Calico
Cathlete
knowing very well that we may have to very possibly turn around and go back to NC next week for a funeral. She is the same still, the doctor still wants us to hold off til tomorrow with making a decision about letting her go. My brother and I had individual heart to heart talks with dad about letting her go and that we were ok with that, and while it will be hard it is necessary.
He understands now that the longer she is on dialysis that the possibility of her kidneys recovering even with a transplant are slim. She would need a first to be put back on the active list and then receive a liver within just a few days (a week is the most she could hope to have her kidneys recover fully), otherwise we are looking at longterm dialysis and not the greatest quality of life.
I also talked to him about letting her go, he is holding on very tightly to the slim chance that she will recover. I told him that sometimes the family has to tell the family member that it is ok to die, that we are ok with them letting go. Sometimes they are just holding on for the family's sake and that once they are told they can let go then they do. I also said that she needs to hear him say it, since all he has been doing is encouraging her to get better and stronger and I honestly don't think her body can fight much longer.
He then in his own way, let her go, after this I said that now if she does pull through then it is HER WILL to live and not her just hanging on for family, and if she chooses to let go then it is in her hands and not necessarily his. He kept saying that he had given her over to God and while I said that is well and good it is not the same as 'you' letting her go. I think he understood.
We are trying to get him to start the ball rolling with funeral plans but he is still hesitant to do that.
I will hear how things are going tomorrow when the 48 hour assessment is done.
Thanks for all the prayers they are felt!
He understands now that the longer she is on dialysis that the possibility of her kidneys recovering even with a transplant are slim. She would need a first to be put back on the active list and then receive a liver within just a few days (a week is the most she could hope to have her kidneys recover fully), otherwise we are looking at longterm dialysis and not the greatest quality of life.
I also talked to him about letting her go, he is holding on very tightly to the slim chance that she will recover. I told him that sometimes the family has to tell the family member that it is ok to die, that we are ok with them letting go. Sometimes they are just holding on for the family's sake and that once they are told they can let go then they do. I also said that she needs to hear him say it, since all he has been doing is encouraging her to get better and stronger and I honestly don't think her body can fight much longer.
He then in his own way, let her go, after this I said that now if she does pull through then it is HER WILL to live and not her just hanging on for family, and if she chooses to let go then it is in her hands and not necessarily his. He kept saying that he had given her over to God and while I said that is well and good it is not the same as 'you' letting her go. I think he understood.
We are trying to get him to start the ball rolling with funeral plans but he is still hesitant to do that.
I will hear how things are going tomorrow when the 48 hour assessment is done.
Thanks for all the prayers they are felt!
