What is beautiful?
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Hi! I just wanted to ask couple of questions.
I read these posts and I feel anger, judgment, mockery, and rationalization in some of them. What is beautiful about that? If you are happy with how beautiful, healthy, fit, intelligent,... you are, then what is the point here? They can't change you, you can't change them, so why not leave it in peace and continue being the beautiful person you know you are?!
I read these posts and I feel anger, judgment, mockery, and rationalization in some of them. What is beautiful about that? If you are happy with how beautiful, healthy, fit, intelligent,... you are, then what is the point here? They can't change you, you can't change them, so why not leave it in peace and continue being the beautiful person you know you are?!
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Lizzie
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I agree that women are judged more on their looks, but I don't truly believe that it is ALL men who are judging us... women are to blame as well. Many women are competitive and "catty" when it comes to appearances, in fact I've read articles with polls of women who say that they sometimes dress more to impress the other women at parties than the men (I REALLY wish I could cite my source but I can't). I'm surely not generalizing this to all women, just trying to make the point that it's not just men who are to blame.
I started this post by telling everyone on here to go easy on themselves: take moderate exercise, eat moderately and not be so hard on yourselves if you missed a day of exercise or had a chocolate bar. It somehow kind of flowed into something rather funny where we talked about those people whose vanity annoyed us.
I am not offended. I welcome your input.
Yen
I am not offended. I welcome your input.
Yen
I think a lot of it is always wanting what we don't have - you know the ol' "grass is always greener on the other side" mentality. I've always been "stick thin," as someone put it earlier, but I was teased and ridiculed growing up as much or more as anyone who's overweight. People can be cruel. They either make fun of you because you're different ,or they mistreat you because you have something they think they want.
I'm with Yen - we can all be much happier if we can learn to accept our own unique beauty. Working out and eating right produce a healthy body which gives marvelous self-confidence. If you feel good about yourself, but you still put others first, it shows and people - men and women both - are attracted to that.
Angela
I'm with Yen - we can all be much happier if we can learn to accept our own unique beauty. Working out and eating right produce a healthy body which gives marvelous self-confidence. If you feel good about yourself, but you still put others first, it shows and people - men and women both - are attracted to that.
Angela
I agree with so much of what has been posted. I had an accident in Feb. and should have died, however, I'm still here! I'm thankful each day for being alive! One impact this event had on me was to nudge me to lose weight. I'd been "putting it off" for years. I worked out all the time, and was strong but fat. Instead of thinking "life is short so don't worry about the fat, just enjoy yourself" I started thinking "Life is short, and this is a goal I have and I need to get to it". I'm now 21# lighter and feel so good. Exercise is easier, I can wear cuter clothes instead of covering myself up,my cholesterol dropped from 230 to 155, and it has helped me attain other goals because my self-esteem has increased. I feel more "beautiful", although people I work around say "I never thought you needed to lose weight, you have always looked good." I may be losing track of what I'm trying to say - in short -I agree that looking great should not be an obsession, but there is a part of us that desires to look and feel attractive. I think balance is the key to all things. I feel very balanced at this point.
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honeybunch
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[font size="1" color="#FF0000"]LAST EDITED ON Oct-03-02 AT 02:09PM (Est)[/font][p]Good for you! I remember when you first started to participate in these forums and you wondered how you were going to fit exercise in. Guess you figured it out!
Hello Angela,
It's definitely true that we all want what we cannot have (I want to look like Cindy Crawford). However, I am realistic about my goals in that I can exercise to make my body look in better shape, but I can never grow taller or change my face shape. I know eating salads for the rest of my life will never get me there either so why bother?
What I am saying is don't deprive yourself of the things you enjoy and be accepting of who you are.
Yen
It's definitely true that we all want what we cannot have (I want to look like Cindy Crawford). However, I am realistic about my goals in that I can exercise to make my body look in better shape, but I can never grow taller or change my face shape. I know eating salads for the rest of my life will never get me there either so why bother?
What I am saying is don't deprive yourself of the things you enjoy and be accepting of who you are.
Yen