Why do men fight hard to stay in a relationship that clearly isn't working? I'm trying to stick to my guns and ended my relationship and in my email to remind my ex of the items I will need returned to me when he comes to get his stuff he writes "Are you sure this is what you want?" It just makes things harder. It makes me second guess even though I know I need to do this. He's the one who acted wrong and won't make the changes, why keep fighting?