Let me say first that your Dad is TOTALLY correct. I did stop smoking. No easy feat.
On the sugar note, I can agree with the cold turkey stance. I fell off that wagon a while ago and it is tough tough tough. And when I eat sweets, I really really eat alot of them.
Now I know there are many here who believe "all things in moderation"
And my intellect WANTS to believe that BUT I have a thought (if unscientific) about some people and sugar.
I used to drink quite heavily. Mainly beer and then wine. When i drank, I did not eat very many desserts and I rarely missed them. When I ate them I did not binge. By choice I decided to completely eliminate alcohol (I tried the moderation thing here and it simply DID NOT WORK) When I became a non-drinker, my dessert cravings and binging reappeared.
Is there a connection here? Could my hmmm alcohol addiction be related to my sugar addiction and therefore moderation simply won't work? Or is there a physiological connection but the hmm lack of control is a psychological issue.
If it is a physical issue, well total elimination is the answer. If it is a psychological issue then How can I modify my thinking so that I can enjoy an occasional small dessert and not 'fall off the wagon'
Oh and by the way, maybe if it is a psych thing (am I an addictive personality?) then cold turkey is the answer here to. I say this because as a former smoker I know that the physical addiction was gone quickly but the psychological addiction remains. I know if I had ONE puff of a cig, I would be a smoker again (I haven't smoked for 17+ years)
Hope I explained myself...
Any thoughts?
-joy