Question about Love

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Skyeblu

Cathlete
Hi all, was just thinking about how couples get together and when you know he/she is the one. Was wondering how many of you (or your husbands) thought from the first date that this was it for you, it just felt different than any other person you'd dated. And what I really am curious about is how many of you who thought on the first/second date that this was it actually ended up marrying them later.
..........just wondering
:)
 
actually I never thought about marriage when I first got with my husband. I was only 18. But a yr or so down the road I didnt think we would get married but we did. We have been together for 19yrs.
 
I wasn't necessarily thinking about marriage right away but I knew he was different ;)


"you miss 100% of the shots you never take"


Debbie
 
I definitely knew right away. I was actually seeing someone else when I met my DH and he tricked me into going on a date with him. I was so intrigued by him and comfortable with him - he was different than any other guy I had ever met. A week later, I broke up with my boyfriend and told my father that I was going to marry this new guy. We've been happily married almost 19 years now and I think he's even more special now than I did then. :)

Erica
 
I walked into my husbands front yard when I was 16 - looked over and saw him - and thought - I am going to marry him someday. We were also next door neighbors.(He lived on the hill behind me.) I moved into the neighborhood when I was 13 but never met him. Well, we married when I was 21 and we are still married 25 years later. Now before you all think this was some kind of fairy tale come true, we dated on and off for 6 years. We have had the usual hills and valleys over the last 25 years, but 3 great children later I can't imagine doing it any differently.
BTW - I told him when I was 17 - after dating for a year - what I had thought that day and he said I scared the he** out of him.
 
I knew on our first date that we were supposed to be together.

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
I don't think I knew right away either b/c I had just gotten out of a long term relationship and really didn't mean for this one to happen! LOL

I di remember being at his house with him, when his sister said that their mother said earlier that day that she thought I was the one Dave was going to marry. She was right.:)

Even when I knew he was buying my engagement ring I was nervous.

Lori:)
 
I met my husband at work. He noticed me before I noticed him, but when I finally did "notice" him, I just knew. I can't explain it. I just knew. It took him nearly two years to finally get a clue and ask me out (I did NOT want to be the one to ask him out), but we were friends the whole while. I did tell him how I felt about him at one point, but he kind of blew me off (it's a wonder we ever went on a date, come to think of it). He said that he just wasn't interested in dating "right now" -- maybe someday, but he was focusing on his job (he'd quit and found a different job from the one where we'd met). So, one day, I finally just said, "Look, I don't want to be just friends with you anymore, and if you don't want to be more than friends with me, then I think we need to go our separate ways and move on, because it's just too hard for me to be around you if you don't want to date me." So, we stopped talking and hanging out...and about 2 1/2 months later I emailed him for something...and then he emailed me back and was like, "I've been such an a$$...I hope it's not too late...I've missed you and really want to talk to you, etc." We started dating that week, and we both knew right away that that was it. We were almost planning our wedding within that first month.

It took me telling him I didn't want to see him anymore (even though we were just friends) for him to "wake up" and get serious about me. Let that be a lesson to any woman who can't seem to "close the deal" with a guy. :7 Sometimes you need to become inaccessible for them to realize what they've got! Once they have to work a little harder to get you, they'll appreciate you more when you're around.
 
I met my husband at work. A few other girls had their eyes on him and I never really understood what the big deal was about him. I was seeing someone else at the time...

After I broke up with the guy,Jerry asked me out. I said yes, more out of curiosity that anything else. He made me laugh. I felt so at ease with him from the first moment. We were engaged after dating for 6 months so I think we both knew pretty early on it was meant to be. We'll be celebrating our 15th anniversary this summer. :)
Susan
 
I told my roommates after my first date that I was going to marry him and I did--a year later. We've been married for 21 years now. But like another poster said, we've definitely had our ups and downs. The peaks really don't mean all that much until you've been down in those valleys.

Michele
 
> But like another poster said, we've definitely had
>our ups and downs. The peaks really don't mean all that much
>until you've been down in those valleys.
>
>Michele

Gosh, that is so true. I'm only two years into my marriage and I've already learned that. I've also had to learn that not every rough patch is the end of the world, and couples can and do work things out. DH is much better at this than I am.

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
I talked to my husband for 7 hours during our first phone conversation. According to him after this conversation he went into his brother's room and woke him up at 2am and says, "I am going to marry that girl." This story was part of my BIL's toast at my wedding.



KIM
 
We had been dating for 5-6 years and I was approaching the age to start thinking of marriage. I remember asking myself what I wanted in a husband and then realizing that the guy I was dating and living with had all those qualities plus some. Prior, I was too young to think about marriage, I needed to focus on college. I felt very lucky to be hooked up with such a man. Still feel very lucky! We've been together 14 years, married (almost) 7 of those years. No man is capable of treating me as good as he does!
 
My DH and I met at a summer job. After we started dating, I just knew we would break up at the end of summer and go our separate ways. Well it has been 25 years since then and we couldn't be happier. Dated 3 years, been married for 22. More in love with him each year. I didn't even know that was possible. I always thought love would fade over time. It changes, yes. You don't get to keep the honeymoon stage forever. But, what we have now, I wouldn't trade for those honeymoon days.

Jean
 
I knew right away...Must have been the green eye that twinkled??? He was the one, the moment I layed eyes on him the 2nd time...The first time I'd been married for 2 weeks and SO happy (it's funny how getting married 5 days after a child is born will do that!)...The 2nd time (4 years later) it was love at first (ok, second) sight...He still swears up and down that had I not been married a few years earlier...

MJ
 
These stories are great .

Even for me who really believes - it is just not in the cards for me.

I've been a single mom 16 years. I've had (and still have wonderful guy friends) Sadly my boyfriend/best friend for 6 years (he would say I was the female him and he the male me) passed away 5 years ago. My son has medical issues since 04 so I just haven't been open to a relationship. Last week I went out for a drink with a friend and things really clicked - conversation flowed - we laughed alot - and there was a spark - he was the combination of my 2 best guy friends and the guy who passed away. It was so nice but then a few days later he said he didn't expect things to go this way and appologized and hope we can be friends. I replied I really DONT want to lose the friendship. Today I heard from him it was really nice.

You guys give me hope that even at this point - but I just can't hibernate (the way I felt last week) Thanks - great thread :)

Catwoman I always tend to go the friend route so your post really hit. I may PM you sometime - ok?
 
Met DH in a gym of all places . . . Don't they say you should try to meet people doing the things you like to do?!?!?! Anyway, at the time neither one of us had any business looking for a mate but we also could not help ourselves!!! We moved in together two months later and have been inseparable for 10 years now. It was surprising to both our families because we are both so independent and career focused. But we both knew that first meeting at the gym that this was it.

We have a great marriage that is centered on a partnership. We do not fight with each other but we have overcome many obstacles and dire straights TOGETHER. Over the years and through some pretty tough stuff our bond has strenghtened even more. There is no one else in the world for me - I know that for certain!
 
I met my DH in law school. I did NOT want to marry a lawyer or be with a lawyer. After a week of blowing him off BADLY, he persisted. We dated for about 3 months, became engaged and married almost a year later. We've been married for 6 1/2 yrs now. It wasn't easy at first but we stayed together and get stronger every year. Sure, the honeymoon phase isn't there anymore but our love is still there. Now we have 2 wonderful, stubborn boys. Some people know right away this person is the one. Some people take years.

Lisa
 
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