Wedding Rant!!

CollinsMom

CollinsMom

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A little back story...
I am getting married in a few weeks on the beach in Nags Head, NC. We have rented a big house with 10 bedrooms so that all, or most, of our guests can stay with us. We are having a dinner after the wedding, then a more traditional reception once we return home.

Well, APPARENTLY there are several people who are unhappy with some aspect of MY wedding. My future MIL is moaning because she cannot have a king sized bed to herself!! Apparently one of the grandmothers said something about 'sand blowing in her face.' Then my fiance's mother tells me that MY mother said she wishes we weren't going out to dinner after the wedding!

I just don't understand why any of these people feel the need, or the authority, to pass judgement on MY WEDDING!! We have paid several thousand dollars for a very large, very nice house so that everyone can come and have a FREE vacation. And now they want to piss and moan about the size of their bed?? Or the sand?? Or -- heaven forbid -- we feed them after the wedding??

Sheesh, I don't get it. The day is about ME (and my fiance, of course;) ), and I should get to have it the way I want it!!! And not have to listen to other people whine about it!!
 
i'm right there with you girl. i'm getting married in a month and a half (may 10th) and i have some people moaning and groaning. what i'm doing is not getting worked up about it. you are absolutely right; this is YOUR day and noone elses. so just say that the next time someone opens their big mouth. we are having 150 people for our wedding so i've been hearing a lot of complaining. its impossible to make everyone happy so just focus on you and your fiance'. its important that you get through this with your sanity;-) Congradulations and good luck!!!!
 
Ignore them all. It is too bad they can't share in your excitement. I hope you have a wonderful wedding inspite of the complaining!
 
To add onto the previous post, I will be happy to come in their place. Your wedding sounds beautiful in a great place.

It IS you and finace's day, so have fun!!
 
Sounds like the kind of wedding/vacation I would LOVE to attend so I can't imagine what THEIR problem is. I don't understand why so many people feel perfectly justified in being rude, nasty, thoughtless, and downright hurtful. This erosion of consideration is like an American disease - and nearly everyone has the bug.
 
Awww, you all are making me feel better!!

You are all welcome to come to my wedding, but I can't promise you a king sized bed;)
 
I think EVERY bride goes through something like this! I don't know why (either) people have to chime in and whine about a wedding that they are invited to.
And whats this about inviting aunts and uncles that you don't even know? We had a smaller wedding (130 people) and I am from a very large family so it was only relatives and friends. But my MIL wanted to invite great aunts that we didn't even know? I never did get that.
I think people need to butt out...seriously!
If I was invited to your wedding on the beach...I wouldn't whine;) After all, we have gotten 110 cms of snow in the last week!

Lori:)
 
>Tell 'em they don't have to come. }(

exactly what i was thinking. it is YOUR day you plan it YOUR way and do what the hell YOU want.

if it makes you feel any better my MIL didn't come our wedding. neither did his step father but we were better off. every time they step foot in lynchburg,va they complain about EVERYTHING!!!

kassia

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YOU CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING,WHERE WOULD YOU PUT IT??

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Hey, I live in Williamsburg,VA, about 2 hours or so away....I've been in 8 weddings, maid of honor in some, I can cry on cue, I can sleep on floors, I can cook breakfast strata to feed an army, I'm almost 47, but still pretty hot (thank you Cathe and Retin A), so if MIL decides she can't come, I CAN! I'd make a wonderful mother of the groom!
Seriously, just ignore the rudeness, and if anyone has the bal- uh, audacity to say something directly to you, just smile, and shrug, and say,"we did the best we could with what we had, there are lots of hotels that might be more comfortable for you, so maybe you should look into it, because we want to remember this weekend as joyful".....

Congrat! Are the ponies going to attend? They have been plentiful this spring! I'm sure the dolphins will wave at you too!

You can't beat the Outer Banks for photo ops......
 
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>Well, APPARENTLY there are several people who are unhappy with
>some aspect of MY wedding. My future MIL is moaning because
>she cannot have a king sized bed to herself!!

Switch her to a twin size


Apparently one
>of the grandmothers said something about 'sand blowing in her
>face.' Tell her to wear a bag over her head



Then my fiance's mother tells me that MY mother said
>she wishes we weren't going out to dinner after the wedding!

She doesn't need to eat
>
We have paid several thousand dollars for a very large, very nice
>house so that everyone can come and have a FREE VACATION.

You said it the key word "FREE"

>
>Sheesh, I don't get it. The day is about ME (and my fiance,
>of course;) ), and I should get to have it the way I want
>it!!! And not have to listen to other people whine about
>it!!

You don't! this is YOUR day and it will be spectacular people won't be people unless they have something to complain about!

You could cancel your family and invite all of us WOW imagine the most buffest guests every!


beth6395

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-Cathe Friedrich
 
Katie~

Sorry you are going thru this. Your wedding sounds wonderful. I have nothing funny to say, wish I did:)... but I think this is a "right of passage" I don't know ANYONE, myself included, who's before preperations didn't get critised (sp?). Just decide you are not going to let it bother you! Don't sweat it-- I know, easier said than done. My MIL didn't do much of what I/DH had asked her to do. My mom told me, her MIL gave her issues before the wedding. I think your wedding sounds wonderful, take a deep breath, apologise for the small bed, BUT DON'T FIX IT!! You will hopefully be dealing with this woman for a long time, let it go. Once the day gets here, it will be all about you (and your future DH;-) ) and it will be great!

PS~ make sure your intended is on your side! if he is siding with future MIL, not good! x(

Enjoy your day! It'll be here and gone before you know it!
Sorry this is so long!!LOL
Deanie
 
That's the great thing about paying for your own wedding: you can do whatever the hell you want. And you should. My mom's big gripe was that I wasn't going to use Mendelssohn's "Wedding March" as I came down the aisle; his mom's bitch was that the service wasn't religious. Too bad. We did it our way, and still have great memories of OUR day and how we chose to do it.

Don't listen to it, don't think about,don't let anything concern you unneccessarily right now. It's going to be beautiful and you're going to have a wonderful day. A wedding is a very good place to start letting the families know that you and your husband will live your lives as you see fit, not necessarily as they want you to do.. Independence, baby. ;-)

As far as the beds go, if they complain too much, let 'em draw straws.
 
This is exactly why I've always wanted to elope and my fiancee and I will be doing just that next month in Paris.

As hard as it seems, DON'T let them get you down and ruin your spirit. It's all about you... and your DF! ;)
 
Sorry you have to be stressed about this. I think your wedding sounds absolutely wonderful and I would love to attend something like this! (I'll sleep on the floor with a sleeping bag!) It is YOUR day so, TRY not to worry. I am sure everything will be beautiful and I wish you and your future DH a wonderful life together! Can't wait to see pix!!!!


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My husband and I were looking at Nag's Head for a vacation. I'll be happy to be the mother of the bride or groom and supply my own dress! My husband is also a chef so we can also eat! Ignore them all and enjoy your day! When it's all over nobody will remember this. Take plenty of pictures!
Ellen
 
"We have paid several thousand dollars for a very large, very nice house so that everyone can come and have a FREE vacation. And now they want to piss and moan about the size of their bed?? Or the sand?? Or -- heaven forbid -- we feed them after the wedding??"

JMHO - they don't have to come. Since you're paying for it, they have NO input.
 
With our wedding (and everything else in life...), we've found that when confronted with similar situations, you can always give people an option.

They have the option of not going/participating, or taking what they're given.
They may not like the options that are presented, but that's not your problem!

Like another poster suggested, I would mention to her that there are many more comfortable hotels and dinigh establishments in the area that she may find more palpable. But this is what you're doing, and if she would like to join you, you'd be happy to have her.

Usually, that shuts them up! :)
 
THANK YOU FOR VALIDATING ME!!!

I'm glad to know I am not crazy, or alone in my situation.

BTW, you are all invited!! Can't promise a king sized bed, though;)
 
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