Having a bad day

[3kids]

OK. It's been one of those days. Woke up this morning to a garage fridge that was broken and an entire food order, mostly meat, rotten. So now I have to find a cheap fridge and replace all the food. My BIL called this morning to tell us that they may be moving back to FL if he gets this new job. They just moved up north closer to us(we live in NY) so we finally had family in the "area". So now we are going back to being alone. I know my mood has to do with being lonely but I started to think, we've been here a year. We like it here but it just doesn't feel like home. My DH has agreed to consider going back but we have to wait at least a year a half for job reasons and to be able to get any equity in this house. I'm torn and I know I have to give it more time. I'm just homesick. I LOVE my house. We've met some nice people but nothing compares to family. I guess the moral of the story is "you don't know what you have until it's gone". Thanks for listening. I need to go pep up and do some Cathe. She always can make me smile, even if it's in pain

 

[marnold]

Sending you hugs, 3Kids. Hang in there!

 

[dlavie]

3kids,

Can you set up a family yahoo group or myspace group swap pictures, post bulletins, share jokes etc? I know a physical hug beats a virtual one but you can be close to family even with the miles in between.

I lived overseas for 3 1/2 years, spoke to parents once on the phone, lotsa mail. No internet in 1978-82.

Dave

 

[3kids]

We have the internet camera and swap pictures and e-mails almost daily. Maybe that is making it worse:-( I don't know how you did it overseas, Dave. Part of the problem is that we have never lived away from our families the nearly 40 years we've been alive. I know that's bad, time to cut the cord type of thing. But we are both from very large families with aging parents. We also have the guilt thing thrown at us that we have the babies(grandchildren) so far away, they are missing them grow up. You know, all that guilt, because it isn't hard enough. I could go on and on with the drama in the family but I won't bore you all and I'm sure some of you have the same story(I hope);-)

 

[lainiefig]

I can relate, 3kids. In my case we've been away from family for 5 years (4 of those overseas) and I also have some guilt because we've got two little boys the family has hardly gottne to see. I'm also in NY state but my family is all in Texas. Some days are just rough like that, but I'm sure you have great reasons for living where you do. I hope you have a better day tomorrow!

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[wendyloo]

I'm sorry you're feeling so down
I wanted to say that every time I move to a new place, it takes a long time (sometimes more than a year) for it to really feel like home. And this is from a person who has moved around a lot, so it may take longer than that for you.
I always have a long adjustmet period, and I tend to dwell on the differences between where I was and where I am now...But, you have to MAKE the new town/city a home. Find places around town that you like, and frequent them so they feel like they are your special places. Find places around your area (like an hour or two away) that you can travel to--weekends away that are like mini-vacations that will make you appreciate that you live so close to such great places... And try not to concentrate on what you used to have in your old town. You've got to take part in making this new place your new home--it might not ever feel the same as your old home, but it will become special to you, too.
Good luck!

Wendy

 

[RunnerGirl]

I am sorry that you are having a bad day! I completley understand your situation. DH and I moved to California 6 years ago and it was my first time living away from home. I hated it and it took me about a year to adjust. 2 yrs in CA and we moved to PA. It took me awhile to get used to that move too. I think that a year and you will feel better. We finally have gotten back to Indiana which is our home. I have to say that our being away has brought DH and I very close so there are positives to it! I aggree with the above poster. Try to get involved and meet ppl. I KNOW it is hard because I am not a real outgoing person. I am sort of shy in new situations. I also understand that phone calls and emails don't really compare a whole lot to someone who has not been away from home. I hope you feel better soon!
LD