
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...
Thanks Debbie! It really is nice to have such a warm place to always turn to!
Laurie, I think about people here too! When I was doing GS Legs the other day, I was thinking about the thread regarding this workout and all the "yikes" factor that others were talking about. It made me get through the workout a lot easier.
>It's sad, because I too, would like to find like-minded people,
>where being nice isn't a bad thing
Carrie, LOL! Sometimes it does feel like the "nice" ones have the issues. That's o.k. though. If those are the ONLY issues one has, then I'll take a truck load of them.
Many, many hugs and lots of wishes for finding more wonderful people in all of your lives!!!! :*
Bam
Thanks Debbie!
It really is nice to have such a warm place to always turn to!Laurie, I think about people here too! When I was doing GS Legs the other day, I was thinking about the thread regarding this workout and all the "yikes" factor that others were talking about. It made me get through the workout a lot easier.
>It's sad, because I too, would like to find like-minded people,
>where being nice isn't a bad thing
Carrie, LOL! Sometimes it does feel like the "nice" ones have the issues.
That's o.k. though. If those are the ONLY issues one has, then I'll take a truck load of them. Many, many hugs and lots of wishes for finding more wonderful people in all of your lives!!!! :*
Bam