Devastated over my breakup

[SirenSongWoman]

Only one put his foot down and refused, insisting on an exclusive dating relationship immediately, and that was the one I ended up marrying.

Ha! Too funny.

 

[Jacque1038]

Even if he felt you two were exclusive and you spent time with another guy he should have talked to you about it rather then do something childish like stew on it for how long and throw it at you at the end of your vacation. Besides some couples are ok with friends of the opposite sex and others are not. If he felt some sort of line has been crossed he once again should have talked to you about it. Going through text messages is also a red flag. This guy obviously has issues and it is better you get out now rather then later on down the road when it will be more painful.

 

[Jazcam]

My boyfriend found out I had a drink with a guy friend of mine (who I used to date briefly) twice in the last 3 months. It was a platonic meeting and I didn't tell my bf because WE hadn't discussed being exclusive yet and I didn't want to create any drama. On the way back from our trip together to Mexico my bf sprung that he knew about my meeting this guy and said that I lied to him and I couldn't be trusted. I explained myself and that it was a platonic meetup and I didn't want to upset him. How did he know about these 2 meetings? Apparently he was going through my phone reading my text messages periodically over the last few months we'd been dating. When I said I couldn't believe he violated my privacy my bf told me not to even try to use that as an excuse. When I said that we hadn't even discussed being exclusive yet he told me not to even think of using that as an excuse either. Long story short he broke up with me saying I broke all the trust we had and I could not be trusted. I feel bad that I hurt him by meeting up with the other guy and not mentioning it but on the other hand my bf was rooting through my phone periodically checking up on me.

He kept this information to himself for months and used it to end things ON THE PLANE ride home from Mexico after an awesome trip. I was stuck in a seat crying on the way home. This all started because I joked around over some pictures I found in his camera of him with another girl (while we were not together).

I guess he did me a favor but I'm still extremely upset over how this whole thing happened. What do you think?

I'm sorry for your pain and breakup but I think you may have known about his jealous tendencies. You wrote "I explained myself and that it was a platonic meet up and I didn't want to upset him". You may have known that he would have been very upset about the drinks you had with you ex. A jealous guy will always be a jealous guy...no matter what happens and no matter what you do. The same goes for women.

 

[MadnNatsmom]

I think you dodged a bullet. What a jerkoff for breaking up on a plane in public, for pete's sake.

 

[complik8td]

I think you dodged a bullet. What a jerkoff for breaking up on a plane in public, for pete's sake.

ITA! Feel better soon Jasmin.... this twit did you a big favor. Your Prince Charming will come along... hang in there.

BTW..... nice jewelry ya got there!! I am a beading/jewelry-making novice. I am having loads of fun learning to create pieces!! Can you guess what everyone will be receiving from me this year for a Xmas gift? LOL.

Take care girl! Remember this.....When one door closes, another one opens. Stay positive!!

 

[LeanneM]

Sending you hugs over your break-up!

 

[kathryn]

I at first didn't connect this with the guy who smacked the kitten.
Putting the two scenarios together, I think you're lucky to be out of this relationship. He sounds controlling and somewhat easily angered. And what nerve to tell you this when you are basically a prisoner of a seatbelt and can't get away. (He also may have chosen this time to avoid "a scene.")

Turn away, start walking, and keep walking away.

He's a poopy!