Lowered sex drive....suggestions??

Not Dr. Ruth or anything here but maybe you just need to spice it up in the bedroom, or somewhere else, to give it more spontaneity.

I guess it also depends on the relationship you have now, the kind of guy that turns you on physically as well as emotionally, if you've just recently come out of a relationship. Alot of other factors could be at work here besides physical ailments.

Here my prescription, take a girls night out, go to a strip-club,(fun as well as sexy) see if anything sparks your libido, then take all that built up libido back to your boyfriend, he won't know what hit him:p

Just my 2 cents...


Carrie
 
>Maca root can help balance hormonal levels, and is said to
>help increase sex drive. You can get it at www.eatraw.com or
>www.rawfood.com .


Thanks Katheryn, I ordered some of this. I'm having problems with my hormones levels. I'm so darn moody! I've been told I'm perimenopausal......and the hits just keep on coming!
In my next life, I want to be a man:+
 
Well, I would argue with the point that "most women over 25 have lowered s*x drives," as I am nearly 40 and mine has never been higher. I have several girlfriends with the same issue. The one thing in common is that none of us take bc pills any longer, even though most of us are on one AD or another. I will say that years ago when I took Zoloft, that was a libido-zapper for me, but once I stopped taking it, things were back to "normal."

I would be very careful of taking herbs or supplements along with your AD without first talking to your doctor (who I hope is a psychiatric care specialist and not a GD, who IMO have very little business prescribing this stuff because they mostly have no clue how it works). Some herbs or supplements can interact with the meds in your AD, so you need to be informed before going that route.

I do hope it works out for you. I'm in a situation a bit like Nancy in that my SO is just not into it like I am. It can be very problematic at times (as a matter of fact, we had a huge fight this weekend about this because I end up feeling like his lack of desire is about me, even though intellectually I know that's not the case). I think communication is probably key here.

Good luck!
Marie
 
I absolutely lost my sex drive while on the pill (I'm 28). I've since gone off of them and noticed a difference almost immediately. I do have two kids, so that certainly takes it's toll:p , but it's gotten much better.

Kelly
 
Marie,

I was hoping someone would mention the fact that "natural" therapies can be dangerous. Macca root or anything else should be researched and discussed with a doctor before trying.

There are pros and cons to any type of medication that is ingested.

I'm going to try the Suzanne Sommers book.
 
>> Macca root or anything else
>should be researched and discussed with a doctor before
>trying.

Most allopathic doctors know squat about alternative treatments. Naturopathics doctors are a better bet at having information.

Brendan Brazier has researched Maca, and tells about it in his book "Thrive."
 
Katherine, AMEN sista! If a person wants to take an herbal suppliment they are best to see a naturopathic doctor to get a recommendation. Your regular OB is not going to know much about herbal remedies.
BTW, I'm in the same vote as most of you ladies with the lack of sex drive. But mine has never been all that high anyway. In the beginning of my relationship with DH, yeah, we were like bunnies. That lasted about a year, maybe. But we have deeper issues than just a lack of sex drive these days that we are working on. That's just one of the things in the pile that needs work. Sigh...

Kathy
 
Well, since you asked; certain foods can cause lower libido in women. If you are in your 30's there is no reason for you to have a diminished sex drive; you are still in your childbearing years. I had no desire for sex when I was on birth control pills. Otherwise, the following foods can disrupt the female sex drive:

soy (I feel this isn't food fit for man nor beast but that is a whole new can o' worms...)
caffeine
white flour
sugar
commercial vegetable oils (ie. "vegetable oil", canola oil, etc.)
pesticides

The following foods are particularly good for reproductive heatlh:
eggs
anything containing vitamin A (not B-caronene), vitamin D (natural source), iodine, and zinc
butter and seafood
 
No you do not need to accept this as a part of life. Sex is a very important "part" of a relationship, and a visit to your Healthcare Provider would be helpful. Everyone is unique in what is their "normal", so it is very hard to compare yourself to others. The most important question is, are you okay with it? If not, then you can seek your answers to better your situation. My sex drive is much stronger in my 40's, than my 20's and 30's. At a "marriage enhancement" seminar, Dr. Mark Rutland said, "sex is like the oil to the engine of your relationship. It will not run smoothly without it." Sometimes you just need to get started, even when you are not "in the mood", and as you said, you will naturally get "into it". He also said, in reference to foreplay, "men are like helicopters, and women are like 747's on the runway!" I thought that was a great analogy! Sex is a gift to enjoy, and as you said, you miss how you used to feel. There is so much help out there. Oprah had female MD's, the Berman sisters on her show, that both have practices specializing in sexual advice for women. Their website is www.newshe.com. Good luck!
 
Exercise affects my sex drive. When I work out intensely, I have little interest in sex. I had some minor surgery last Friday and am not allowed to work out for two weeks. Now sex is all I think about! Of course, I won't mention this little observation to my husband. Then he'd probably throw out all my Cathe workouts!
 
Mine is just the opposite. My sex drive increases with exercise. I have to say that L-Arginine helped. Unfortunately, it made my period unbelievably heavier!
 
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