naughtoj
Cathlete
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>Don't end up like my mom -- stop with the questions. Be the
>quiet one. Don't call him - let him call you. If that takes
>two weeks, then so be it (I got my now-husband to finally ask
>me out after two years by not calling him for two months (we
>were friends before dating) -- it was worth the wait because
>we're married now). When he asks you about your day, say
>something like, "It was fine." and then zip it. Let him probe
>for more information if he wants it. If you are driving
>somewhere, just listen to the radio and don't say anything.
>Enjoy the view and the music, and make him say the first word.
> If you're watching a movie, just watch it and don't talk.
>Enjoy the silence! So much more can be said in the silence
>than it can with words. My dad told me something once, and I
>later read something similar in a book: "He who speaks first
>loses." It's true. Try it.
I agree with this. He needs to step up to the plate and start contributing or you are "OUTTA HERE!". It may be a man thing, but a relationship is a two way street, you know? This plan should clarify things for you, whether he is truly just BORING or whether he is capable of talking. If it doesn't work and you still end up with deafening silence, well, I say ditch him. Nothing worse than a bump on a log.x(
>Don't end up like my mom -- stop with the questions. Be the
>quiet one. Don't call him - let him call you. If that takes
>two weeks, then so be it (I got my now-husband to finally ask
>me out after two years by not calling him for two months (we
>were friends before dating) -- it was worth the wait because
>we're married now). When he asks you about your day, say
>something like, "It was fine." and then zip it. Let him probe
>for more information if he wants it. If you are driving
>somewhere, just listen to the radio and don't say anything.
>Enjoy the view and the music, and make him say the first word.
> If you're watching a movie, just watch it and don't talk.
>Enjoy the silence! So much more can be said in the silence
>than it can with words. My dad told me something once, and I
>later read something similar in a book: "He who speaks first
>loses." It's true. Try it.
I agree with this. He needs to step up to the plate and start contributing or you are "OUTTA HERE!". It may be a man thing, but a relationship is a two way street, you know? This plan should clarify things for you, whether he is truly just BORING or whether he is capable of talking. If it doesn't work and you still end up with deafening silence, well, I say ditch him. Nothing worse than a bump on a log.x(
