Not happy news

[FiddleFit]

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately, I have become one of the 30% of women who miscarry in their first trimester, and my pregnancy ended yesterday. The fetus stopped growing at 8 1/2 weeks, and I had a spontaneous miscarriage, at 11 weeks. I'm feeling good and over the past 24 hours have come to terms with the loss. The miscarriage was relatively pain free and quite natural, and I should be back to my old self in a day or two. We plan to try again, in which case I will rejoin you all on the pregnancy forums.

Take care everyone! If people feel like they want to offer comfort, then I ask you to please do it by telling me something very positive that has happened to you recently, or please make me laugh. I've already cried enough for the bunch of us.

I wish you all the best of luck in your pregnancies, and consider all you exercising-mamas a big inspiration.

Sandra

 

[DebbieH]

Awww Sandra! I'm sorry. You have a great attitude. Many, many that miscarriage the first time around have successful pregnancies after. Glad you plan to try again. HUGS 2 U!!!
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!

 

[stayfit]

I have rode your message and I did not know what to say. I am so surprised about your great aptitude. My mother miscarried in her first pregnancy. The girl, she was a girl , was premature of two months. Her loss was a hard experience to my parents but in one year my mother was pregnant again, pregnant of me. I have a brother one year younger than me, that means my mother was pregnant again one year after. Do not worry I am sure God is going to bless you with healthy children soon.

 

[JannaL]

Sandra,
Sorry to hear about your news. My sister-in-law miscarried at 10 weeks; that was September 2000 and the beginning of December 2001 they had a beautiful little boy. I couldn't imagine life without him.
I noticed you are from Edmonton. I lived in Edmonton for a few years (originally from BC). Loved, loved, loved it. I miss the river valley so much! I now live in Houston, Texas....go figure. I took a teaching job down here a couple years ago.

Anyway, take care of yourself. You are a strength for all women on this forum who will go through this or who have gone through it.

Janna

 

[emy]

I'm very sorry! Your positive attitude is quite inspiring, however. Good luck to you.

 

[Erin-F]

I'm so sorry!

When I miscarried a few years ago, I have never been so sad in my life. But 6 months later I conceived my beautiful baby girl Becca, who is a boisterous 18-month-old now. If I hadn't lost the baby I did, I wouldn't have her. It doesn't make me GLAD I miscarried, but it has helped me make peace with it. We can't imagine life without her. She weaned herself yesterday -- a big step toward leaving her babyhood behind. Is that a happy thing to share with you? Well, it's bittersweet. On the one hand I will miss the special closeness that our nursing time brought us. On the other hand, she is moving forward in her great adventure of growing up, and I cherish every milestone. (Plus I won't mind at all giving up the ugly drop-front bras. Bring on the lace! Heads up, Victoria's Secret! Here I come!! -- Okay, so I'll miss the enhanced-sized boobs, but VS has assistance for that too. )

I know you've already cried an ocean of tears. You'll cry even more. Don't put expectations on yourself of when you "should" be feeling better. Grief is an individual process, and you need to work though it in your own way and at your own pace. I'll be praying for you. <<<<<<HUG>>>>>>>>>>

Erin

 

[JulieMom]

Sandra,
I'm sorry for your loss and hope you get pg very soon again with a healthy pregnancy. I know ttc can be stressful, I'm trying myself right now. So I hope you can allow yourself time to get refreshed and get back in the "saddle" when you are ready. My grandma had mc after her 3rd child and had 3 more healthy pregnancies afterwards. Keep in touch!

 

[Jennifer V]

Oh Sandra!

I e-mailed you. My prayers are with you.

 

[jaypea]

Sandra, I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I don't know of anything funny or of any jokes right now, so I would just like to send you a huge hug and let you know that I am thinking of you and your husband.
-Jen

 

[Sheila Watkins]

Hi Sandra,

I am right there with you. It happened to me too. 15 months later we were blessed with a very healthy baby boy. Here is a big hug for you. We are all here if you need to "talk." It is so nice to have this big "forum family." Keep in touch.

Take care of yourself,

Sheila

Sheila Watkins, MLSci.
Founder and National Program Director
Healthy Moms(R) Fitness
www.healthymomsfitness.com and www.healthymomsnc.com

 

[endorphin_junkie]

Hi Sandra: I experienced a miscarriage with my 1st pregnancy as well and am sorry for your loss but admire your positive outlook. I miscarried in June of '88 and the following May gave birth to my first of 3 daughters. I can't imagine life without my eldest, Elizabeth, funny how the universe unfolds sometimes.
I look forward to reading your posts on the forums and wish you much comfort and joy in the months and years to come.

Take Care
Laurie

 

[purple_magada]

Sanda I am so sorry for your loss. I know how emotionally hard it is. I miscarried last Nov 11. My baby stopped growing at 5 weeks and I lost the baby at 8 weeks. You sound like a very strong woman and I applaud your positive outlook. I will keep you in my prayers. Big HUGS to you!

 

[mckeev5]

Sandra,

I am so sorry for your loss. I too have miscarried, I lost one between my second and third sons. I was between 7&8 weeks. It is a hard thing to go through. We knew there was something wrong when we couldn't see a heartbeat. Big hugs to you and your husband.

 

[FiddleFit]

Thank you to everyone who has offered their sympathies and support. My body has returned to business as usual, and I'm feeling physically very good. I'm still trying to get used to the idea that I'm no longer pregnant, and that makes me very sad at times, but that's normal.

You are all a very kind, generous group of people, and I appreciate all of your support.

Thank you,
Sandra

 

[FiddleFit]

Janna,

How nice to hear from someone else who loves Edmonton! I'm not sure you would have liked it here last week. We had our first snowfall on September 9, and it was cold, cold, cold. Very different from Texas, I imagine.

Take care,
Sandra

 

[melanalyus]

Sandra, I just said a prayer for you. I"m glad you are doing well. I"m so sad for your loss...

**Melanie**
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94

" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"