Hello again,
Well, I’ve finally managed to weed out of my ex-boyfriend his real reasons for ending our relationship.
The one that hurt the most and is the most hypocritical is this - he himself has been divorced for 10 years and has a 13 year old son that he has full time custody of. I embraced and took on his son as if he was my own child and got along extremely well with him. Hypocritically, my ex-boyfriend he has now said he was never prepared to do the same with my own son!! I have gotten over the sense of loss about this guy because I realise I’ve had a lucky escape but this made my blood boil - he accepted that I was great with his own child but was not prepared to do the same for my own.
The plot thickens as his ex-wife is an erratic drug addict and a real financial liability to him since he pays her alimony and would have been a real strain for us had we stayed together. Meanwhile, my ex-husband and my son’s father, for his sins, is a very responsible father both financially and emotionally and would rather die than have another man bear any responsibility for his child. I only get maintenance from my ex for our son and nothing for me since I have my own successful career.
This is all so depressing. It seems that men are even more selfish than I ever imagined. It hurts to think that he was looking at my son and thinking of responsibility when I embraced his own child so openly. Surely this is very wrong on his part or am I missing something here?
Your advice, as always, would be very much appreciated. I am so thoroughly fed up!!!
Well, I’ve finally managed to weed out of my ex-boyfriend his real reasons for ending our relationship.
The one that hurt the most and is the most hypocritical is this - he himself has been divorced for 10 years and has a 13 year old son that he has full time custody of. I embraced and took on his son as if he was my own child and got along extremely well with him. Hypocritically, my ex-boyfriend he has now said he was never prepared to do the same with my own son!! I have gotten over the sense of loss about this guy because I realise I’ve had a lucky escape but this made my blood boil - he accepted that I was great with his own child but was not prepared to do the same for my own.
The plot thickens as his ex-wife is an erratic drug addict and a real financial liability to him since he pays her alimony and would have been a real strain for us had we stayed together. Meanwhile, my ex-husband and my son’s father, for his sins, is a very responsible father both financially and emotionally and would rather die than have another man bear any responsibility for his child. I only get maintenance from my ex for our son and nothing for me since I have my own successful career.
This is all so depressing. It seems that men are even more selfish than I ever imagined. It hurts to think that he was looking at my son and thinking of responsibility when I embraced his own child so openly. Surely this is very wrong on his part or am I missing something here?
Your advice, as always, would be very much appreciated. I am so thoroughly fed up!!!