Venting

Thank you,

For all the support here.

As time goes on and I can think better, I'm realizing more and more that there is something wrong with Joey. It was so out of character for him to do this. He has been the best husband anyone could have. If I know him the way I do, he must be feeling distraught as much I am. Shame and disbelieve comes to mind and a feeling of worthlessness.

I'm going to be OK physically, but it is taking a toll on me mentally. When there is no communication, nothing can be resolved. I don't know what is going on in his head.

I found out he didn't call his family to bail him out of jail. I called them to get him out of there. If it was left to Joey, he would still be in there where I'm sure he thinks he should be. He should be with loving family that care and want the best for him. From there healing can begin.

He's such a proud man, and leaning so heavily on his children will be more than he can handle. I'm sure he feels that it should be the other way around and he has let his family down.

Oh you guys this is so sad, and it's tearing me up. I want the best for Joey and for myself, we are truly good together. With all my heart and soul I know things will be OK. They just have to be. With your good vibes, positiveness and prayers are way, would be so appreciated.

I don't want to be a negative force on the forum only a positive one. So I'm going to try to be as I was and continue on from day to day until everything is resolved. One step at a time.

I'll keep you posted, Thank you again for all your concerns and heartwarming hugs.

Janie

The idea is to die young as late as possible

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{{{{{Janie}}}}}

What a horrible thing to happen!

I don't even know what to say. I've never known anyone personally (and I feel I know you, after chatting on the forums for so long) who has been abused (or at least who has talked about it).

Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe.

I understand your concern for your husband, since this is unusual, and drastic, behavior for him, but think of yourself first.

Sending you lots of protective vibes (my agnostic way of praying!).
 
janie,

first of all, not all posts have to be happy, happy, joy, joy. i find this a good place to come to when i need support. please don't try to mask your feellings or go on as if everything is alright.

i just want to reiterate what i said before. i do belive that for a man to become aggressive as joey did on this ONE occasion, there is something else wrong. please get him to a doctor, preferably a neurologist.

go with your gut. it sounds like it is telling you he is not "that" kind of man. there is something else going on and he probably neds your help to get to the bottom of this or he will just sit and beat himself up over it and blame himself.

we are all here for you.
 
Janie, my heart dropped reading this. I am so very sorry you went through this. No one EVER should have to tolerate this kind of treatment, period. Sending many hugs & good vibes your way. I am so glad you have a support system in place. Please continue to tell us how you are doing & remember we are always here to listen.


Debbie


Everyone is entitled to an opinion. It's just that yours is stupid.
 
Janie -- I am truly sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine the shock, but could clearly hear it in your post. I wish you both good healing and will say a prayer for you both.

Warm wishes and hugs,
Marla
 
Janie, count me in on thoughts & prayers coming your way for both you & Joey! You could never be a negative person here. As you see, you have lots of friends who care here. Take care of yourself and go do a good hard workout! :7 Thinking of you lots!


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Janie -

I'm so sorry to hear you're going thru this. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease as I've witnessed first-hand with my step MIL. I hope your husband gets the treatment he needs.

Sue
 
My personal experience with this situation is, once they start the hitting, they don't stop. I'd heard it before it happened to me, and it's true. I can't feel a whole lot of sympathy for him but for you I would suggest that you put some distance between you and him. This kind of behavior is a deal breaker, and I hope you take it very seriously. Sorry if this seems harsh, but I've walked in your shoes with this one. It starts with verbal abuse, you know, and you have said that there's been some intense anger between you. Is he a drinker by any chance?
 
Hi Janie,

Glad you're taking POSTIVE ACTION against this, with support from your family. Sometimes at times like this it's so easy just to crumble in a little heap. Wishing you relief from this awfully difficult situation. **Tons of hugs**
 
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