Is this inconsiderate or what?!?!

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Cathlete
Hi everyone. I really need to vent and where better than here, right?!

Today was our Girl Scout troop's cookie booth sale at our local grocery store. I am the cookie mom. We had it from 12-5 and broke it up into 2 groups. So the second group was 2:30-5:00. We only had 3 girls for this one and the three mom's decided to run some errands while the girls were selling. No big deal, it's actually easier sometimes when the mom's aren't there because the girls tend to be better listeners for other people. So by 5:00, our booth was all wrapped up and all that was left was me and one girl. I was tired, I'd been standing on a concrete floor for 5 hours straight and hadn't eaten for 5 1/2 hours, and the mother didn't show up until 5:35!

I was so upset that I was shaking by the time this woman pulled in the parking lot. Her poor daughter asked me every 2 minutes where her mother was and why she hadn't picked her up yet. No phone call telling me she'd be late. I tried her cell phone 3x and it went directly to voice mail. And to top it off she didn't even apologize when she got there. I made it very obvious that I was upset and I'm sure she knew it, but I didn't say anything because her daughter was right there.

I am just floored. I would be mortified if I was 10 minutes late picking DD up from somewhere, never mind 35 minutes late.

Am I wrong to be upset? Not just for me, but for her daughter as well.

Okay, I feel better and thanks for listening (reading)!
 
First of all, WTG to another cookie Mom! My 2 dd's are in GS also.

And yes, that is VERY inconsiderate.... not only to you but to her dd!! That poor girl probably wondering where her Mommy was?? And then not apologizing.... yes I would be upset too!!!

BTW, how did your sales go? We did a cookie booth at McD's which worked out really well. The girls stood kind of in the parking lot close to the drive through and did a lot of business!
 
Melissa, I think it was totally inconsiderate!! Try not to let it get to you-it's totally not worth it to let someone have that much power over you. Maybe the next time you see her you can tell her how worried you were about her when she didn't show up on time and see how she reacts. Maybe she was just too embarrassed or in too much of a hurry to apologize. Doesn't make it right mind you. Just a thought.

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Thanks Catherine, your response really makes me feel a little calmer about the whole thing. I'm actually glad I didn't say anything at that moment. I might have regretted it later.
 
Hi Jess! I remember reading that you are a GS cookie mom too!

Thanks for your response. I really felt bad for the girl. I tried to keep her mind occupied by asking her lots of ?'s about school and stuff, but she was really worried.

I love the drive through at McD's idea! Glad it worked out well for your troop and I'll have to keep that in mind for next year.

The girls did really well on their sales, thanks for asking. If I had to guess, I'd say that they sold about 20 cases today and we have about 7 cases left for tomorrow's sale. And those should sell out pretty quick. Or at least I hope they do since my feet are killing me!! I'll have to remember to wear sneakers tomorrow instead of boots. Bad choice!!!
 
Yes, it sounds like this mother used you for a babysitter! It was truly inconsiderate and I would have said something to her. Did she offer an excuse as to why she was late?

I would have been angry as well.
 
Not a girl scout mom here but a cub scout mom and former samoa (well, I still love them if that's what they're still called...) lover, so can I comment ? :)

This happens to us at virtually every den meeting we have. Our meeting is only one hour so I realize this doesn't give much time to go and actually do anything or run many errands, but we have one mom that is at least 20 mins. late almost every meeting. I agree, it is very inconsiderate.

I think cub scout and girl scout leaders are very much under appreciated, and I've found parents are not only irresponsible for getting requirements done and things turned in on time, but they are late for meetings,too! Our den leader (I'm asst leader) is way too soft and doesn't like confrontation, but all she does is create WAY too much work for herself.

One more year...that's all I have left. I don't think parents put near as much effort as they should, though. It's all frustrating.

So, in short, I would've been angry as well esp. after standing on concrete all day and she probably went out and had a wine spritzer with her bff's and just lost track of time, lol...but, as another poster said, don't let one a**hole ruin your day :eek:

Heidi
 
Hi Reese. No, she did not offer an excuse as to why she was late. She didn't even acknowledge it at all. Which of course made me madder!

Hi Heidi. Of course you can comment. And samoa's are still samoa's in some states. In MA they are called carmel delights, but same cookie. I agree that the leaders are very under appreciated. I am not a leader, just the volunteer cookie mom. It amazes me how many parents I have had to chase to turn in their cookie forms on time and/or pay for their cookies on time. It can be very frustrating.

Every year I say that I'm not going to do it the next, but when the time comes, I do it! And I do really enjoy it and the girls have so much fun. Most of the girls don't go out and sell their own cookies, usually it's the parents bringing them to their workplace and families, so the booth sale is their chance to sell and boy are they good at it. It's just stuff like this that gets to me.
 
Maybe you could suggest she start her own den of the Mom Beeeyatches club and then you can tell her where to shove some cookies :7
 
Melissa, I am sorry. That was VERY inconsiderate, especially with no explanation! I hope tomorrow goes better. Eat a PB sandwich cookie for me, K? I think they used to be called Gauchos?? And, don't forget to wear your tennies! Thanks for helping all those precious lil' girls!


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Totally inconsiderate... but not entirely surprising in this day & age!! I once had friends show up two hours late for dinner!
 
Good point Beavs. That's exactly what I wanted to do when I got home, stuff my face with something bad. And PB sandwiches are my fave, Debbie!

I didn't do it though. If I did, I would have been even madder!
 
Melissa,

Yes, that was very incosiderate and I'm sorry that happened. I hope you don't have to deal with that woman again.
 
Another parent who took on coaching and various cub/girl scout as well as Parent's Club activities.

After a few times I finally figured out what worked for me. Take the child to my house and have the parent come pick them up there so I could get my dinner started.

Surely a bummer, but after about 15 minutes I'd get tired of waiting.

Just remember that you are doing it for the kids:+ That's what calmed me down many times !
 
Very very incosiderate. You on the other hand was very considerate. Me and that lady would have a talk. Not in front of the kids but I would have to point out for future cases sake that she needs to pick up her child at the time stated. She must be one of those people who think their time is much more valuable than anybody else. I had to vent for you being late is a pet peeve of mine.

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You have every right to be peeved. In my experiences working with elementary and middle school students, this happens A LOT. Early drop-off, too.

In college, I worked at an elementary after-school program, and there was one family where the parents were chronically late - anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. It got to the point where the program director one time had to have the police take in the child when the dad was almost two hours late and no one could be reached. It truly is parental neglect. The director also threatened to terminate the child's participation in the program if it happened again. Those two measures eliminated the problem. How sad it had to come to that.

IA, I would speak to this mom about it.

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You have every right to be upset and I think the mom should be spoken to. Perhaps it is not your place to do it, but SOMEONE needs to let her know that what she did was inappropriate and is not to happen again. Being a few minutes late is one thing. Even being MORE then a few minutes late so long as you made a phone call and got an OK from the person whom your child is with is fine but to just show up over 30 minutes late w/o warning and then have the audacity to not even APOLOGIZE is simply ridiculous! x(

I don't know how you didn't just haul off and the punch lady right in the face!;)
 
I have had parents late picking up their kids more times than I can count. It's so rude. I can fully relate. If this is the only time you experience it, consider yourself lucky.

The latest is when my 15DS had his 13 year old GF over for dinner. "Mom" was supposed to pick her up at 9 or 9:30. She didn't show up until midnight. Calls to her only got the response "I'm on my way." Yes, it was a Friday night, but I was tired and wanted to go to bed at 10:30 - and that's something you don't do with two "in love" teenagers under your roof.

I was so mad when she finally arrived. But I didn't want to make a scene in front of the kids and just stayed in the other room when she was at the door. Maybe I'm chicken. Or maybe I didn't want to say something I'd regret.

Diane

P.S. - Being a volunteer parent is often a thankless job. Kudos to you!
 
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