A difference of 10 lbs....happy in your skin?

[fit44]

I can't remember a time when I was ever happy about my weight. I find something wrong no matter what the scale tells me.
I would like to one day be happy and content at any weight. I struggle with this every single day.

I love food, but feel bad if I'm not in my skinny jeans. I can't seem to find a happy medium.

Will this come with maturity? I love to spend time on the beach and I see a lot of senior women who look content. In my eyes, they are perfect for their age...wrinkles and all.
I often wonder at what age will I find the inner peace these women appear to have? I get out on the beach and can pick every single little flaw out on myself and then worry others are looking at those very flaws.

I agree with Tiffany about the lower weight and face. We lose facial volume as we age and skinny is not attractive when that happens!

Anyway, this is a wonderful discussion. Thank you!

 

[LeanneM]

This has been such a great discussion! It's one of the reasons why I feel so lucky to be part of these forums!

Like Cynthia, I don't think I've ever been happy with my weight, but it's something I'm continually working on. I keep hoping that I'll wake up one day and just be perfectly content with my body and the wonderful things it can do for me because I take care of it, even if I still have all that cellulite! (My dimples are on that end, too! )

 

[LaughingWater]

I'm finally happy with my weight (5'7" at 127). I'm still playing with my caloric intake/nutrition and am brand new to serious weight training, so who knows where I'll end up, but the whole process has been good to me.

I'm less concerned with the scale number/size and more interested in the changes in my body (strength, definition, joint health, aerobic capacity), which is a complete 180 from when I was younger. Back then, I starved and exercised obsessively down to 110-115. I didn't care about muscle, endurance or my general state of health. I paid for it too.

 

[Tiffany(tneah)]

Laura...I got 'em on both ends darlin'! i am finding the older I get (42) the more you have to watch your diet in that too lean means an older face--well at least on me it does. But there is always that happy medium, I am lucky I can stay at mine pretty easy I guess, "dimples" and all!

 

[mabdoo]

I am where you are at too. Although right now I do have to lose at least 6 pounds to get to my happy weight and 12 to get to a great weight. I am short and am still aiming for 125 as a great weight and I have accepted that for my body. I just had my second daughter 11 weeks ago and still have some weight to lose to get down to any weight that I would consider acceptable. A few years ago I went through a really rough patch and lost 22 pounds in 3 weeks. (When I am stressed I lose my appetite. I was also training for a marathon at the time. I did run a great race in 3 hours and 44 minutes by the way...but I digress). At the time I said I would not gain any of it back but within about a year I had put it back on. I was way to skinny. Now even though I am not totally happy about my weight I am happy about so many other aspects of my like that the weight is almost a non-issue. I focus on strength and what my body can do. Like carrying two kids down a set of stairs or lugging the kids and a diaper bag or lifting them up high and hearing them laugh. Sorry I rambled but thanks for listening.

 

[Ginny V]

I'm sorry to say that I'm vain & shallow enough to really not be happy unless I'm at what I consider my optimum weight.

Laura, there's something to be said for mental comfort though too. If you aren't at a place where you feel your best, then you (maybe I should say "I") feel like there's a dimple showing here, jelly roll in the middle there, a need to tug at this or that. This is the part I struggle with.

I guess I'm vain too. A particular weight isn't so important to me, but I want to feel like I look the best that I can and still have fun with food, wine, socializing, experimenting and trying new things.