RE: so, how many still have great personal girlfriends ...
Hi there! Well, I am about to turn 50 this year, and this is a very sensitive subject. We moved constantly during our 20's, 30's and early 40's (this is my eleventh house, fifth state). This is torture on friendships. That said, I still have one best friend, even though she is 3,000 miles away. I have a couple of others that I can catch up with with just a phone call. Sadly, others seem to be gone for good, can't even send them a card at Christmas...
I do have some good friends here where I live, even if I do not have the history with them. That will grow, I hope. We've been here 8 years and it has only been in the last two or three that these friendships have grown. Sigh...
Children play a HUGE part in your ability to make and keep friends. Often, friendships grow out of common activities with your mutual children. Mostly, though, when you have teenagers, it is enough just to keep your own schedule on track, let alone find time to see friends.
With all our transitions, I have tried to treasure the special moments with people I may not know well. Like sharing moments on a bike ride or a hike (lots of opportunity for that here in northwest NC). My goal for my 50s is to appreciate where I have "landed." I have a quote on my computer at work that reads: "To have a good friend, be a good friend." It is so easy to get wrapped up in my own life, I hope to improve my friendship skills as I enter the next phase of my life (next year another graduates from college, one graduates from high school).
Hi there! Well, I am about to turn 50 this year, and this is a very sensitive subject. We moved constantly during our 20's, 30's and early 40's (this is my eleventh house, fifth state). This is torture on friendships. That said, I still have one best friend, even though she is 3,000 miles away. I have a couple of others that I can catch up with with just a phone call. Sadly, others seem to be gone for good, can't even send them a card at Christmas...
I do have some good friends here where I live, even if I do not have the history with them. That will grow, I hope. We've been here 8 years and it has only been in the last two or three that these friendships have grown. Sigh...
Children play a HUGE part in your ability to make and keep friends. Often, friendships grow out of common activities with your mutual children. Mostly, though, when you have teenagers, it is enough just to keep your own schedule on track, let alone find time to see friends.
With all our transitions, I have tried to treasure the special moments with people I may not know well. Like sharing moments on a bike ride or a hike (lots of opportunity for that here in northwest NC). My goal for my 50s is to appreciate where I have "landed." I have a quote on my computer at work that reads: "To have a good friend, be a good friend." It is so easy to get wrapped up in my own life, I hope to improve my friendship skills as I enter the next phase of my life (next year another graduates from college, one graduates from high school).
