Hi, Lisa!
Last Sunday I spent at least two hours going through all the weight training books at Borders bookstore--there were so many! I was looking for exactly what you have mentioned. The problem was that most of them were "women's" weight training books and they were very wimpy--all the programs used about 3 or 5 pound dumbbells and were incredibly basic OR they featured competitive bodybuilders that were so huge you could see every vein in their body--not a pretty sight, really. It was difficult to find a good, serious, but not hard-care (i.e., bodybuilding 24/7) book!
I did end up finding a great one, though. I think you'd like it. It is for both men and women. The title is "Getting Strong" by Bill Pearl. It has everything you need to know in it: whether you are just beginning a program or want to get very advanced, he has a program for you and illustrates several routines and exercises for each bodypart. He shows lots of exercises using mostly free weights, a few using machines, but gives lots of modifications with those. I'm really happy with it; even my husband, who is very knowledgable on weight training (he was a Master Fitness Trainer for the Army) said it was a great choice. Bill Pearl used to be a competitive bodybuilder and is very well-known in bodybuilding, but he is very realistic and down to earth in his approach. It also includes sections on nutrition, supplements, injury, etc. I highly recommend this book!
Hope this helps!
Denise