Why would someone lie about this?

LauraMax

LauraMax

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I'm trying very hard to figure out our secretary. She just had eye surgery & she claims it was to have cateracts removed, but she took out a $5000 pension loan to pay for it. Our insurance covers cateract surgery. I'm pretty sure she had lasik done. What I can't figure out is why she'd try to hide it. It's pretty common & there's nothing to be embarassed about.

So her first payment on the loan was due yesterday & she was running around here raging & fuming. I don't get it.

She was also out for 6 months about 3 years ago for back surgery. She claims she had all the muscles removed from her lower back. Now, I'm no doctor, but how can someone sit, much less stand and/or walk if they have no muscles in their lower back? When she came back from her surgery she was wasted every day. She'd come back from lunch reeking of alcohol. She seems to have eased off the drinking, but I'm kinda wishing she'd go back to it b/c she was a much nicer person when she was drunk. :eek:

If she needed time off for personal problems she could've just taken a leave of absence, or FMLA. I'm starting to think she's a chronic liar. I have no idea what to believe from her anymore. :(
 
Maybe she just needed to keep her personal health business private, but felt that she couldn't say so, so needed to make something up to answer people's questions.
 
Laura - Quite frankly that's just weird. And if any doctor ever told me they wanted to remove all the muscles from my lower back I certainly run screaming to the Board of Health. It would be impossible to stay erect with out lower back muscles.:confused:





Morningstar - This is off subject but what is your avatar a picture of? Sorry, Laura.:D
 
I don't know morningstar--all she had to say was "I'm taking sick time." No one needed to know why. But to make something up? :confused: And if she wanted to keep her business private, she wouldn't have been ranting & raving yesterday to everyone who'd listen about her pension loan. Not only do we not need to hear about her medical issues, we also do not need to know about her personal finances. I, personally, would prefer not to know about either. :p

She seems to have a compulsion to lie. It's very strange.

Oh I just had to add this edit--I listen to this woman ordering the most disgusting takeout for her 3 meals a day, then she complains about her weight & money. When I suggested she cook a meal once in a while, she told me she couldn't b/c her back issues prevented her from putting stuff in the oven.
 
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I'll be honest and say that your post concerns me. Why are you so involved in an office workers medical issues, why is it so important to you to figure out? I'm sorry but your post is taking office gossip to the max.

I think it's her business, her life and if she wants to hide/lie about it then it's her problem.

I had someone in my office that just had to stick their nose into everyones business and it was very annoying. Please don't do that. It's not a nice trait to have.

Let her put on whatever facade she wishes to spew.
 
ImFiddY said:
I'll be honest and say that your post concerns me. Why are you so involved in an office workers medical issues, why is it so important to you to figure out? I'm sorry but your post is taking office gossip to the max.

I think it's her business, her life and if she wants to hide/lie about it then it's her problem.

I had someone in my office that just had to stick their nose into everyones business and it was very annoying. Please don't do that. It's not a nice trait to have.

Let her put on whatever facade she wishes to spew.
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Please re-read my posts more carefully before you respond. Thank you in advance for your consideration.
 
Laura, aren't people interesting? I find it amazing what people will say and share but am even more surprised by those who seem to believe everything that comes out of their mouths. I work with a woman who cured a blind person and "healed" a mentally challenged person. I guess it is just a way for them to get attention, so I try to listen impassively, but sometimes just need to vent. That's really why I wo to relieve the stress brought on by such nonsense, 'cause even my family doesn't want to hear about it anymore. My DD says if I haven't wo in after 3 days, someone better watch out!
Good luck. Cookie
 
LauraMax said:
Please re-read my posts more carefully before you respond. Thank you in advance for your consideration.
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?? I did re-read it. You just seem way too involved in this persons issues. She might be a drama queen. Shrug your shoulders and move on, don't waste your time on someone like that.
 
Sounds like she's a few cards short of a deck to me. If you're able, I'd tried to keep my distance from her so as to not get sucked into her drama. If she reports to you, I'd speak to her directly about her behavior. Ultimately, she won't last long there anyway, because those types rarely do. Her lies aren't even believable (all of the muscles removed?) That will catch up to her.

As for the food, someone should introduce her to the concept of the counter-top toaster oven. ugh.

I kind of feel sorry for her, but people like that do create their own situations. Unless, she is truly, truly troubled in which case she should be getting help for that.
 
ImFiddY said:
?? I did re-read it. You just seem way too involved in this persons issues. She might be a drama queen. Shrug your shoulders and move on, don't waste your time on someone like that.
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If you really did read it, you clearly missed the point. Or perhaps you just missed the sentence where I said I preferred not to hear about her issues at all? Let me try to reiterate it in a way you can understand. I don't give a rat's patootie about her personal issues. SHE is forcing them on ME. I'm bothered by that, & I'm bothered by the lying.

Get it now? :rolleyes:

Cookie, I think you might be on to something. A couple of days ago she was sitting at her desk sobbing b/c she said her back was in pain, yet she seemed to be getting around just fine (BTW, how's the CG going? ;)). Donna, I so wish I could avoid her--she sits right in front of my office, & she is not a quiet woman. I can't help but overhear her when she's screaming about her problems to a different coworker. Yep, she def. has problems. I just wish I didn't have to participate in them. :mad:

Ah, my one star is back! Thank you Unkewl! I was starting to feel ignored. :)
 
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LauraMax said:
If you really did read it, you clearly missed the point. Or perhaps you just missed the sentence where I said I preferred not to hear about her issues at all? Let me try to reiterate it in a way you can understand. I don't give a rat's patootie about her personal issues. SHE is forcing them on ME. I'm bothered by that, & I'm bothered by the lying.

Get it now? :rolleyes:

Cookie, I think you might be on to something. A couple of days ago she was sitting at her desk sobbing b/c she said her back was in pain, yet she seemed to be getting around just fine (BTW, how's the CG going? ;)). Donna, I so wish I could avoid her--she sits right in front of my office, & she is not a quiet woman. I can't help but overhear her when she's screaming about her problems to a different coworker. Yep, she def. has problems. I just wish I didn't have to participate in them. :mad:
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Wow... what a rude response. I did NOT miss the underlaying point of your post. Maybe you did. There are many ways to not get involved in someones drama. I did not mean to be rude to you, I wanted to warn you to not be so involved in someones drama when they are not worth your time and effort.
 
ImFiddY said:
Wow... what a rude response. I did NOT miss the underlaying point of your post. Maybe you did. There are many ways to not get involved in someones drama. I did not mean to be rude to you, I wanted to warn you to not be so involved in someones drama when they are not worth your time and effort.
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Really? I found your response to me terribly rude. Ummm yeah, I missed the underlying point of my own post. Okaaaaaaaaaay.......:rolleyes:
 
LauraMax said:
Really? I found your response to me terribly rude. Ummm yeah, I missed the underlying point of my own post. Okaaaaaaaaaay.......:rolleyes:
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I apologize for being rude. I did not mean to be rude. Your reply posts show underlying anger issues, there is no reason to be so nasty in your reply posts. My post did not merit that level of anger response.
 
ImFiddY said:
I apologize for being rude. I did not mean to be rude. Your reply posts show underlying anger issues, there is no reason to be so nasty in your reply posts. My post did not merit that level of anger response.
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Wow, that's a rather backhanded apology. First you say you're sorry, then you accuse me of having underlying anger issues? ImFiddy, perhaps you genuinely did mean to help, but frankly I don't find my post any more or less rude than yours. Maybe you should re-read your own stuff & try to do it objectively so you can see why I might have taken offense. Taking office gossip to the max? Sticking my nose into everyone's business? You seriously don't think those were rude comments? :confused:
 
LauraMax said:
Wow, that's a rather backhanded apology. First you say you're sorry, then you accuse me of having underlying anger issues? ImFiddy, perhaps you genuinely did mean to help, but frankly I don't find my post any more or less rude than yours. Maybe you should re-read your own stuff & try to do it objectively so you can see why I might have taken offense. Taking office gossip to the max? Sticking my nose into everyone's business? You seriously don't think those were rude comments? :confused:
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Maybe the truth hurts.
 
ImFiddY said:
Maybe the truth hurts.
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So they WERE rude comments, but it's OK b/c they're true, even though it hurts? :confused: Which is it ImFiddy? You were trying to help, or you were being rude? You really don't see the contradictions in pretty much every other post you made? :rolleyes:

I'm thinking I'm not the one here with underlying issues.........didn't your mother ever teach you if you didn't have anything nice to say, don't say anything?
 
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