gidget1978
Cathlete
I am going to make this as short as I can....
I have this "friend" (some of you already know what I am talking about but I thought I would post this here to get some opinions) our husbands own a business together, where my DH works and so does my friend. We have been friends for about 6-7 yrs, minus the couple of times I have pulled away from her and did my own thing.
Well, this past month we all took a trip to Fl together. Totally their idea b/c they were the ones going. They wanted to know if we wanted to go with them. The other good thing was that she was bringing along her 13 yr old cousin and I also have a 13 yr old daughter. In the end, her SIL and fam ended up coming with their 12 yr old daughter and 6 yr old son....so they all stayed together in the one house. While we rented a house, just down the st with my sister, her DH and their 6 month old.
We get there on a Mon, I talk to my "friend" on Wed, they already have their plans in place...and we do our own thing. Thurs I find out that just the "girls" in the house have gone shopping for the day. No one bothered to invite us (even though they knew we weren't doing anything) or even invite DD to tag along with the two other girls. Also before we went away, DD and the other 13 yr old had bit of an argument but had made up. We use to call them, to try and get the girls together and my "friend" would always say that when they got home, they would call and they would get together. So DD would sit around in her swim suit, waiting for a call that never came.
On Sun we went to visit them (been there a whole week, seen each other once and have done nothing together) and I made it quit clear that DD was bored (when we didn't go to the parks) again, they say "when we get home tonight we will call"...and they didn't call. We leave on Thurs morning to come home...still have done nothing with them...not even a drink in the evenings. I thought forsure that they would come by to say goodbye on Thurs morning but they didn't. When I get on the plane to turn my phone off, my "friend" as sent me a text saying that she wishes we had spent more time together, and that we will make up for lost time when we get home" This poisned me. I was so mad! Who text someone unless you are 14 yrs old? We are growen women and she is texting me???? I was rotted! I made it quit clear to her that DD's best day was the day prior when my brother and his 3 kids arrived in Fl and we spent the day at seaworld. Apparently my text ticked her off....but not nearly as much as her orignal text had sent my blood pressure soaring!
I never expected to do things with them day in and day out, but I would have atleast expected a day of shopping, or supper together...or a few drinks in the evening. My goodness, we were on holidays...if you can't make time for your friend who is staying 4 houses away, then when can you? I knew shortly after we arrived that we were totally on our own. The guys would touch base on a regular basis and have a couple of drinks at night, but we were never (me and my sister) included in anything. Most times I lay down with DS in the evenings and I would fall asleep with him.
We have been home for over 2 weeks now and we still haven't talked to one another. We spent alot of money by going when they wanted to go and staying in the town where they wanted to stay. My sister was trying to convince me to go later (with my brother) and stay in a different town but I kept saying "oh no...they invited us, we have to go with them" But why? I have no intentions of calling her. I am tired of trying at this relationship, if she can't see what she did wrong ( Im talking about leaving DD out) then I don't even care to bother with her. She tried talking to DH about this but he told her that he wanted nothing to do with it and she hasn't brought it up since.
I seen her the other day for the first time and she took off like a bolt of lightening. I did everything in my power not to tell her off. She claims that she isn't going to call me...and thats fine by me. I know at some point we will have to talk b/c we own a business together and we have mutual friends but do me a favor...don't call me your best friend!
Am I being unreasonable?
Lori
I have this "friend" (some of you already know what I am talking about but I thought I would post this here to get some opinions) our husbands own a business together, where my DH works and so does my friend. We have been friends for about 6-7 yrs, minus the couple of times I have pulled away from her and did my own thing.
Well, this past month we all took a trip to Fl together. Totally their idea b/c they were the ones going. They wanted to know if we wanted to go with them. The other good thing was that she was bringing along her 13 yr old cousin and I also have a 13 yr old daughter. In the end, her SIL and fam ended up coming with their 12 yr old daughter and 6 yr old son....so they all stayed together in the one house. While we rented a house, just down the st with my sister, her DH and their 6 month old.
We get there on a Mon, I talk to my "friend" on Wed, they already have their plans in place...and we do our own thing. Thurs I find out that just the "girls" in the house have gone shopping for the day. No one bothered to invite us (even though they knew we weren't doing anything) or even invite DD to tag along with the two other girls. Also before we went away, DD and the other 13 yr old had bit of an argument but had made up. We use to call them, to try and get the girls together and my "friend" would always say that when they got home, they would call and they would get together. So DD would sit around in her swim suit, waiting for a call that never came.
On Sun we went to visit them (been there a whole week, seen each other once and have done nothing together) and I made it quit clear that DD was bored (when we didn't go to the parks) again, they say "when we get home tonight we will call"...and they didn't call. We leave on Thurs morning to come home...still have done nothing with them...not even a drink in the evenings. I thought forsure that they would come by to say goodbye on Thurs morning but they didn't. When I get on the plane to turn my phone off, my "friend" as sent me a text saying that she wishes we had spent more time together, and that we will make up for lost time when we get home" This poisned me. I was so mad! Who text someone unless you are 14 yrs old? We are growen women and she is texting me???? I was rotted! I made it quit clear to her that DD's best day was the day prior when my brother and his 3 kids arrived in Fl and we spent the day at seaworld. Apparently my text ticked her off....but not nearly as much as her orignal text had sent my blood pressure soaring!
I never expected to do things with them day in and day out, but I would have atleast expected a day of shopping, or supper together...or a few drinks in the evening. My goodness, we were on holidays...if you can't make time for your friend who is staying 4 houses away, then when can you? I knew shortly after we arrived that we were totally on our own. The guys would touch base on a regular basis and have a couple of drinks at night, but we were never (me and my sister) included in anything. Most times I lay down with DS in the evenings and I would fall asleep with him.
We have been home for over 2 weeks now and we still haven't talked to one another. We spent alot of money by going when they wanted to go and staying in the town where they wanted to stay. My sister was trying to convince me to go later (with my brother) and stay in a different town but I kept saying "oh no...they invited us, we have to go with them" But why? I have no intentions of calling her. I am tired of trying at this relationship, if she can't see what she did wrong ( Im talking about leaving DD out) then I don't even care to bother with her. She tried talking to DH about this but he told her that he wanted nothing to do with it and she hasn't brought it up since.
I seen her the other day for the first time and she took off like a bolt of lightening. I did everything in my power not to tell her off. She claims that she isn't going to call me...and thats fine by me. I know at some point we will have to talk b/c we own a business together and we have mutual friends but do me a favor...don't call me your best friend!
Am I being unreasonable?
Lori
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