mogambo
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My daughter is 17 today. (Happy Birthday Logan). She is 5'8" and weighs 125 pounds, goes to the gym 4 or 5 times a week, but we went through some weight issues from 14-15, so I do want to give you my opinion. I am 5'7 and 140 muscular pounds, from Cathe and such. I have never been fat, but not model thin either. Here goes. Keep no junk food in the house. Cook only healthy things. Provide information, but do not nag. Answer questions honestly. This includes "Do you think I'm fat." I answered with things like "Well, you're not fat, but you are putting on some fat and it will just get worse if you don't learn to eat right and exercise." Then I would shut up.
And I work out 6 days a week and eat healthy, year after year. She sees my body, and the bodies of her friends Moms and did the math in her own head. She heard a chubby friend get horrific amounts of cruel "feedback" from guys and girls alike. I think she thought she'd just bite the bullet. She is an extravert and loves people, so she needed to join a gym, she uses the treadmill, ellipticals and goes to spin classes, and uses the weights. I am very relieved and proud. I think the keys are not to have junk food, don't nag, but don't lie either. Provide information, calmly and "informatively" whenever you get a chance, without getting pushy. And school sports were also good for Logan because she was with her friends. Cross-country and track let her run without feeling like it was work, says she. I have to be alone, so I work out at home and run alone in parks, so let them be different for sure, but I very much disagree with telling daughters they are beautiful if they are fat, you lose all credibility.
I almost forgot, one of the first things Logan did was just totally give up sodas. She found out how many empty calories were in one, and switched to water, she dropped 3 or 4 pounds within a week or two and now smugly says she never drinks them and has gotten a couple of her friends to quit. It's an easy thing, and saves so much of their limited money also.
She has also learned to buy a rich dessert as a treat, and bring half of it home for another day, bring home half the sandwich or dinner also. Portion control, and a delicious snack or meal waiting for you in the refrig the next day instead of eating Mom's healthy stuff!
My daughter is 17 today. (Happy Birthday Logan). She is 5'8" and weighs 125 pounds, goes to the gym 4 or 5 times a week, but we went through some weight issues from 14-15, so I do want to give you my opinion. I am 5'7 and 140 muscular pounds, from Cathe and such. I have never been fat, but not model thin either. Here goes. Keep no junk food in the house. Cook only healthy things. Provide information, but do not nag. Answer questions honestly. This includes "Do you think I'm fat." I answered with things like "Well, you're not fat, but you are putting on some fat and it will just get worse if you don't learn to eat right and exercise." Then I would shut up.
And I work out 6 days a week and eat healthy, year after year. She sees my body, and the bodies of her friends Moms and did the math in her own head. She heard a chubby friend get horrific amounts of cruel "feedback" from guys and girls alike. I think she thought she'd just bite the bullet. She is an extravert and loves people, so she needed to join a gym, she uses the treadmill, ellipticals and goes to spin classes, and uses the weights. I am very relieved and proud. I think the keys are not to have junk food, don't nag, but don't lie either. Provide information, calmly and "informatively" whenever you get a chance, without getting pushy. And school sports were also good for Logan because she was with her friends. Cross-country and track let her run without feeling like it was work, says she. I have to be alone, so I work out at home and run alone in parks, so let them be different for sure, but I very much disagree with telling daughters they are beautiful if they are fat, you lose all credibility.
I almost forgot, one of the first things Logan did was just totally give up sodas. She found out how many empty calories were in one, and switched to water, she dropped 3 or 4 pounds within a week or two and now smugly says she never drinks them and has gotten a couple of her friends to quit. It's an easy thing, and saves so much of their limited money also.
She has also learned to buy a rich dessert as a treat, and bring half of it home for another day, bring home half the sandwich or dinner also. Portion control, and a delicious snack or meal waiting for you in the refrig the next day instead of eating Mom's healthy stuff!
), and now I expect her to just up and change because I learned better. And I know it doesn't work like that! I can't erase years and years of cheeseburgers, chili dogs and fries, pizza, etc., and expect to replace them with fruits and vegetables overnite! At least not in her world if it isn't what she desires.