Hi Manny,
Welcome to the board. You have gotten some very good suggestions, but I feel like I just had to add my 2 cents because we seem to have the same body type, although I don't bulk up easily.
For butt, thighs and calves, which are my jiggly areas, I've been rotating among Pure Strength Legs, Pyramid Lower Body, Slow and Heavy Legs, and a combination of the squats and lunges in Power Hour and Maximum Intensity Strength. I've been doing Cathe's workouts since May and my legs have never been trimmer. I use a maximum of 35 lbs. for leg work, which isn't really that heavy when compared to what Cathe and her crew are using, but so far it has been working for me. I can really see a lot of improvement in my legs since working with weights for my lower body. My butt, calves and thighs are sleeker and there's less jiggle down there. My jeans fit better. Because you don't want bulk, you can either skip the weights or use very light dumbbells on your shoulders instead of a heavy barbell. I don't have Leaner Legs, but I hear that's also a great lower body workout.
For a fit upper body without the bulk, I'd suggest again Power Hour and MIS. In my view, PH works on endurance and MIS works a bit more on strength. I lower my weights by about half when doing PH but I can handle more weight when doing MIS. I usually work a notch lower than Cathe, so if she uses 20-lb. dumbbells, I use 15's. If she uses a 30-lb. barbell, I use 25, and so on... Again, if you're avoiding bulk, just use lighter weights. You might also enjoy Cardio and Weights. You get to do more in less time.
For cardio, I love Cathe's IMAX 2, Power Max and Rhythmic Step. IMAX 2 has easier choregraphy but it packs a punch.
For washboard abs, I'd suggest that you get Ab Hits. I usually pop that in the DVD and do two or three ab workouts... whatever I can fit into my day. I also like to do all her ab workouts in the Intensity Series, which really works out your core. I do all three in succession twice a week. I don't have ripped abs yet, but my tummy is hard (under the fat
) and I can feel my core getting stronger. Used to be I couldn't hold those planks or do those pikes on the stability ball, but now I can do these exercises quite well, something I'm really amazed at because I've never considered myself physically gifted. I've been through many instructors, but only Cathe has given me this ability to get in touch with my body and work with it.
Diet is also important. I've been combining my Cathe workouts with the Zone eating plan, which I think has really helped trim my lower body. As for my abs... I guess it's just where my body likes to deposit the fat so I have to keep working on it.
I'd also suggest that you get a DVD instead of tapes. It's so much easier to design your own workouts (and when you do get the hang of these workouts, you'll want to create your own routines and rotations) when you don't have to keep rewinding and fast forwarding. There are players that can handle multiple discs. I have a single disc player which works just as well.
Good luck on your fitness journey. I hope you find something that works well for you.
Pinky