Feeling Fat and Friendless :(

[Mikkia]

Reese,
I just spent a week with my mother for vacation. I feel your pain. You know what I hate more than her comments(you work too much, you let your daughter eat that, etc) is that she is the only person in the world that can have that effect on me. If a stranger on the street said these things I would laugh, if my husband did I would deal with it in a rational fashion, but when my mother says her little comments I feel 5 again and want to cry, and then I feel incompetent because thats how I responded. So sad. Hang in there girl, you are not alone on this one.

 

[lala1]

Reese, you got some great ideas. One thing you should do is take your alterations elsewhere. And as a mom reading these posts makes me even more careful of the things I say to my kids... and to myself! One never knows which of the things we say, even as an aside, will affect someone else.

 

[Reese777]

Hello Everyone,

I want to send out a hardy thank you to every person that sent me excellent advice, hugs, congrats on my master's and just general understanding/encouragement. I appreciate it all - more than you'll ever know!! I do feel better about the situation - even though it still hurts (you know, Mom's supposed to have your back regardless...).

I am going to start thinking up the workout thing again, and I figure once I get back on track there I'll feel 100 times better. I think part of my problem has been that I pushed myself really hard to get my Bachelor's and Master's while working full time and when I was finally done, I was worn out and that kind of carried over into my diet and exercise. I am an adult though, so I need to take responsibility for what I'm doing/not doing with my health.

I am interested in joining a check in group, so I definitely want to follow up with that. I may shoot some rotation ideas your way because I do get overwhelmed with how much to do, when to do it. I have a tendency to get fixated on food and exercise and I know that isn't healthy either. I think I'm making all of this TOO HARD!

But again, thanks for understanding and sending me so much advice. It's nice to know that I have so many sounding boards to bounce my ideas, frustrations, and accomplishments off of!!!!

Too bad none of you do alterations, huh? (haha! :7 )