JeanneMarie,
Oh I agree with you! I really don't mind having such white skin, but I hear comments All. The. Time. (yes, what other people say shouldn't bother me...). It is odd because people always remark how pretty and creamy white my face is but then I hear comments how white my legs are. They are the same color, IMO. I don't hear comments on my arms, which are also the same color.
For me, I think it is the fact I live in a very hot climate - wear shorts/skirts almost year round and since I wear SPF, I don't get a tan at all whereas everyone else here does. So I stand out. I also think it is because I am not blonde hair, blue eyed therefore am "expected" to be a bit darker.
My whiteness doesn't really bother me that much until I wear a black skirt and black shoes - then even I think I need to add color.
A few months ago I went to my yearly dermatologist appointment to check for any moles. I am sitting on the table with nothing but underwear on when the dermatologist walks in, looks at me, and says "Well, I see you don't get out in the sun much!" I replied "That's a good thing, right?" It was just odd he remarked the way he did. I thought it was funny.