I love eBay, but I have to tell you that shipping thing really annoys me too!! I have written sellers about it. Especially when you pay a "priority price" and they send it less than priority. More than the cost differance is the time I have to wait. I had a purchase at the beginning of December that was for a dvd. The shipping was SIX BUCKS!! The listing also said "get it before it comes out" because this was a promo dvd before the release. There was still a week before the release date and for the shipping price I should have had it in two days...we are both in California. Anyway, it took nearly four, and I was annoyed beyond belief. I emailed the seller twice and he kept saying it had been shipped, and blamed it all on the Christmas rush with the postal service. When it finally arrived the shipping date was three weeks after the auction ended and two after the movie came out. I could have bought it for less and had it two weeks earlier! I was most upset by the dishonesty. He kept saying it had been sent and it had not. Supposedly he is sending me a "gift" to make up for it, but that has been nearly two more weeks and still no sign of anything coming from him. Five years on eBay and I might have to post my first ever negative feedback.
Now with eBay's price hikes, I may steer clear all together. It is less and less of a good deal.