Connie, you are driving yourself nuts...and not having fun with your food. I've been on programs that tried to make food or different foods (like sugar or fats) the enemy. Food is our friend, as is water! It's not WHAT we're eating that's killing us...it's how much we're eating. For me, it's all about portion control. I eat good, just too much
But you're looking for foods you can eat that will make calorie counting either unnecessary or easier.
We buy the light breads from the local bakery outlets, very fresh and they come in whole wheat, Italian, and white varieties. The calories for two slices come to only 80, the carbs to 19 grams, the fiber is 5 grams, and the protein is 4 grams. Makes sandwiches not only possible, but these breads (DH favors the Italian, but the whole wheat is tasty, too) taste pretty good
Fruits are carbs, too. But many are loaded with fiber (I favor apples, you remember the old saying...an apple a day keeps the doctor away?). We also eat a lot of bananas (a local market carries them cheap), and I won't turn up my nose at canned fruit or lite fruit juices (I'm drinking reduced sugar cranberry juice mixed with diet lemon-lime soda and it's become a favorite morning ritual...with plenty of ice!).
You've gotten some great advice here. Hopefully it will make you feel better about eating and help you enjoy your food more!