Hey JodyLynn,
It sounds like you've gotten some really good advice here, so far. There is only one piece of information that I want to disagree with.
As you begin to build muscle your body will need MORE not less calories to survive. HOWEVER, that being said, your body will burn those calories more efficiently if they are the right calories. As Connie said, get rid of the pop & oj. They are high in sugar and will actually sabotage your efforts.
Go ahead & eat, just start writing down everything you put in your mouth. You'll be surprised at how much you eat that is full of fat & calories. I don't eat a lot of so called "fat free" foods because those are high in sugar. The food industry has learned that to make those foods taste good they have to add sugar. So, I just watch how much I eat of those full fat foods.
I like to eat, too. I don't believe in deprivation. I eat smaller portions of ice cream & cookies so that I can still enjoy myself. LOL For instance, if we go out for ice cream, I've cut back to the little two scoop sundae instead of the 4 scooper. Instead of having 5 cookies, I'll eat 3. When I eat those three cookies, I savor them. I will actually let it "dissolve" in my mouth. The flavor is what it's all about. Instead of having a whole skinless boneless chicken breast (which is almost 8 oz), I'll have a half. I eat a lot of vegitables & baked potatoes instead of mashed. I do use fat free sour cream & I use I can't believe it's not butter spray for butter flavoring.
Simple things can go a long way to helping you. If you aren't willing to use portion control, you will never lose weight. That's what it comes down to. You don't have to give it all up, you just have to cut it down.
Good luck.