How to be a good wife
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>Charlotte and Sparrow,
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>In reality it's pretty close here, too, except that I
>homeschool 3 DS and don't quite get it all just right before
>DH comes home.
Well c'mon, Melody, maybe if you just tried a little harder....
KIDDING!!
My sister homeschools, and it's no easy ride. And, it's much easier to maintain a house when kids aren't running around, tearing apart what you just put right, as my sister says. So, kudos to you, and <<<hugs>>> too, since I know you aren't having a great day.
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
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>In reality it's pretty close here, too, except that I
>homeschool 3 DS and don't quite get it all just right before
>DH comes home.
Well c'mon, Melody, maybe if you just tried a little harder....
KIDDING!!
My sister homeschools, and it's no easy ride. And, it's much easier to maintain a house when kids aren't running around, tearing apart what you just put right, as my sister says. So, kudos to you, and <<<hugs>>> too, since I know you aren't having a great day.
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
carolynjane
Cathlete
Actually I don't think there is anything wrong in recommending thoughtfulness and kindness - that's pretty much what this is saying. But I do think it's problematic that EVERYTHING flowed in the husband's direction. There is no thought to what kind of day the wife had - it's almost implied that being at home with children all day is easy and whatever happened to her, his day MUST have been tougher. Maybe this advice would be easier to take if a companion book had been written telling husbands how to be thoughtful and kind to their wives!
melodygirl
Cathlete
Sparrow, thanks for the hugs
Carolyn Jane, I'll help you write that companion manual.
Carolyn Jane, I'll help you write that companion manual.
Fit_mommy
Cathlete
It wouldn't surprise me if that's the way it was back then...though this description is a bit dramatic...
It's certainly not like that NOW and my gosh, it SHOULDN'T be! Times have changed and we've all changed with them!
SAHM or not...lots of that stuff is too far-fetched and ridiculous for me to even CONSIDER doing!
Here's my take on it }( :
"Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time."...Um-I don't think so! I cook, yeah...but when it's a good time for ME since I am the one doing it!
"Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking." ...This one is particularly comical to me...some days he's lucky if I'm even showered by the time he gets home! LOL
"Clear away the clutter."...It's HIS !@$#@ mess half the time...let HIM clear it!}(
"Prepare the children."...For what???
"Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first."...My DH doesn't talk...he grabs chips and plops down in front of the tube to watch Judge Judy!
"Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax."...BS! I'm the one who has probably been cooped up all day! If I want to get out, we are going out! }(
"The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."...That's layin' it on a little thick...don't ya think!?
It's certainly not like that NOW and my gosh, it SHOULDN'T be! Times have changed and we've all changed with them!
SAHM or not...lots of that stuff is too far-fetched and ridiculous for me to even CONSIDER doing!
Here's my take on it }( :
"Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time."...Um-I don't think so! I cook, yeah...but when it's a good time for ME since I am the one doing it!
"Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking." ...This one is particularly comical to me...some days he's lucky if I'm even showered by the time he gets home! LOL
"Clear away the clutter."...It's HIS !@$#@ mess half the time...let HIM clear it!}(
"Prepare the children."...For what???
"Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first."...My DH doesn't talk...he grabs chips and plops down in front of the tube to watch Judge Judy!
"Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax."...BS! I'm the one who has probably been cooped up all day! If I want to get out, we are going out! }(
"The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."...That's layin' it on a little thick...don't ya think!?
I for one believe this lady knows what she's talking about.
I realize it says that it was written in 1954, but I happen to know that it was written just following a Cathe presale announcement by a very wise woman whose dh preordered online for her and even threw in a very sizable gift certificate to Dick's Sporting Goods.
Briee
I realize it says that it was written in 1954, but I happen to know that it was written just following a Cathe presale announcement by a very wise woman whose dh preordered online for her and even threw in a very sizable gift certificate to Dick's Sporting Goods.
Briee
melodygirl
Cathlete
Briee,
I'd do anything for that man.:7 :+
I'd do anything for that man.:7 :+