I am so devastated!

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Hi all. I am terribly devastated, crushed and overwhelmed with grief. My husband and I had to put one of our cats to sleep. He was our baby and sick so suddenly. The vet said there was not anything we could do. We held him and loved him before they put him down. We are so upset and constantly cry. We loved him so so so much. To walk by his bed, see his food dish and see his picture is so heartbreaking. He was our baby and the people around us think it is no big deal- "he was just a cat" they say. He was more than that. I don't think I'll ever be happy again, I can't eat or sleep. We have been spending all the time with our cat and worry about him so much too. He is also our baby. I just feel that we will never heal and be able to cope. I am so distraught. My husband is so hurt and it hurts me more to see him so upset. We just hold each other and our other cat and cry and cry. Does it ever get better? Am I all upset over nothing, is it too wrong to love an animal that much? Cookie
 
>Hi all. I am terribly devastated, crushed and overwhelmed
>with grief. My husband and I had to put one of our cats to
>sleep. He was our baby and sick so suddenly. The vet said
>there was not anything we could do. We held him and loved him
>before they put him down. We are so upset and constantly cry.
> We loved him so so so much. To walk by his bed, see his food
>dish and see his picture is so heartbreaking. He was our baby
>and the people around us think it is no big deal- "he was just
>a cat" they say. He was more than that. I don't think I'll
>ever be happy again, I can't eat or sleep. We have been
>spending all the time with our cat and worry about him so much
>too. He is also our baby. I just feel that we will never
>heal and be able to cope. I am so distraught. My husband is
>so hurt and it hurts me more to see him so upset. We just
>hold each other and our other cat and cry and cry. Does it
>ever get better? Am I all upset over nothing, is it too wrong
>to love an animal that much? Cookie


Cookie,

I wish there was something I could say or do that would get rid of some of the pain, but in situations like this I think the only thing that really helps is time.

You most certainly are NOT upset over nothing. Your cat was a big part of your family and it is devistating to lose a loved one...I believe pets fit in that catagory. My friend just lost her dog Coco and it was due to natural causes...but it was still very, very painful for her. Everytime I hear of someone's pet passing, I always give my Chui an extra little hug.

Take care Cookie, my heart is with you.
 
I am so so sorry for your loss. I have 2 kitties that I love about as much as possible, and I also had one pass away 5 years ago. It was one of the saddest things I ever saw. All I can say is it will get better with time, and you will be happy again.
 
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. The only thing that I can compare to that as far as losing a cat goes is when my dh and I were keeping cats in our apartment and had to get rid of both when the apartment complex found out. I was devistated! I also think that only time will heal the pain. You will always remember him or her, and you can think of all the warm feelings that he or she put in your heart.

Take care during this tough time.

Kathy
 
You will grieve and hurt for a long time. You never really get over it. But you do have your other cat and he will help with the hurt a lot.

I think experiencing death makes one a better person. The reason is because if you know of anyone who loses a pet, you will be able to understand, offer comfort, and show concern for their feelings.

Just remember that he is up in heaven, he is so pretty, and he is not sick and doesn't hurt anymore. Keep a pretty picture of him near your bed and in time you both will feel better. Dont rush your grieving process. Mark the date of his death on your calandar. Tonight and each year after, light a candle to remember him and to show respect for the life he led on earth.



Madonna
 
Cookie:

I am so sorry for your loss. Grieving for an animal is to me every bit as tough as grieving for a human. Sometimes it's even worse because so many people don't understand. Our relationships with animals are so pure and uncluttered by human details and the love is unconditional. Time is your only friend right now, and though I imagine it's passing very slowly, things will get better. One day the memories will start to bring more smiles than tears, and you will know you're starting to turn a corner. Meanwhile, all the animal lovers here at Cathe's will be thinking of you.

--Ann
 
This is a joke from a book but I say it all the time because to me it is true "cats are human beings!" I have 3 cats and I love them so much I DREAD the day anything happens to them. I don't think its wrong to love an animal so much, it means you are a caring sensitive person. They love you, rely on you, and bring joy to you, how could you not love them so much!

I am so sorry for your loss. They are fuzzy human beings and it is so hard to see them go! Also you need to give yourself time! You lost a member of the family and it will take time to get through it.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

In answer to your questions: yes, it does get better. The awful feeling of loss and sadness (I've had to go through having 3 cats euthanized so far in my life) becomes more of a melancholy and remembering.

No, it's not wrong to love an animal that much. YOu are privileged to have loved another creature that much: some people never feel that kind of emotion.Let yourself feel your pain. It will get better. I lost the "cat love of my life" two years ago from chronic renal failure. I still miss him at times, and no other cat can replace him, but my current three kitties help!

I know that you are in pain now, but realize that what you did kept your kitty from suffering. Sometimes, it helps to have some kind of ritual to say goodbye.
 
I'm sorry about your cat Cookie. Everything you've just described is how I felt last September when my brother died! I couldn't eat or sleep and cried all night long for weeks. You really must have been attached to him.

Things will get better. I still cry every so often, but I'm learning to cope. It comes and goes. Try to keep busy.
 
Cookie~
My sympathy to you and your husband. A pet is special to his owners, and your mourning is real. Maybe it will be helpful to think of him as being relieved of his painful illness.

I am sorry for your loss. Cats are very special;(
 
Cookie....my heart goes out to you and your DH. I am so sorry for the loss of your "baby"...I have had to make this decision before. In fact on 2 of my animals in the last 10 months. I have always loved my pets with everything I had as their unconditional love makes it worth it...:)...as some of the other posts said time will help, although the pain is so bad right now. It will get better. I hope your other cat will help with your healing as I found strength through my other cats and dogs after something like this...sending hugs and prayers....:)...Carole
 
I am so sorry for your loss. your baby was well loved- feel some comfort in that and he knew it no doubt!!

God Bless,
catherine
 
cookie.. i'm so sorry... i know how you feel... no.. it's not wrong to love an animal that much.. after all they give us unconditional love! the pain will lessen with time.. but you will always remember him....

{{{HUGZ}}}
 
A big {{{Hug}}}. I understand your pain completely. I have put down 2 dogs and it is pain that is incredibly excruciating. My dogs are my children. Animals are the only creatures on earth that know how to love unconditionally, and it hurts when they leave us.

The pain does go away, but never completely. Having said that, just know that you gave your baby a wonderful life. You were fortunate enough to experience true unconditional love with your beautiful animal, and you will have that with you the rest of your life.

Take care and my thoughts are with you.

Rhonda
 
Sweetheart, it is ok to love your cat as much as you want. Animals are differnet than humans. The love they give out (i think, most of the time) is so much more. I have a little dog called Louis and i love him more than anything. You are hurting and it will take time to heal. But healing will happen. Give it time. I'm thinking of you and your husband and hope you both come back to happiness real soon.

In my thoughts.

Love

Wayne.
xxxxxxx
 
I'm so very very sorry to hear about your little cat. He was never "just a cat" and as you say, he is your baby. Take as long as you need to grieve. His loss is immense and it'll take a long time to get over him.

It might help to make tributes to your cat in and/or around the house in memory of him. Maybe plant a tree or make a special basket with flowers - you'll know which flowers to choose when you see them because you'll think of you're little cat at that very moment you set eyes on the flowers!

Meanwhile I send you ((((hugs, hugs, hugs)))) and hope you'll be able to smile again soon.

Take care
X
 
Cookiebaby,

{{{{BIG HUGS}}}} I am so sorry for your loss. I know it does not feel like it now but it will get better with time. Just take each day as it comes. Always remember that your kitty is in a better place now, free of pain and hurt. I've had two cats in my lifetime. The first one's name was Michael. And he was a member of the family! We had him for 14 years when we had to put him to sleep, due to kidney failure. I thought I'd never get over it. But in time I was able to deal with it. And now I have Twitch, who thinks she's the Queen! :) I've had her for about 7 years now and love her to pieces! I don't know how I'd handle losing another "furry family member" like her. So I know how you feel.

Just remember: time heals all wounds. You will get through this.

Sanchia
 
Cookie--I'm so sorry! I've been there before and it hurts like nothing else in the world. But it does get better in time, even though it feels like it never will. When I lost my DJ I couldn't accept it for weeks, but when I finally did, I found that the Rainbow Bridge was very helpful. In the beginning, I couldn't read it without breaking down, but when I was ready, it helped me to heal. When you're ready, maybe you should read it for yourself if you haven't yet.;-)

http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm
 
Cookiebaby,

I'm so sorry for your loss. Our pets love us unconditionally, so it's never wrong to love them that much. They're members of our family.

I know what it's like to have to put a pet to sleep. As much as it hurts right now, it was the right thing to do. Healing takes time, but it will happen. Sending hugs to you and DH.

Take care.
 
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