Shelley, I am sorry you are having such a hard time with the sale of your home. But it sounds like you have a good reason for selling it. Getting married to the right guy is well worth the headache of selling your house and start a "new" life.
I don't know where you are located, keep in mind, I can really only talk about my local market because that is what I am familiar with, however, many general real estate rules apply to a majority of markets.
There is a simple rule to real estate sales, what sells a house is location, price and condition. As a seller or an agent, you can't do anything about location, but you control 2/3 of the equation, price and condition. Condition also includes home staging and taking care of minor or major repairs. And in most cases, it really is minor things that throw off buyers in a tight market.
Normally, when you said that no one even looks at your house, my first thought was PRICE!!??? However, something struck me in your post when you said that you were surprised at how cluttered your house looked on the pictures. I know nothing about pricing in your area or your particular house but I just want to share from a professional point of view when I look for a home for a buyer.
In this market, in my area, say a buyer gives me a general parameter of a particular price range, 3 BR, 2 BA, I will pull up between 50 and 200 homes at any given time that fit this parameter. Whereas I may have seen or previewed about 1/3 of the homes currently on the market, I am going to have to narrow it down to a manageable amount of homes that I can show my clients in a day or two. I NEVER show more than 15 houses in a day because I don't want to overwhelm them, normally after 10 or 12 house, they don't remember what the first one looked like. So I narrow it down.
I will go through the whole list, look at the pictures (IF there are any) and the description in MLS. If there are no pix or the pictures don't look good and the house on pix doesn't look clean and uncluttered, I eliminate them for now. Odds are with showing 30 homes, my clients have found a home that they will purchase and they never get to see the home that looks unfavorable on pictures.
Again, not knowing your particular market, I would recommend to have a heart-to-heart with your agent. Ask tough questions, why am I not getting any showings, how do I compare to the other homes on the market, what do I need to do to compare more favorably to other homes on the market, what do you recommend I do to sell quickly .........? If you trust your agent, listen to his/her input. I would strongly recommend to hire a home stager and get your pictures/virtual tour retaken. I am kind of hesitant to say that, BUT if your agent is not up to the challenge, hire an agent who is!!! To quote Donald Trump, it is not personal, it is business.
In my market, I know that I have to hit the ground running. I know that every listing I take costs me between $ 1,000 to 1,500 in the first two weeks (home stager, professional pix and virtual tour, direct mail, flyers, advertising ....) I have a window of 90 days to be able to sell somewhere close to asking price, I go more than that, I KNOW it will be difficult, over 120 days I know my client will be scrambled eggs and toast, it won't be anywhere close to asking price. So I start reevaluating everything after 3 weeks and then weekly from there. Of course I want to get as much money as possible for my client but I also know, the longer I go the less money my clients will get!!! I get feedback asap from agents who have shown the house, I ask lots of questions and I read between the lines. I get the house on as many realtor tours as I can as soon as possible, get feed back. You have to be VERY fast in this market, there is no room for errors, in a declining market, every additional week will cost my client. I don't want to get to the point where we have to take every lousy offer!!
As I said, I am NOT a home stager, even after being present for 60+ consultations, this is what I have taken out of it
1. DECLUTTER everything, look at your closets and put everything in boxes that you don't need immediately (rent a storage unit or put it on one side of your garage) fold your towels and other items so they stack neatly, think Potterybarn sales room.
2. Take out everything that you don't need
3. Clean off everything off your countertops, you can leave your coffeemaker and other selected items but try and get as much off as possible.
4. Clear off everything in your bathroom, leave a couple of bottles of shampoo, bodywash but keep it to a minimum, put out some nice color coordinated towels, put everything that you use on a daily basis in a little basket, store it in one of your cabinets, take it out for usage and store it out of sight after you are done. Take your toidy brush, etc. out of sight, they are NOT decorator items , no matter how fancy they are.
5. Put fresh flowers on you kitchen island or kitchen table, get a bowl with fresh green apples or lemons and put them on your island or kitchen table, put some fresh flowers in your bathrooms as well, doesn't have to be a huge bouquet, just a flower or two to brighten it up.
6. Declutter, declutter, declutter, people don't want to see how much you can cram into a small space, people want to see how much room you have, THINK MODEL HOME
ShyWolf, I am glad you found YOUR realtor. I would love for you to interview another agent or two, just to get another perspective but if you are happy go with him.
What you said about visiting the model home community, I strongly recommend that you be represented by you own agent, if it is for nothing else than to actually have it spelled out what the contract means to you as a Buyer!!! The onsite sales person, no matter what they say, WILL represent the builder and the builder's contract protects the builder, no one else!!! If you have a good agent, not the questionable one that you had when you bought your first home, run it by it the new home sales person or have your agent talk to them. If you have a good agent, it will save you a LOT of money and a lot of aggrevation. In this market, at least in my market, whereas a few years ago, the builder would have kicked my sorry butt out together with my client, things have changed dramatically. I am not going into this on a public forum but if you pm me, I can tell you what happened to some of my client that will make you cringe. It made ME cringe!!!
If you cannot find a Home Stager in your area, PM me, I can pass it on to my home stager, she does a lot of training, I am sure we'll find you someone good.