As an educator, I am a strong supporter of Everyday Mathematics. It works. I teach 5th grade and my students have been exposed to it since kindergarten. The teachers at the high school express how grateful they are to have the students able to perform at such a high level. Our devotion to the program has produced outstanding results on our state standardized tests and national testing we do via the NWEA. Our students score higher compared to those in our area and meet or exceed the national standard based on the norms established by NWEA.
Yes, it is frustrating to learn when you have been taught a totally different method. I used to teach 7th grade language arts and science in the middle school, but was bumped and ended up in the 5th grade. I had to learn the program in order to teach it. I am not a math person, but I have such a better understanding of math than I have in my whole life.
I did a lot of coursework this summer in order to renew my teaching certificate. The classes I chose were about 21st century skills that our kids need in order to be marketable in the work force. Everday Math forces you to think and be creative to solve problems. It doesn't matter how you do it, we are teaching strategies and different ways to think about math.
Basic math facts are critical and I tell my kids that all the time. By the 5th grade they should be rote memory by now. If you don't know them, you better be practicing at home. And yes, our 3rd grade teachers work their you know whats off to teach them how to learn them.
I suggest that you go to the school board to express your concern, they are the ones who adopt the curriculum. Honestly though, I don't think you will have a lot of luck. Most states have adopted the Common Core Standards (6 have not) and it is all based on higher level thinking and being able to explain how and why we do what we do when solving math problems.
I want to reiterate that I do understand your frustration, but the world is not what it was when you or I grew up. Change sucks, but that is the way it is. You can go to a new school to make you feel better, but how long before they adopt practices that you don't like?
Good luck, I wish you the best. These are just my thoughts as a very passionate teacher.
Gloria