Very O/T- Modern Weddings

Candi-

Sounds lovely!! Aren't kids at weddings great? That is so cute that your granddaughter was your flower girl. It must be great to be such a young grandma. Your mat sounds lovely.

We had a table on which we placed photos and keepsakes from our parents and grandparents weddings. My DH's parents died just a year before the wedding, so it allowed us to feel like they were there with us. One of the best ideas I've ever had.

I don't know what my stepson wants yet! He hasn't announced his engagement yet, so all the discussion has just been between me and my DH. We're kind of preparing ourselves I guess. Just as well that we iron out our differences in advance.
 
I just love reading about other people's wedding experiences!! I posted yesterday about what I knew about invitation etiquette and all that crap--but when it comes down to it, the couple should do what they really want.:eek: Talk about a horror story--DH and I got married almost three years ago (I was 21 at the time and he was 22). My family has never been very religious, so I decided to try to please his family (devout Catholics) by having a Catholic wedding. BIG MISTAKE!!!
We began the preparation and attended all of the classes and stuff required by the priest that was going to marry us. Exactly 5 weeks before the wedding (the day before the invitations went out) the priest told us that he thought we needed couples therapy b/c we weren't right for each other!!! He was very degrading towards me and my family--I love how he waited until right before the wedding to decide all of this!!!x( He ended up saying that he would still "consider" marrying us on our date in the church if he could get a therapist's assessment of our relationship (at our own expense--$200 an hour to be exact.)
Well, I guess I'm a bit of a "fiesty" chick }( so I told him my thoughts in the most respectful way possible, them being that we would no longer require his services. I then proceeded to have a breakdown--all of the planning and preparation and misery and tears that I had suffered through for months;( and all just to try to please his family!! (DH said from the beginning that he didn't care where we got married, just as long as we did :D )
So, we tossed the invitations (printed, addressed, stuffed and stamped already--not to mention paid for) and had new ones printed. We decided to get married on the 18th hole of the golf course that my family owns (where we met and where I still work) and it was absolutely spontaneous and beautiful!!! People still talk about it to this day. Why didn't we just do what we wanted from the beginning? For trying to please others we wasted alot of time, heartache, and money!!! My advice from now on and forever is to just do what you want to do for your own wedding b/c after all, it's YOUR wedding!!;-)
 
Ashley,

OMG! You tried so hard to please his family...that really showed how unselfish you are.

In the end it sounds like everything worked out for your wedding. I'm sure it was beautiful.

p.s. I wonder how long the priest had been married since he's such an expert....wait, I think I know that answer:+
 
Well, my mother ruined our wedding plans but here's how I look at it. If the brides parents are paying for the wedding, they are the ones "hosting" it and their names are on the invitations. These days, it seems like both parents & couples contribute to the wedding fund and usually, the invitations reflect that. As far as who gets invited, if the parents are paying for the wedding, they should have a say in who they invite.

Beth
 
>Dani-
>Are we back to showers again? They seem to go in and out of
>style. When I was a young adult, engagement parties were all
>the rage. The old-fashioned showers seem like they would be
>politically incorrect today. What happens at a modern shower?
> I fear I may be hopelessly out of date.


Hi Nancy,

Here's a link to everything you'd want to know about Bridal showers.

My mom and my cousins are throwing mine.

http://www.theknot.com/keywords/sc_175_209.shtml

Here's one I like!

Q. Is it true that if the bride's relatives host her shower it seems like the relatives are soliciting gifts? Is this considered inappropriate?

A. Moms, sisters, or other relatives can throw bridal showers -- it's no longer a huge wedding faux pas, because now it's practical. More brides and grooms are living in cities other than the one where they grew up, and their attendants may be from college, where they live now, or elsewhere. What if the wedding is in the bride's hometown, but none of the maids live there? It's unrealistic to expect a maid of honor in Seattle to plan a shower in Chicago without help from the locals. Faraway bridesmaids and honor attendants definitely pitch in, but Mom is often party central these days, and no one's horrified
 
My SIL bridal shower was a lot of fun and it was an opportunity for me to meet her family.

One thing I did not like: The Maid of Honor passed out envelopes and asked us to address them to ourselves without any explanation as to why. I thought maybe it was part of a game. Well, it wasn't. A few days later I received SIL thank you card in the envelope I addressed. That kind of bothered me. Efficiency can be taken a bit too far.
 
Showers, etc.

Nancy,

DH and I were married when we were both 28, had already had a house for a few years, etc. Our folks gave us a "Jack and Jill" party/BBQ. Kinda like a shower, but for both sexes and a lot more fun (no weird party games - I really don't care for those). Gifts ranged from dinnerware to ski lift tickets.

Our wedding was also non-traditional. DH and I paid for it. No wedding party except for my niece, DH's nephew, and our two Boston Terriers, who were VERY well behaved. Ever try getting a small dog to wear tulle?

Our parents kicked in for certain parts of it as gifts (i.e. the cake). We had it at our house (we live in the country) and spent most of the budget on the food and "His & Her" kegs :) :) .

We didn't have any band or DJ, the reception entertainment consisted of horseshoes, Bocce, and softball. It was a lot of fun.

I say toss out the rule book. People will always remember the unconventional wedding they went to. Good luck!!
 
RE: Showers, etc.

That cracks me up, Bocce ball and horeshoes in the same proximity. What a hoot!!:7
 
RE: Showers, etc.

Sounds fabulous Gayle! (And no, amazingly enough, I've never tried getting any dog to wear tulle. LOL!)
-Nancy
 
I'm glad that everyone got a kick out of that story!! I'd post the whole thing, but it would take up a whole page--there's lots of twists and turns!:eek: :eek: :eek: But I hope that this helps to show that if you try really hard to please others (especially when it comes to weddings since there are so many people involved) you're just going to end up disappointing yourself. Don't get me wrong--other people's feelings should be considered, but don't obsess about it!!:) :p
 
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