>I’ve taught the D.A.R.E. Program at many grade levels and for
>16 years. I found over the years the children’s behavior in
>the classroom to be getting worse year by year. In my opinion
>the problem lies with the (don’t want to hurt their felling
>attitude). When they are adults and do the wrong thing, the
>punishment that is given will not take their feeling in
>consideration. Our children need to get the feeling of pride
>in good behavior. With little or no consequence for bad
>behavior, there is no incentive to behave well. We need to go
>back to some of the old ways, Parents and children need to
>respect the Teachers authority in the classroom.
>It use to be, the child get a note from the teacher saying
>Johnny was bad, the parent would punish the child. Now the
>parent calls the teacher and insist that Johnny isn’t bad, the
>teacher just ask too much of poor Johnny. Then when the
>Police need to deal with Johnny, who never had to deal with,
>or has no respect for authority, problems happen.
>Yes, put their name on the board.
>Yes, post their grades.
>No, don’t give everyone a ribbon just for competing in the
>Spelling Bee. The winner 2nd and 3rd place.
>
>THE WORD IS INCENTIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!
>
>We need to instill goals in our children lives. They need to
>understand, Mommy and Daddy support them, but they need to
>support themselfs too. They need to learn to respect
>authority. We as parents need to show them how by not
>undercutting the teachers authority.
>
>Climbs off my soap box, and sits quietly in the corner....

>
Bill, I agree 100 percent. I worked in daycare and at a summer camp for a number of years back in grad school, and it always amazed me that parents were not bothered by their kids bad behavior so much as they were by the fact that the kids were made to suffer consequences for it! We had parents tell us that putting kids in time out was a public humiliation, that banning kids from field trips would scar them forever, on and on. If were a parent I think I would be more concerned with my kid's behavior earning him or her an embarrassing grade in citizenship than I would be with the fact that it was posted for others to see. Public consequences for bad behavior are a part of life; seems to me like the teacher has found a way to start teaching that early. (Sara, not directing these comments at you, I have no idea of the specifics of your situation, it's just a general comment)
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