Candi- there ARE selfish parents, but as many selfish parents there are GOOD LOVING parents..I'm sorry that you feel our responses are immature..I feel that yours is quite warped. Just because you and your husband have witnessed neglect on older children does not mean that is the norm,I think the opposite is true. For the record my childhood bit and I am very conscious of everything my parents said and did, that makes me try that much harder to treat my children with the love and respect that they deserve. They are told they are loved everyday, hugged everyday and appreciated everyday, as probably the other posters childrens also recieve. I am sorry that you have such a negative opinion of parenting and children, I am not going to try to persuade you anymore. I pity you and you are truly the one missing out on god's gift. Enough said...