Just another rant!

[gidget1978]

I just need to get this out of my systom! LOL

After I had DS, which will be a yr tomorrow! I got invited to a baby group. Alot of the babies were older then DS but I went for the company anyway and there was also 3-4 more babies DS's age.
Shortly after I started going they started collecting money for the babies birthdays. Not much, just $10 but 3 of them turned 1 at the same time so that was $30 and then after that it was $10..3 seperate times. I stopped going to baby group in the summer and one of the babies turned one after I stopped going and I was floored one evening when one of the moms showed up at my house for the $10! I couldn't beleive it but gave it to her and sent her on her merry way. In the meantime she kept saying to those of us who had younger babies "I know it seems like you are giving out alot of money now but when your babies turn 1 you will get it all back" It was stupid anyway cause everyone was just passing around $10, we were better off keeping our money and calling it even! LOL I didn't beleive for a minute that our babies would receive a red copper b/c all the moms were going back to work.
Anyway, one girl I talk to on a regular basis that still goes to this baby group (moms who don't work) said that the girl who had collected the money in the beginning talked to one of the other moms and they decided not to collect money anymore...WTH? I was sooo pissed! Not b/c he actually needs anything but I chucked out $60 for kids I don't even know! So there are 3 of us that aren't gonna get zip! Its not fair! One of my friends said that I should invite them all to his b-day party, that way they have to bring a $20 gift instead of $10 but I don;t want a house full of babies...its not worth that. If I were them though, I would feel awful! Even if no one else wanted to put in $10 I would have to buy the baby something.I just wish I were bold enough to say something the next time I see the mom who decided to call it quits. IMO I think they should have finished what they started. One of the moms who is getting jipped though will have the nerve to say something so they will eventually find out they we aren't happy about this.
There..now I feel better!

Lori

 

[golfer4]

Sorry that this is happening to you. Sounds like you are being almost forced to give a gift... which isn't how it should be. When a person gives a gift, that is what it should be, a gift from the heart and asking nothing in return. Sounds like this group is not getting that.

 

[dss62467]

I knew there was a reason I didn't join Mom groups when my daughter was a baby. I just chalked it up to my antisocial tendencies. The whole thing sounds dumb. If you're friends with the people, you'll buy their child a gift on their birthday. That chick showing up at your house is just ballsy, clueless, or both.

 

[golfer4]

Oh and Lori wanted to add your little boy looks so adorable!!! You have such cute kids... more in the future??

 

[BAM]

Lori, oh man, I saw that one coming. Very, very frustrating!x( I have to tell you that I've often gotten the short end of the stick many times so now if I'm in situations that I could potentially see something like that happening to me, I ask the "what if" questions. Most of the time the response I get is "Hmmmm, I never thought of that." Well, I sure have, based on experience. I'm sorry you had to dole out that money but at least you'll know to question anything similar (not necessarily relating to kids) in the future which will be more valuable than the $60, trust me!;-) It will be interesting to see if that other woman says something and what response she'll get. Please let us know if you hear anything.

Bam

ETA: I think you're totally in the right to say something to them about this. You mentioned that you wish you were bold enough to do so but if you won't be seeing any of them again, (except the one mom that agrees with you) you have nothing to lose but can gain some of the BOLDNESS you desire! :7 Go get 'em! }(

 

[kellymom]

Lori-

I got mad for you just reading that! I don't think you'd be out of line at all to tell them you agree that the group should stop collecting money--but only AFTER every mom who contributed in the past had received a turn. How utterly inconsiderate of them!

Kelly

 

[cjbate]

I have never heard of a mom's group doing this.

 

[SarahM]

I wish they waited until all of the kids got their " birthday gift" to change to rule. I find it rude to cancel when 3 kids are left!!