When DH Totally Disagrees

martijean1

martijean1

Cathlete
Now that I've got my fitness goals down pat, and have seen some GREAT results, I've decided to sculpt a bit more...DH thinks that seeing ab muscles on a woman is totally gross...I'm not saying I want a muscle-mania 6 pack, just get some definition (I've been doing cardio, weights and a minimul ab work thus far)...Shouldn't take that long to get what I'M looking for, but he thinks they're "perfect" right now...Help?? What would YOU do in this situation??

MJ
 
I would keep doing what you're doing, since it's unlikely that you'll look like a female body builder, which is what I'm guessing grosses him out. I'll be darned if I'd stop now!!!!! You're feelin' good about your routine, so keep it up.
Just Do It! :)
 
Hey MJ, do what you feel is best for you. If you want rock hard abs then have them! If you are happy then everyone else around is happy.

Just from experience, my ex used to say things like "Ugh you're lifting more weight then I am" just to mess with me. Now that I am closer to my goal he loves the way I look. Sorry for him huh? LOL
Keep it up girl!}(
 
YOu know, my DH didn't want me to lose much weight after baby #3 because he likes my butt and all that to be a bit fluffy. I lost weight anyways because I didn't feel healthy and I wasn't happy about how I look. He is VERY happy that I lost weight because I am happy with how I look so my confidence is sky high. I have found that if I am not happy, it is hard to make others around me happy. If I feel good about myself, then DH feels great because that usually means that I am nicer to him and we have more.... ya know. ;) If you feel good about yourself, you make others feel good it is just that simple!

Missy
 
>he likes my butt and all that to be a bit fluffy. >


How refreshing. A man who likes curves! Good man!

I think you can have toned firm abs without showing a 6-pack. I was told by a PT once that in order to show the 6-pack you have to be technically under a healthy BMI. I don't know if this is true or not so don't quote me.

For me, I'm looking for the vertical lines on either side of the center abs. This would do it for me.
 
I think genetics plays a big role in terms of muscular definition. And I'm awfully glad my DH prefers curvy girls!! It takes the pressure off of me so that I don't feel like I have to look like Ms. Olympia.

Michele
 
You have to be happy with your reflection...period! You could have everyone in a huge room telling you that you are perfect but if you are not happy with what you see...it just doesn't matter what anyone else says.

Do what YOU want because you need to be happy with how you look! My DH makes a few comments every now and then about little things like that and I always do what I want. Guess what...he's never kicked me out of bed!!;)
 
ROFLMAO at Jes!! I say to each his own. My DH happens to love my very "girlish" figure with my very manly 6 pack ;-) . As they say, everyones concept of beauty is different. I guess this is a decision you will have to make for yourself.

Good luck!
Robin:9
 
Sara,

I've looked at your picture trail. You look fantastic. You're really beautiful and your children are too.

Michele;) :)
 
Well, you could look at it this way : If you don't have a strong core, or if you work it much less than you work all of your other muscles, it could carry some serious consequences in terms of muscle imbalances and eventually injury.

I didn't work my core at all for a year or two, because I just didn't wanna. My stomach was flat, so I didn't care. But I ran a lot, and worked my lower body a lot, my upper body some. My core - nada. It caught up with me and I've been years now trying to get back on track after hip flexor, lower back, and groin muscle injuries.

Tell him it's not all about your looks! but your well-being, too :D

Sara
http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=sblordita&x=0&y=0
 
Do what you want, girl! No matter what he says now...he'll agree that you look fabulous! No worries!:)

I agree with the other poster in that he is probably picturing a female body builder.
 
Well, I've been "working" (AKA: playing) from home the past couple of weeks, and decided to cut up my magazines and show him what I'm going to acheive...Like you all said, it's not muscle mania, just the definition down each side...Will have to see what he thinks...If he gets grumpy about it, just TRY to push me out of bed! I've been doing Chathe workouts...GRRRRR!!

Thanks, gals!
MJ
 
i would just continue to do what i want as far as exercise. hubby didn't think i needed to lose weight but since i have been working out i feel better about myself and that is way better to him then being chubby. i am sure he will love the way you look regardless.

kassia
When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
Hi--

My husband likes me at about 140 lbs (I'm 5'4) which is waaay to heavy for me(I prefer 120-125), but at least I feel less pressured than if he wanted me to look like something totally unattainable--like supermodel thin or Cathe cut or something my 37 year old, 6 kids endo/meso body is unlikely to do without extreme measures that I probably will not take.

However, he's never kicked me out of bed;-) ;-). He seems to desire me no matter what my size or body fat percentage--stretch marks, cellulite and all. So if I were you, I'd just continue to go for your goals. I doubt he'll put up that much of a fuss in the long run.

Good luck on the 6 pack.

Maggie:)
 
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