Julie,
I'm sure Kathy has much more knowledge about this than I do, but according to Tom Venuto (Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle), you should eat at least every 3 hours to keep your metabolism burning at a steady rate. If you go more than 4 hours without food, especially without protein, your metabolism starts to slow down. Also, your body doesn't store protein like it does carbs, so if you don't keep your body continually fueled with protein, your muscles start to break down. (Now wouldn't that be defeating the purpose of working out!) I've been eating 5-6 meals a day for several months, I just have to work on the little details about the type of carbs and protein I eat. For example, as Kathy says, it's better to eat sweet potatoes than wheat bread. And according to Tom Venuto, tapering your calories so that you eat less at by the end of the day is better because your metabolism is slower by the end of the day. Yes, eating the least for dinner is hard for me, too, because I'm used to sitting down and having a nice meal. I'm going to take Kathy's suggestions and only eat my starchy carbs during my first 2-3 meals of the day. I will be living on oatmeal, sweet potatoes, chicken breast, salmon, and veggies! We're the same size/height, so let's try this together and see how buff we can get!