Is your SO/DH a jealous or possessive person?

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Cathlete
Just curious about this.... mine is really not, although when we broke up last year, he was really freaked out afterwards about another guy I had been seeing. (I think this was because he was entangled in a serious rebound relationship with someone else - SKANK ALERT - and projecting this onto me.) }( }(

Curious what your experiences are...

Marie
 
Mine use to be. He was absolutely horrible when we were dating. He was so jealous of everyone I talked too, I walked on eggshells around him for years. Then we got married and he seems to be more relaxed about everything. Now its all I can do to make him jealous. Weird, I know, but he has done a complete 180 since the day we met.
 
Oh yeah baby. We're BOTH incredibly possessive and jealous of each other. Lots of fireworks at our house. It has settled down quite a lot because we've been together 4 1/2 years now. In the beginning it was quite tumultuous.
 
We are both very secure in our relationship. Jealousy has never been an issue in the 30+ years we have been together. Although sometimes DH gets mad when I treat people at work or on this forum better than him. He often sees the nasty side of me. And he still puts up with me. He's a good guy.
 
I would find it so oppressive if my DH was the jealous/possessive type, and he would as well. We feel very secure in our love for each other.

Michele
 
You know, I've been cheated on SO many times, that regardless of how wonderful I know my SO is, it's difficult to get over that.

For crying out loud, I was dating a guy who GOT MARRIED while we were going out!x(
 
I know what you mean, Shelley. I went through some real toads before I found my prince. The 70's and 80's were horrible decades for dating. Everyone was into one night stands.

Michele
 
>You know, I've been cheated on SO many times, that regardless
>of how wonderful I know my SO is, it's difficult to get over
>that.
>
>For crying out loud, I was dating a guy who GOT MARRIED while
>we were going out!x(

Amen, Shelley! I've been bamboozled time and again. I had one boyfriend say, I'll call you later and we'll figure out the plans for new years. He NEVER called me back. Never heard from him again. To this day I don't know what happened. I will say though that that's not as rough as having someone get married while you're dating....

Anyway, I'm jealous but have gotten a lot better.

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
Once upon a time in the late 70's, I was heads over heels in love with this guy and was pretty sure he felt the same way about me--until he informed me that he was getting married to another girl because she was pregnant. He called me on his wedding day to say how much he loved me and he couldn't stand the thought of going through life without me. I hung up on him and haven't talked to him since. Can you imagine the unmitigated gall!!? By the way, they are divorced.

Michele
 
I used to be very jealous, especially very early in our relationship. Neither of us was very mature or secure with each other or ourselves. Now, it is very different!!! I could stay out all night and he wouldn't care, same with me. I guess that is because neither one of us would. :) I trust him when he goes out, and vice versa. We don't hang out with any questionable characters, and we are friends with each others friends so it is all good! :)

Missy
 
My Dh is not. He use to be jealous of my ex who I have 2 daughters with. But now they are cool with each other. Like when my ex drops the girls off my DH will invite him in for a drink. We've even invited my ex and his girlfriend, who use to be a very good friend of mine from high school over for a party. The real funny thing was when my DH and ex went hunting last month for 4 days together, everyone was like "I hope they dont hunt each other". Anyhow the only time he really gets jealous is if we go out and someone tries to talk to me. He gets so funny like the "shes mine" attitude, He get real ticked for a second or two then hes over it. I should be jealous of him because hes real friendly and flirty. I think he does it on purpose sometimes to get a rise out of me, but I dont give him the satisfaction even though sometimes I am.


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I think we had the same issues that every new couple had, thats about it.
I moved here and at christmas time I would go home and alot of his old girlfriends would come back to town for christmas and I hated that! But like I said, that was early on.
Neither one of us is jealous now but we don't have any reason to be.Im sure if we were out somewhere and one spent to much time talking to someone of the opposite sex, we make get a little annoyed.Even if it were an innocent conversation.
I also don't tell him if I am at work and someone passing through makes a comment or says something.That sort of irritates him a little but I guess he wonders why someone would say something to someone elses wife.I guess some people just don't care.
Lori:)
 
>You know, I've been cheated on SO many times, that regardless
>of how wonderful I know my SO is, it's difficult to get over
>that.
>

Shelley I know how you feel girlfriend! It's extrememly difficult.
My ex-husband was a real piece of work! Let me tell you!

Thank goodness for understanding SO's!
 
My dear boyfriend, with whom I have been for over two years, is a very jealous person. Most of the time, I never give him any reason to get upset, but I remember a time a year and a half ago when he freaked out when I went out with another man. Since then, I have been devoted to him, and he is very good to me.
 
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