What would YOU have done?

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dss62467

Cathlete
Yesterday I took my 4 year old daughter to Chuck E. Cheese and while we were there, a 7 year old girl came up and asked if my dd would like to play with her. So they were playing together and I hung out and chatted with her very friendly grandfather (not an especially elder gentleman, probably in his early 60's). The girl was very friendly, generous and pleasant. DH met us there when he got out of work. DD and the other girl had been playing well together for at least an hour and when we were leaving, the girl asked for our phone number. So I wrote it down on a piece of paper for her and took her phone number.

On our way out, dh told me he didn't think it was a very good idea for me to be giving our phone number to a girl we just met. I really didn't think anything of it. The girl was sweet and in no way pushy (like a lot of the little girls we meet who want to play). Her grandfather was very nice (if not a little bit too interested in talking about how wealthy he seemed to be), but I sensed nothing to be wary of. Really though...would you tell a 7 year old child that you aren't going to give her your phone number so maybe she can play with your child (who liked her) again? I told my husband that it wasn't like I was giving our number to a guy I met in a bar!

DH wasn't mad or anything, but I really get irritated when he calls my judgement into question.
 
I don't see anything wrong with giving your phone number to the little girl so she can call your child. I think DH is just being overly cautious of his dear family.

Charlotte~~
 
I don't see anything wrong with it either. If I'd been in that situation, I would have given the little girl our phone number as well:)
 
Yeah, I'll bet that if he had been the one hanging out with grampa and the little girl for over and hour, he would have given our number too.

Thanks for making me feel better.
 
There's such a thing as being TOO cautious in life. If you find something to be cautious of in every situation, you could wind up missing life altogether. I'd advise your DH to relax a little.
 
A favourite piece of dialogue from Finding Nemo:

"I promised I'd never let anything happen to him!"
"Well, that's a funny thing to promise. If you never let anything happen to him, then nothing would ever happen to him. Not much for for little Harpo."

:)
 
I think what you did was just fine. I can understand why you feel frustrated by your DH's questioning. I hate to say "what's the worst that could happen," but really, what's the worst that could happen? The only bad thing I can imagine is some prank calls, but I highly doubt that since the girl was so nice. On the other hand, your daughter may have found a great new friend, and there's no harm in that.
 
My point exactly, Shelley.

Okay, Shelley, I'm thinking, can't be a watermelon rind cuz that's too big, but it can't be a lime rind cuz that's too small. What the heck is it???
 
>My point exactly, Shelley.
>
>Okay, Shelley, I'm thinking, can't be a watermelon rind cuz
>that's too big, but it can't be a lime rind cuz that's too
>small. What the heck is it???

LOL - oh, it's a lime rind all right. Here's a link to a bigger picture.

http://limecat.net/
 
I solve that kind of situation giving my email address instead. I would say my phone doesn't work or I will be moving (which is often true because hubby is in the Army and we move a lot). That is, if I didn't want to give my phone number. But not much damage can be made by phone.

But you didn't do anything wrong. That only tells you are a good person because you thought good about that people. I, too, hate when my husband questions me about how I behave when we are out or interact with other people, but then I think to myself: "Don't let your confidence drop for such a little thing. If DH is too critical, that's for him to work out. He does or says worse things and you (I) are still good enough not to question him or critizice him."
 
You witnessed the interaction between your daughter and the other young lady. What would be the difference if they were in a school yard? Nothing. They are children and at a young age, they are learning to communicate. Let them decide when to brake the relationship. Communicating starts at an early age and maybe some good habits are being formed. They could end up being best buddies later on in years and remember that day at her birthday party, they met. It's fine what you did.

~~TyTbody~~
Working towards Perpetual Motion
 
Nancy- that is so funny that you asked that! I just finished clicking on Shelley's avatar trying to get it to enlarge so I could try and figure out what was on that kitty's head!

Shelley- are you a caterer or something? That's some pretty impressive food carving.

Tracy
 
I thunk your istincts were just fine. I'd have swopped numbers too. I am not that overwhelmed with friends and neither are my daughters that we can shun friednship wherever it happens to present itself.

Clare
 
I agree with everyone else! What you did was fine and your DH probably would have done the same in your shoes. (I bet his feet would be hurting though!) ;)

Nadine

~~Happiness is an Attitude~~
 
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