Need help with binge eating!

weahdo

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I need help with a problem I have been having with binge eating that has been getting steadily worse. I am having a lot of problems in my job that are causing an abnormal level of stress and anxiety. I'm currently looking for a new job but haven't been able to find one yet.
I suffer from depression and have tried many medications to no avail. I am actively seeing a doctor for the condition.
My main problem is that when I feel insecure or stressed, I feel an irresistible need to go to the store, buy a large amount of junk food, usually candy, and eat all of it.
I have read self-help books and liked the information in them (it made sense to me), but I still can't seem to help myself when I get into these situations. I know that I'm looking for comfort in the food and that this is irrational. I tell myself that what I'm doing is illogical, but I still can't seem to stop.
I love working out and have discovered Cathe in the past few months. I know that what I'm doing to my body is horrible, and I'm offsetting any strength/cardio gains with the weight I'm gaining.

Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone been in a similar situation? TIA for any help you could provide!
 
Hi and welcome to the forum.

I'm sorry I don't have any really good advice for you. I do want to offer you a {{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}} and say please do not beat yourself up over this. I know others who have/are dealing with this will post very helpful advice.

I just wanted to offer a {{{{{{HUG}}}}} and remind you that every day is a chance to begin again.

Take care.
 
Like Melody, I have no advice for you but stick around and keep checking back. Many here have walked in your shoes and I'm sure they'll be happy to share their wisdom. In the meantime have a {{{{{HUG}}}}} and welcome to the forums.
 
>I
>feel an irresistible need to go to the store, buy a large
>amount of junk food, usually candy, and eat all of it.

This sounds almost like a type of obsessive-compulsive behavior (though I'm no psychologist). The fact that you actually get out of the house to buy the junk food and get it home and eat it makes it seem that way to me.

Is there no step along the way that you can 'short-circuit"? Like not going to the store? Not picking up junk food when you are there? Not eating it when you get home?

It's hard to avoid the bad stuff if it's around, so my usual suggestion would be not to bring it in the house, but your difficulty seems to be that you DO bring it into the house.

Sorry I can't offer any suggestions beyond looking into books that deal with OCD and see if there are any specific suggestions there.
 
I am too familiar with this. On and off during my life, it's always been an issue, and I usually could deal with it, but last fall it became all-consuming (no pun intended!). I tried diets, reading books, looking on the internet, months of trying anything new... finally I called a therapist that specializes in eating disorders. She said I am a compulsive/binge eater. Therapy was worth every cent I paid. I started out going once a week, and the very first week had some tools that really helped me. Not tricks, like don't eat after 8, or don't keep tempting foods in the house, or keep your hands busy doing needlepoint - no, real things that address the underlying problems.

It's been a year and I don't eat when I'm upset (or when I do, it might just be at a meal or two and I can recognize it and stop it), I know how to prevent the stress and emotions that I bottled up beforehand. I just go for therapy when I think I really need to, which is maybe every few months.

I was at the point of depression when I went last fall, and I don't feel that way at all now. The first few months were up and down, which is perfectly normal, and then it all seemed to just click!

Feel free to e-mail me if you'd like, and best of luck and hugs to you!!!!:)
 
Sure have been in a similar situation! I did a lot of binge eating in my youth, especially during times of stress. I have found that eating sugary foods causes me to want more sugary foods. For me, and perhaps for you, sugar and simple carbs are highly addictive. When you find yourself starting to binge, try adding some protein to what you are eating. Although the binge is caused by your emotions, the protein can help you to feel more satisfied and eliminate the cravings and stop the binge in its tracks. High fiber foods are good too.

Another way of handling it is to buy some foods that are less damaging. For example, I love Guiltless Gourmet tortilla chips and eat those when I get a case of the munchies. I may get some bean dip or salsa or something else that I really love that isn't too bad for me. I can "pig out" but not really gain any weight. I think it's important to avoid too much weight gain when you're feeling depressed, as the weight gain can cause you to feel even more depressed. "Damage control" can make a big difference.

BTW, I don't believe in trying to deny yourself at such times, as that always backfired for me.

HTH,
Nancy

ETA: I just read Dayna's post and I think her recommendation and I think her recommendations are much better than mine.
 
Overcoming Binge Eating

I understand. I have been there. During my darkest hour, I was drinking 18 to 24 cans of Dr. Pepper a day and chewing 100 pieces of gum a day. I was totally addicted to sugar. It was not unusual for me to consume 20,000 to 30,000 calories in a 24-hour period, and I literally ate until I passed out on several occasions. I finally came to the end of myself on July 4, 2003, wrote a letter to the Lord surrendering food and my weight to Him, carefully tied it to a bouquet of helium balloons, and released it. Indeed, it was Independence Day! I have never been the same. I have walked in victory over compulsive binge eating for over 3 years now, so freedom is possible.

There are no easy answers. You cannot fight this on a purely physical level. I believe it is critical to deal with the spiritual and emotional reasons you are turning to food for comfort. Counseling can be very beneficial. As a believer, I have experienced freedom through Bible study (especially Beth Moore’s Breaking Free) and prayer. Journaling is a very powerful tool as well. It will help you discover the reasons why you binge and so much more. I cannot find words to describe how this simple exercise has radically transformed my life.

The way I deal with temptation varies because there are different reasons for eating when not hungry. If I am tempted to eat because I am bored, reading a book or watching a movie or finding a project to do helps. If I am tempted to eat because I am sad or upset, writing in my journal or calling a friend to talk through it helps. I have an extremely stressful job. When I am feeling stressed and anxious, I take a walk or do a fun cardio workout. When I am feeling stressed and exhausted, I take a nap or light some candles and enjoy a warm bubble bath. Some binges are triggered as a result of deprivation or trying to follow a strict diet. I agree with Nancy that deprivation leads to disaster. Avoiding legalistic diets and learning to eat intuitively has been very freeing. I also believe it is important to deal with the root issues. This will take some digging, and this is where it helps to have a counselor who has experience with binge eating.

Based on your post, it sounds like you are a stress eater. Carbs are natural anti-depressants. I personally avoid low-carb diets. A plain baked potato is the best natural anti-depressant I know. I have been through seasons of severe depression when I was in a funk and could not even motivate myself to get out of bed to go to church or go out with friends. I have been able to recover from depression by eating plain baked potatoes. I know that I am vulnerable to seasonal depression. When I feel that tidal wave of depression washing over me, I limit or eliminate animal protein and start eating more plain baked potatoes and plenty of fresh fruit. This has kept me from needing drugs to treat depression. This is most effective when the baked potato is eaten alone with no protein or fat. In general, I like to eat a good balance of carbs and protein every few hours. When an emotional crisis hits, I focus on eating more plant foods and more raw foods. I also have food allergies and sensitivities. Eating something like MSG triggers horrible cravings. It is critical for me to avoid processed junk. I agree with Nancy’s suggestion to eat cleaner versions of what you are craving.

I encourage you to get to bed as early as possible, bless your body with restful sleep, enjoy fun workouts that bring you joy, and find some ways to cope with stress that do not involve emotional eating. Fuel your body with clean and simple foods. Eat when you are hungry until you are satisfied. Avoid processed junk. Eat more whole grains, potatoes, fresh fruits, and veggies. Remember that carbohydrates raise serotonin levels. Protein and fat does the opposite. If you are binge eating because you are sensitive to carbs, you may need more fiber or a little more protein as Nancy suggested. If you are like I was and are attempting to self-medicate depression, eating more protein may backfire on you. I suggest keeping a journal to discover how different food combinations influence your mood.

I am a big believer in a whole person approach to health and fitness. Find a good counselor, but do not underestimate the healing power of nutrition. Finding the right ratio of carbs and protein will take some experimenting because everyone’s body is different. My body thrives on 60 percent carbs, 20 percent protein, and 20 percent fat. Dropping my carbs much lower than 60 percent is a recipe for depression. Here is an article on food and mood:

http://depression.about.com/cs/diet/a/foodandmood.htm

Breaking free from the hell of binge eating is hard work, but it is worth it. You are worth it. I will keep you in my prayers.

Blessings,
Heather B.

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31 NIV).
 
Just thought I'd add that I totally agree with the nutritional aspect. Food affects us so much, many times we don't realize it. Once I had my bingeing more under control, I saw a nutritionist my therapist recommended. She specialized in eating disorders AND sports-related diets, so I felt like I was getting optimum nutrition for normal eating AND Cathe workouts!
 
Have to agree with Heather re: the spiritual aspect. I was binge eater years ago (like 25 or so) brought on I think by crash dieting (long story). anyway, for me I can attest to having trusted God through Jesus for healing. Do find a counselor to help you through this, because it can be overcome.
 
Thank you so much! I keep reminding myself that any small step is a victory and a step in the right direction. It doesn't have to happen all at once. Yesterday I wanted to go the gas station (my favorite haunt) on my way home, but I didn't! WOO HOO!
 
I think that going to a therapist,a hypnotist and then a licensed dietician/nutritionist to try to tackle this would help you tremendously. I have never seen a hypnotist for this problem, but one did help me get over a phobia. I think you need to find out why you are binge eating and try to get to the root of the problem in order to solve it. If you don't like one of those options, try others - keep looking for a solution and don't give up on yourself!:) Don't be so hard on yourself either:) Take care!
 
Thank you Nancy! I was reading a book that said that in each meal
you should try to have a fruit/vegetable, a grain, and a protein.
This is just a general rule. I have been trying to follow this
because I'm a vegetarian and I don't think about protein much.

Thanks again!
 
RE: Overcoming Binge Eating

Heather,

Thank you SOOOOOO much for the information. It really helps to know that someone else out there has been through this. I am so used to ducking in and out of the gas station, hiding candy wrappers, etc., because I'm ashamed of this. My husband and I joke that my favorite restaurant is 7-11!

I agree that it is really essential to address the root causes of the issue. For me, it's not an issue of willpower. I am seeing a
counselor, but I'm having a hard time being patient, because it seems like we're not making much progress. I know that it takes time.

Thanks again!
Christine
 
Thank you! I am going to an acupuncturist for my depression in a few weeks and I will mention this as well. You never know...
 
Walking in the Light

Christine:

Which book you are reading that encourages eating protein, a grain, and a fruit or veggie together? That is the way I eat, and it works for me. I eat a whole grain or a starchy veggie with fruit and/or non-starchy veggies and protein.

Reading your response to my post reminded me of all the secrecy and shame. I remember all too well the days and nights of sneaking around to buy food and hiding evidence of my binges. I ate until I was sick to my stomach with pains in my chest and fighting for every breath, but I huffed and puffed and hauled the trash out to the dumpster every night. I was afraid that I would die in my sleep and did not want anyone to know what I had done. I lived in fear and shame.

There was a moment in time when I surrendered control of my eating to the Lord, but that was preceded by a long journey. It will not happen overnight, but it will happen. Keep pressing on!

I also encourage you to start walking in the light. No more secret eating because secrecy breeds shame. I took a bold leap of faith right around Memorial Day in 2003 and decided that I would not binge in secret ever again. I gave myself permission to eat as much as I wanted of what I wanted when I wanted it. But I stopped hoarding and hiding food. I went to all-you-can-eat buffets. I ate fast food. I ate fried food. I ate candy and other junk. I overate for sure, but I started sitting down and eating more consciously instead of stuffing down food on the run. It was a bold move. I had to get over my self-consciousness and concerns about what people would think of someone my size eating junk in public. By the 4th of July, I was ready to break free for good because food was not satisfying me. Yes, I gained weight. It was worth it. I could not go straight from binge eating to clean eating. Even after I stopped binge eating for good, it took years of baby steps and gentle changes to get where I am today.

Feel free to respond here or send me a PM anytime if you would like to stay in touch. I will keep you in my prayers. Congratulations on your 7-11 victory!

Blessings,
Heather B.

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31 NIV).
 
RE: Walking in the Light

I have to tell you guys that everything happens for a reason. I haven't been on this forum for a while and just figured I would come and see what is happening. Well this thread got my attention because I have been dealing with this issue for waaaaaaaaaay too many years and needed this to get me to find an eating disorder specialist/therapist. I have tried to get this under some sort of control with temporary success only to go back to the poor habits which results in regaining the weight (and a few more pounds) and as we all know the cycle starts again because you feel so guilty and like such a failure that you just want to throw your hands up in the air.

So I thank you for starting this thread.

Lynn
 
RE: Walking in the Light

>
>Which book you are reading that encourages eating protein, a
>grain, and a fruit or veggie together? That is the way I eat,
>and it works for me. I eat a whole grain or a starchy veggie
>with fruit and/or non-starchy veggies and protein.
>

Heather B.,

Sorry, but I can't remember exactly which book it was that said this! But I can say that it was one of the following three:

"Fit From Within" by Victoria Moran
"Runaway Eating" by Cynthia Bulik and Nadine Taylor
"The Instinct To Heal" by David Servan-Schreiber

I think it is the third book. There is a chapter in this book on nutrition and preventing depression.

HTH!
Christine
 
RE: Walking in the Light

Lynn,

I, too, believe that everything happens for a reason. I'm new to the forum and posting in general, so could easily have not posted this at all. Best of luck in your endeavor and feel free to e-mail me if you ever need support!


Christine
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Reporter: 225 MPH! I didn't think a woman could drive that fast!
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