Hi Ladies,
Thanks to those who responded to my resent question about my friends that I have sort of drifted away from (b/c they are a source of bad energy)and what I was suppose to do with their presents.
One more update and I will SHUT UP! This one takes the cake!
Needless to say,I didn't take your advice (which is weird for me b/c I was leaning towards just not bringing them to their house).I was thinkingabout it last week and I didn't want the presents myself,I couldn't return them and I sort of wanted to hold on to them just in case they brought something to my house.Its all about being prepared.When I started thinking about it again,I sort of wished that they had called me and made up some excuse why we weren't exchanging, one just built a new house and the other is on maternity leave.Good reasons not to exchange,if you ask me.It didn't bother me but I wish someone had informed me before I purchased gifts for them and the 3 kids.
So I thought....I bought these gifts for them....and I will give them to them.Not b/c I wanted to make them feel uncomfortable but b/c I bought these presents with these girls in mind and I didn't want them.I was hoping to drop them off at their houses and for their husbands to be home and I didn't have to make them feel uncomfortable.
I go to one house and shes not there.I leave them on the step.Prefect.
I go to the next house and the van of the other girl is in her driveway.Crap, now I have twoof them in the same room!
When I get out of the car,her mom is comming out of the house and she says..."perfect timing,the girls are just exchanging gifts BUT the babies are all asleep". Not so perfect timing!
I venture into the new house.I have never been in it before so I don't know where anything is.I look in around the corner and I say"helloooooo" No one answers. I don't take my boots off but I creep in around b/c Idon't have a clue what I am looking for.I can see one girl from this view and she says "come on in" and I say ,"oh, I am just on my way out of town and I am dropping off presents".No one says anything. And no one gets up.Very rude, I thought.When I start going in I can see that one girls eyes just going back to normal.She obviously did the big eyes and the OH my God!
It was the most uncomfortable feeling ever! The girl who owns the new house never showed me around it,she never asked if I wanted a cup of coffee when she asked the other 2 girls.You could feel the tension in the air.She barely spoke to me and this is the girl who could talk you blind.They were both saying..."our gift is in the babys room but the baby is alseep, do you want me to get it".I say "no thats o.k" Then they made a date to exchange gifts on the 27th.Im thinking don't do me any favors.
I hung out for about 20 min.It didn't get any more comfortable and I can't beleive I caught them when they were exchanging presents.Of all the times for me to blow into someones house, it had to be then.
Anyway,i can only imagine what they were saying when I left.No one showed me out when I left either.
I felt a mixture of emotions.Ifelt sad b/c I knew that they were talking about me when I left.I know what these girls are like.I hung out with them for 2 years.I don't think I felt left out.These girls could be great friends if they weren't consumed with the scale,diets and talking about everyone.And they do have great qualities.
I don't feel like exchanging with them on Mon.And I am not going to.I will see them both tonight and maybe I will tell them then how I felt about the situation.If not, I will tell one of them on the phone.I am just going to say,"I know we have drifted apart over the last couple of monthes,but I had these presents at my house for a while and I wanted to drop them off.I didn't mean to make anyone feel uncomfy and I could feel the tension in the room.And I also think you guys probably had the big chat about me after I left"
Everyone was silent,no one was hospitable,you could tell by the body language.
In my opinion,I think I have offically ditched these people for good.Its 5 less gifts I have to buy next year.
But I have to admit that I am the one who is probably hurt among all of this.I am not sure why,probably b/c I hate to know that people are talking about it.I don't want this to make us enemies but I think when I tell them how I truly feel they may get defensive.
I can't sit with them tomorrow night and open presents.Its just to fake...fake is the word I am looking for.Everyone is being fake....
anyway,I just felt the need to talk about it.
Lori
Thanks to those who responded to my resent question about my friends that I have sort of drifted away from (b/c they are a source of bad energy)and what I was suppose to do with their presents.
One more update and I will SHUT UP! This one takes the cake!
Needless to say,I didn't take your advice (which is weird for me b/c I was leaning towards just not bringing them to their house).I was thinkingabout it last week and I didn't want the presents myself,I couldn't return them and I sort of wanted to hold on to them just in case they brought something to my house.Its all about being prepared.When I started thinking about it again,I sort of wished that they had called me and made up some excuse why we weren't exchanging, one just built a new house and the other is on maternity leave.Good reasons not to exchange,if you ask me.It didn't bother me but I wish someone had informed me before I purchased gifts for them and the 3 kids.
So I thought....I bought these gifts for them....and I will give them to them.Not b/c I wanted to make them feel uncomfortable but b/c I bought these presents with these girls in mind and I didn't want them.I was hoping to drop them off at their houses and for their husbands to be home and I didn't have to make them feel uncomfortable.
I go to one house and shes not there.I leave them on the step.Prefect.
I go to the next house and the van of the other girl is in her driveway.Crap, now I have twoof them in the same room!
When I get out of the car,her mom is comming out of the house and she says..."perfect timing,the girls are just exchanging gifts BUT the babies are all asleep". Not so perfect timing!
I venture into the new house.I have never been in it before so I don't know where anything is.I look in around the corner and I say"helloooooo" No one answers. I don't take my boots off but I creep in around b/c Idon't have a clue what I am looking for.I can see one girl from this view and she says "come on in" and I say ,"oh, I am just on my way out of town and I am dropping off presents".No one says anything. And no one gets up.Very rude, I thought.When I start going in I can see that one girls eyes just going back to normal.She obviously did the big eyes and the OH my God!
It was the most uncomfortable feeling ever! The girl who owns the new house never showed me around it,she never asked if I wanted a cup of coffee when she asked the other 2 girls.You could feel the tension in the air.She barely spoke to me and this is the girl who could talk you blind.They were both saying..."our gift is in the babys room but the baby is alseep, do you want me to get it".I say "no thats o.k" Then they made a date to exchange gifts on the 27th.Im thinking don't do me any favors.
I hung out for about 20 min.It didn't get any more comfortable and I can't beleive I caught them when they were exchanging presents.Of all the times for me to blow into someones house, it had to be then.
Anyway,i can only imagine what they were saying when I left.No one showed me out when I left either.
I felt a mixture of emotions.Ifelt sad b/c I knew that they were talking about me when I left.I know what these girls are like.I hung out with them for 2 years.I don't think I felt left out.These girls could be great friends if they weren't consumed with the scale,diets and talking about everyone.And they do have great qualities.
I don't feel like exchanging with them on Mon.And I am not going to.I will see them both tonight and maybe I will tell them then how I felt about the situation.If not, I will tell one of them on the phone.I am just going to say,"I know we have drifted apart over the last couple of monthes,but I had these presents at my house for a while and I wanted to drop them off.I didn't mean to make anyone feel uncomfy and I could feel the tension in the room.And I also think you guys probably had the big chat about me after I left"
Everyone was silent,no one was hospitable,you could tell by the body language.
In my opinion,I think I have offically ditched these people for good.Its 5 less gifts I have to buy next year.
But I have to admit that I am the one who is probably hurt among all of this.I am not sure why,probably b/c I hate to know that people are talking about it.I don't want this to make us enemies but I think when I tell them how I truly feel they may get defensive.
I can't sit with them tomorrow night and open presents.Its just to fake...fake is the word I am looking for.Everyone is being fake....
anyway,I just felt the need to talk about it.
Lori
