Sorry need to vent...(long)

wow, I feel bad for her husband. That has got to be difficult to work with in a spouse. Perhaps as her friend you could talk to her. she could end up losing her husband and all of her friends, as well as raising a brat, if she doesn't shape up. I would definitely talk to one of my friends if I thought that was the case because I love them. I am happy that boy at least has one parent with sense.

Missy
 
maybe when she is done sulking she will take those words and learn something from them. at least one parent took a stand.

kassia



When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
Hi!

I am just flabbergasted at the goings on with children at this time! My two youngest asked me the other day if I knew how much $$ they were getting from Grandma and Grandpa this year (they were trying to figure out what they were going to purchase with it). I actually went the F off! I told them that I was sick of how children are acting about Christmas these days and if their Grandparents showed up on Christmas Day with nothing but a hug and a kiss for them they WILL be grateful and say "Thank You." End of conversation!

I put a lot of blame on the out-of-control parents also. So many of them have their heads so far up their kids butts that they can't see they've stopped "parenting" and have become "friends" with their children. There's plenty of time for that when they're grown and have moved away!!!!

Sorry to vent myself, but I've pretty much had it with a lot of stuff that goes on during the holiday season!

I don't blame you for being angry one bit!!!!

Dianne
 
I'm with Missy - thank heaven that boy has at least one parent who is a parent.

I still say buy him a gift and donate it in his name to the children of Katrina.
 
Good for you, Diane!! I couldn't have expressed it better myself. I don't have kids but I've watched my SIL with my niece and what a disaster! My niece is an out of control 19 year old with 2 or 3 DUI's to her name and my SIL bought her a car---WTF!! My SIL has never been an authority figure in the eyes of her children. She's always tried to be their friend. Consequently, her kids have absolutely no respect for her at all. Soooo sad!

Michele
 
Thanks, Michele.

Unfortunately, my husband and I are among the very few parents with children my youngest age that don't agree with the way things are going. For instance, one of my youngest daughter's friends - my youngest is 12 and her little friend is 11. This friend has a boyfriend. Yes! A boyfriend. We're talking 6th graders here. The boyfriend's mother took both of them to the mall and had their pictures done! You know - like you would for an engagement announcement or something of that sort! Also, these kids are having boy/girl birthday parties too!!! I told my daughter that she was not allowed to attend anymore birthday parties for her friends if this was going to happen. She's not able to understand at her young age of 12 that it's totally inappropriate because EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING IT!!!! Boy is it ever a struggle to raise children these days!!!
My eldest is 19. She's wanted her driver's license since she was 16. Of course, her grades wouldn't allow it and she didn't have a job so she didn't need to have her license. So, upon graduation this past June - she was given a car by her father, she then practiced for her license, got them and within a week had a job. I'm happy to say that she's employed full time now and is paying me rent!!! That's how I believe in raising children!

Sorry to ramble!!
Dianne
 
I'm with Christine - buy the gift and send it to the Gulf Coast. And while you're at it - do the same thing with her gift!! I'm sure some appreciative Mom down there would love whatever you would have given your friend. Give them each a card indicating what you've done and let them explain why, if they aren't happy with it. They clearly are both extraordinarily selfish people and having it pointed out in a tactful, thoughtful way such as sending their gifts to the needy would certainly do them both a world of good!! Gosh, if her husband sees this, how does he put up with it. That would drive me crazy.
 
Dianne, you sound like one of those "mean" moms...I think I was so-called a few times when my girls were younger. Now that they're older (28 and 26 and married, no children though...drats!), it's so nice being able to be not only Mom, but friend as well! All those years of just being "mom" do pay off. I won't get started with the behaviors I see in children these days...I wouldn't have dared to act like so many of them and thank God my girls didn't either! (Made it easier for me:))

Now about Desi's friend...I love your loyalty, Desi. That girl needs a friend like you; she also needs a man like her poor DH, though I doubt she can see this.

I agree with buying them both gifts, but sending them to Katrina/Rita victims and sending them cards to this effect. Hopefully they'll learn something and it is a lot nicer for you and them than buying them nothing at all.
 
i was just thinking too that this might teach both to be a little more grateful for gifts they are given. i know i am saving up a jar of change and singles,then on monday we are taking it to a coinstar to cash it all and donating to a charity. and when we are at the store instead of whining for a sticker viola drops a couple dollars into the salvation army bucket. those bell ringers are so nice too they let her ring the bell and say "merry christmas" to everybody.


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>I agree with buying them both gifts, but sending them to
>Katrina/Rita victims and sending them cards to this effect.
>Hopefully they'll learn something and it is a lot nicer for
>you and them than buying them nothing at all.
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kassia



When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
Lydia -

You are exactly right. My child tells me that her friends think I'm a "bitch." I told her that's exactly what my friends used to think of my mother and raising us that way worked just fine. They won't understand until they are much older!!! I look back now and am very, very grateful to have had the strict upbringing! My parents and the three of us children, the youngest being 40 now all get along very well!



:) :)

Dianne
 
I'd say your Viola is learning the joy of giving!!! (And btw, the best part of the Christmas gift giving for me is watching everyone opening their gifts and realizing I actually got just what they wanted and needed!...it's more fun that opening my own stuff and that's a lot of fun for this "grown up" kid!!!)
 
>I'd say your Viola is learning the joy of giving!!! (And btw,
>the best part of the Christmas gift giving for me is watching
>everyone opening their gifts and realizing I actually got just
>what they wanted and needed!...it's more fun that opening my
>own stuff and that's a lot of fun for this "grown up" kid!!!)

and this is an autistic little girl that can't understand half the time what you are trying to say to her but had her do it once and now she wants to give money to every bell ringer she sees. i think she gets what i try to explain to her,about its good to give to others who don't have as much as we do, so hopefully she understands even though she doesn't communicate that she does.

kassia



When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
Desi,

IMHO that woman is nuts. No, that is not the new thing and it is just plain rude! If I were you I'd skip on giving that kid anything this year. Seriously!
 
Diane,
On this note, my DD is 9 and the other day she asked if she could go to the mall and hangout? I just looked at her like she had 10 heads.This is a small town so its not the fact that it isn't safe but she is way to young and i will do everything is my power to keep her from becomming a mall rat! So anyway, i say no and she wonders why when her friend who is standing next to her is aloud to go.I try to tip toe around my words b/c I don't want this child to take anything back to her parents that I may have said.
So about 2 weeks later we are at the mall and when we get the the barbie aisle, there is the little girl with another friend.Dressed up with purses! 9 years old!?:eek:
And then the other day another friend came over and she telling a story and it went " the other day when my friend and I were at the mall...." again another 10 yr old, unsupervised at a crowded mall.I think the parents are getting to cheap to pay someone to watch them if you aks me!
Lori:)
 
If I were Santa, I'd put him on the "naughty" list and not give him anything! Or maybe a lump of coal.

That is a lot of gaul. When did children start to feel so entitled? And when did their parents start to endulge them so?
 
I think it was VERY rude of HER and she taught him a lesson in poor behavior.

That said, I always call all the parents of the kids I'm getting presents for and ask them what is on the wishlist. We have a set spending limit and the kids know this (they are all old enough to know-age 8 and older). This cuts any potential rudeness (and disappointment) off at the pass. And it is still a surprised because each kid has quite a list, and only the parent knows what everyone is getting to avoid duplicates.
 
I don't have kids, yet...but I've already told hubby that I almost feel sorry for our future kids, because they will NOT behave this way with me. We've already talked extensively about how we will raise our kids, and even though I understand some unexpected things will come up, we have a pretty good foundation to rely on for how they will be raised. We've already got some of the rules down: An hour of TV a night only after homework is done; no PlayStations or GameBoys - period; they will do more than just sit in front of a TV or computer screen; no TV in their room until they are older (like, high school); if they want a car, they will come up with the money, and dad and I will match what they come up with up to, say, $5000. They will get a job in high school and at least half their paycheck will go into a savings account that they won't be able to touch until they're 21. Once they finish school (whether they finish at high school level, college level, or whatever) they will have a set amount of time to get a permanent full-time job and their own place. If they don't, they will start paying rent, buying their own groceries, and paying for a portion of the bills. I will not support an adult who is capable of supporting himself.

There's going to be a lot of tough love in my household when we have kids, but I know that it will be worth it, and that it's my job as a parent to make sure I raise well-balanced kids into well-balanced adults.
 
Okay, what I want to know is, it sounds like the people here and their DH/SOs are great parents...how come there are so many obnoxious kids in the world?! You guys need to give parenting classes or something. :D

I was raised in a pretty strict home so I am continually flabbergasted at the kids I see today, especially the disrespect they have for their parents and adults in general. I would not buy the kid a thing.

Do want to say though that I'm not sure her DH should have called and disparaged his wife like that. His feelings seem perfectly justified but IMHO he should have conducted his business with his wife at home and left it at that. My two cents.

Sparrow
 

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