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[obrn]

wow, as a nurse, I'm so sorry for your lousy nurse experiences. I've been on the receiving end of bone head nurse moves and know how horrible it can be. You're so vulnerable and hanging by a thread right now, the LAST thing you need is dealing w/ someone like that. I pray every night to remember that what I say matters to people, to choose my words carefully and to always be mindful of people's pain.

You might want to consider phoning the office again and asking for your doc to return your call at her convenience. You have legitmate questions/concerns that should be addressed. Nurses are accustomed to running interference for the docs they work for (in an office situation), but obviously this particular nurse wasn't helpful.

Get thru this miscarriage and then let your doctor know how poorly the nurse treated you. If you mention it now, I'm concerned it might overshadow your concerns for your medical care, and right now that's the most important thing.

I wish you well,
Valerie

 

[cyclinggirl]

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's heart wrenching. I had one last spring, the day after I landed in Florida for a family vacation. I can't tell you what I experienced there in terms of the insensitivity of the emergency room staff and even some of my friends words of "consolation". People just don't get it, especially here in the US, other countries like Japan actually honor the lost child's life and have a name for such a child.

I know that this is still in process, so I hope you give yourself time to grieve, be alone, cry, write down your thoughts and feelings and maybe find a pregnancy loss support group. I made a great friend through such a group, I didn't find it until 6 months later but it still helped.

It also helped to realize that as much as people love and care for you, they will likely never understand just exactly what your loss meant to you...it's such a personal thing. I found that whatever most people said it felt wrong and hurtful, I was extremely sensitive having had 2 other deaths in my family leading up to the loss. What I learned is that I needed to let myself cry and get out all of my feelings instead of putting on the brave face and "moving on". Once I was able to let go I was able move on for real.

Take good care of yourself and don't give up hope. You and your angel will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Big hug to you!
Steph

 

[kmkali24]

(((((((HUGS)))))))))) I'm so sorry for your loss. I too have been there. Hang in there. If God leads you to it, He will lead you thru it.

Kali

 

[Jennifit]

I am so sorry for your loss. (((((((hugs)))))))

 

[naughtoj]

Rae...

How are you doing? Did you have the D&C?

Since I now understand your loss (can you believe it?), we could check in together? My family hasn't been that understanding either. I know it would help me.

Worried about you, since you have not updated. (((HUGS)))